"Ok, I have a problem admiting I am wrong"

[GenMarshall]

How does anyone go through accepting that they are wrong without throwing fits and denying certan facts?

I am wondering because I myself admit that I deny facts that I don't want to hear and continue to throw fits when faced with overwhelming proofs and facts. Mainly because I am just too darn proud and arrogant to admit that I am wrong or misguided.

Anyone got any experience with this?

 

[frob2900]

How does anyone go through accepting that they are wrong without throwing fits and denying certan facts?

I am wondering because I myself admit that I deny facts that I don't want to hear and continue to throw fits when faced with overwhelming proofs and facts. Mainly because I am just too darn proud and arrogant to admit that I am wrong or misguided.

Anyone got any experience with this?

Not since I was about 12-15.

Although being wrong is somehow considered to be "embarrasing", it shouldn't really. Unless, of course you are being paid to be right (e.g. a flight controller should be danged embarrassed if he gives wrong directions).

Often you learn by being wrong.

 

[GenMarshall]

Often you learn by being wrong.

But how can I do that while overcoming my Pride, Arrogance, and Ego?

 

[Kennigit]

Depends exactly what I'm wrong about. But I'm very stubborn & arrogant, so sometimes I can be reluctant to admit I'm wrong.

Of course, no one can go around without being wrong sometimes. Since it probably effects nothing in the long haul (or more like 1 hour from then), I just forget about it.

 

[frob2900]

But how can I do that while overcoming my Pride, Arrogance, and Ego?

What are you proud about? You shouldn't hinge your pride on random statements. Do something like learn to paint or play the guitar, then your pride is linked to something that won't vaporize if you make a wrong statement.

Ego is good, but only if you use it to whip yourself into doing constructive stuff. But again, your ego should hinge on e.g. doing a good job, being a good friend/helpful person or learning a cool hobby, not being right or superior in random situations.

Arrogance is your worst enemy.

 

[bhsup]

Like this, this, and this.

 

[kulade]

If you do not assert your beliefs so strongly, it will be far easier to admit you are wrong when proven so. My beliefs rotated 540° throughout my teenage years, and I would have gotten nowhere if I didn't secede my ideas when proven wrong. You'll look like far less of an idiot if you only state and defend your beliefs, not by putting your neck on the line for sake of argument.

 

[skadistic]

Like this, this, and this.

And with such grace.

 

[Bamspeedy]

Stop. Take a deep breath (walk away for a while if you need to), recollect your thoughts and actually try to see what their viewpoint is.

I've been wrong before and hated to admit it, other times I was right but I just needed to clarify it better, which is hard to do if emotions are running high.

Sometimes both viewpoints are right, it just depends on how the statistics are used, or what criteria is being used to make the argument.

Sometimes I know I was right, but I just gave up and walked away, even if it means letting the other side 'think' they won the argument.

 

[Japanrocks12]

suck it up and admit that you have nothing to gain from continuing to be wrong.

 

[TheDervish]

How does anyone go through accepting that they are wrong without throwing fits and denying certan facts?

I am wondering because I myself admit that I deny facts that I don't want to hear and continue to throw fits when faced with overwhelming proofs and facts. Mainly because I am just too darn proud and arrogant to admit that I am wrong or misguided.

Anyone got any experience with this?

You're in your own universe. Can I visit sometime?

 

[b etor]

yes, slowly count to ten or something. i just recite pi in my head or under my breath because it is familiar to me. taking deep breaths or stopping to think helps too.

 

[Red Door]

Just say "I'm wrong."

 

[b etor]

his ego gets in the way of that.

 

[PrincepsAmerica]

What are we supposed to tell you? This is such a non-topic.

You admit you're wrong by admitting it and you don't let your pride get in the way by not letting your pride get in the way. They're your emotions, only children and the mentally feeble can't control them in most situations.

 

[Eran of Arcadia]

I wouldn't know as I have never been wrong.

(Actually, today I learned that I have been very badly wrong about something pretty much my entire life. But I decided that actually, the universe was at fault for changing the truth when I wasn't looking.)

 

[nivi]

I rejct your reality and substitute my own!

 

[GenMarshall]

They're your emotions, only children and the mentally feeble can't control them in most situations.

Then I must still be a child since I always go into a fury when proven wrong. As MobBoss said I am "utterly incapable of recognizing that I am wrong and that [he] and others have proven you [me] wrong continually"

 

[Gogf]

Just realize that everybody is wrong sometimes. It's part of learning the right answer to things. If you feel defeated or upset, stop posting for a minute, and then take a couple deep breaths or a shower to calm down. Come back once you're not upset anymore and just admit that you were wrong; after all, there's no point in continuing to be wrong!

 

[Mirc]

Just say "I'm wrong."

You're wrong.




Seriously, CG, I think your problem isn't not admitting that you are wrong, but being afraid of being wrong. It's that simple.