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Son, I'm always right.

Anyways, what's the big deal? Discuss, don't discuss.... does it really matter in the long run?
It does and it doesn't. I'm playing a gamble, betting some serious time on a long-shot that a positive difference can be made. CFC matters to a lot of people, and those people's feeling matter. I passionately believe in the cause, even though I know it's not really my problem - but I hate to just remain silent.



Busy day today at my place...
How do we build better relationships between staff and members?
Analogous to how I complain about everything because it's all connected, most of this is the same answer as the last. [furrows brow, thinking] ...

...Beyond that? Hmm. One thing to think hard on, I reckon, is about positive incentives. I see a lot of negative incentives, I just reread the rules thread today (and while no big surprises in what I think of the ruleset, I did think the tone/attitude of how it was expressed was somewhat laudible) and there's a lot of 'this rule for this reason' and at least the part about sanctions didn't go on at painful length. It's not something that would come up in the rules, or in policy complaint threads, but I have to ask because I don't know - what do you do to encourage/slightly reward good behavior? :thumbsup: and stuff like that. Forum goodies that can be rewarded to members who do something simply wonderful? A million little things a staffer can do to attaboy good citizens, as little as posting "You have done well".

I ask because you MUST have good citizens, and the postive things you can say or do are a powerful tool - and a way to improve relations with members, not playing favorites, but rewarding the good citizens just a little for doing it right and projecting positivity and a friendlier atmosphere in the process. For me, well, my authority in my place ultimately derives from my big hammer (a metaphor for all punitive action, of course), sure, but I go out of my way to rule by reward and encouragement and persuasion. I never have to mention the hammer.

Except for that one troll - I thought for a second, typed "Enjoy your vacation, troll" and gave him a week, and that was the end of it, to date. Some things you don't screw around finessing.

So okay, I'm Police Chief Parker of Smallville, and Gotham City needs Commisioner Gordon. But Jim Gordon is a good man deternimed to do the right thing not the easy thing - when the Joker crippled his daughter, he told Batman "We're going to take him in by the book." Not the best example of working on good relations with the population of Gotham, but at least I got to talk about The Killing Joke, and fostering the image of scrupulousness is not something the staff here does best, I'm afraid.

How much encouragment and positivity projection would you say you're already doing? Rhetorically I ask, how much would you say other staffers do? The hammer should be the last resort in small things, if wielded with conviction in certain necessary big ones.

The hammer upsets people. Not just the bad ones. A kind word turneth away wrath.


Bj, if you're seriously interested in this, not as a test or a lesson, I'm going to need your help. I'm just conversing here, trying to close in at least closer to what you need, but you're demanding details, a weakness in my debating/persuasive position as an AC subforum hermit. You tell me more, and I'm in a position to tell you more.
 
...Beyond that? Hmm. One thing to think hard on, I reckon, is about positive incentives. I see a lot of negative incentives, I just reread the rules thread today (and while no big surprises in what I think of the ruleset, I did think the tone/attitude of how it was expressed was somewhat laudible) and there's a lot of 'this rule for this reason' and at least the part about sanctions didn't go on at painful length. It's not something that would come up in the rules, or in policy complaint threads, but I have to ask because I don't know - what do you do to encourage/slightly reward good behavior? :thumbsup: and stuff like that. Forum goodies that can be rewarded to members who do something simply wonderful? A million little things a staffer can do to attaboy good citizens, as little as posting "You have done well".

I ask because you MUST have good citizens, and the postive things you can say or do are a powerful tool - and a way to improve relations with members, not playing favorites, but rewarding the good citizens just a little for doing it right and projecting positivity and a friendlier atmosphere in the process. For me, well, my authority in my place ultimately derives from my big hammer (a metaphor for all punitive action, of course), sure, but I go out of my way to rule by reward and encouragement and persuasion. I never have to mention the hammer.
You might be interested in the discussions here on such things as a "thumbs up"/"like" feature, or even some years ago when some of us were booting around the idea of forum recognition awards.

The answer we got was basically this: "No. Because that would encourage/promote ELITISM." :run:

And apparently, giving someone (or a group of someones) praise for good posts, improvement of some kind, or creativity is a Bad Thing.

The threads are here in Site Feedback, although I'm not sure just how far down the recognition discussion is; it happened quite awhile ago.
 
You might be interested in the discussions here on such things as a "thumbs up"/"like" feature, or even some years ago when some of us were booting around the idea of forum recognition awards.

The answer we got was basically this: "No. Because that would encourage/promote ELITISM." :run:

And apparently, giving someone (or a group of someones) praise for good posts, improvement of some kind, or creativity is a Bad Thing.

The threads are here in Site Feedback, although I'm not sure just how far down the recognition discussion is; it happened quite awhile ago.
Found some:

Awards!
A Modest Proposal
Awards for Members
I have an idea (CFC OT Member of the Year Poll.)

A quick glance will tell us that the third thread was the most productive, and generated the most enthusiasm. The fourth thread also generated a decent amount of discussion.

I still believe that something could be made to work. Obviously a lot of the people who posted in these threads aren't here anymore, and some who were once regular members are now on staff. Some of the moderators who posted are either no longer here, or are now regular members. I don't recall when Birdjaguar became a moderator, but from his posts, it would seem that he started his thread before that time.

It's been years between discussions about proposals like these. Positive recognition definitely gives people an incentive to make good posts.

Anyway, this post isn't intended to hijack the thread away from PDMA, just to offer information.
 
If punishment is freely available and often mentioned/handed out, and good behavior rarely praised, let alone somehow actually rewarded, -- well, hammer management is infinitely better than invisible/lax/no management, but it's not really very good psychology, and smacks of an attitude that we Must Be Kept in Our Place. I've been trying to say that all along, but it's one of those things that I find so obvious that it's difficult on a near sisyphean level to talk about to people who don't see it. (That's a real thing; what do you say to a Flat Earther?)

The hammer is a negative message that keeps people in line; praise and encouragement is positive. Which would you say is more conducive to happiness, the positive or the negative?

Most of what I was saying in my last was not about Formal Recognition, but fostering a culture where people and mods freely and often express approval when approval is warranted and bring up the energy in that room. I note that I am Officially Forbidden by the rules to quote your post and only give it a :goodjob: or a simple "I agree." or "QFT" or "Good post". Expressing accord is sometimes all I have to add, and is not nothing or spam, and a rule forbidding is very, IMAO, unnecessary, silly, and ultimately counterproductive.

So keeping in mind that I'm more interested in the general forum culture paradigm than Formal Recognition:

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Well, that first thread is just sad. Elite elite elite echo chamber.



The second is a lot better. There's little of the thoughtless reflexive dismissal. IMO, the suggestion ought to be allowed and tried, keeping in mind that nothing has no downside and nothing is immune to abuse. Arguments to that effect ignore that those arguments can be made against ever doing or changing anything, ever, and it appears to be CFC's default attitude to any suggestion of reform, always.



Awards for Members: Nothing wrong with the idea, though again, I'm on more about leadership and the culture than Formal Recognition. The latter, however, should be part of the staff toolkit, to the extent anyone can be bothered/is willing to do the work. The proposal is to take positive action and "reward behavior that supports the goals of CFC and appropriate and desired behavior", which is exactly the attitude I'm suggesting.

Too bad that "Sex pig awards are necessary." got no traction. Loads of great ideas just on the first page. "I think member appreciation is a better description. Awards leave people sour and is kinda cliquish." :goodjob: Birdy is rising even higher in my estimation.

Hmm. Mostly fairly reasonable talk about the potential for troublemakers to make trouble. That always needs to be accounted for in planning. However, perhaps there's a major factor not considered that in a place where everything is forbidden, it's human nature to look for loopholes always? At 48, I am still not immune to feeling that impulse - not because I am bad, but because everything is forbidden; it's all too easy to take it as a dare, isn't it?.

I've been at this for hours, what with multitasking, so I'm going to go ahead and post while I'm only halfway through this thread, but I am going to finish reading it. This is full of really interesting information, and I thank you for the links, Valka.



I have an idea (CFC OT Member of the Year Poll.): Immediately pooped on by a mod; lovely. It starts getting a little more reasonable, though - the concerns raised about popularity contests have some validity, and the elitism arguments aren't entirely straw men for any of these ideas, (a problem with all the Official Recognition ideas) but it's unfortunate that no one talks about the merit of the spirit of the notion, rewarding virtue. Member badges/awards/whatever in that line are not the goal; fairness and happiness is. Camikaze talks a lot of sense in there.

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(Reading everything, especially while multitasking to attend to my own duties, was quite a long job.)

A more balanced culture where praise and informal recognition was actually allowed and even encouraged would be a happier one, and I urge the leadership to lead in this.

Is it needed? Of course not. No more than the Academy Awards, the Nobel Peace Prize, the Booker Prize, or any lesser-known public acknowledgments.

Is it appreciated? Yes, it is.

Does it foster good will? Generally, I like to think that a public pat on the back does foster good will.

Would some posters be inclined to improve their behavior in hopes of receiving this sort of recognition? Probably most wouldn't care. But if even one or two people improve, I think that alone makes the exercise worth the effort.

Think of it as "carrot INSTEAD of stick."
:goodjob: I agree. QFT. Good post.
 
Some extracts:
(but forum games awards could be done too)
This has been done in the past, and none of the staff ever complained about it. Of course, the mafia subsection is pretty much left to fend for itself.
I am anxiously awaiting the day when Perfection's count hits 30,000.
How do you know it ever will?
And this shows that our mods can be wrong about our posters' capabilities once in a while.
 
Hmmm. I've made it up to page 11 of Awards for Members (busy day on Dung Mountain) and Psyringe's point is actually similar to the one I've made, albeit far more limited - awards aren't the answer. Singling out a smallish number of model citizens would do far more good than harm, IMAO, and the attitude discussed of doing it in a spirit of fun is excellent, but the simple habit of praise wherever and whenever it is deserved in a broad paradigm shift of the forum culture is better. -And do some fun awards things too, as a far lower priority than the just being positive, but a useful tool in the site leadership's kit.-

(Ethically necessary disclosure: I hate when awards are passed out because I never win anything and I often see people recognized who have put far less than I into whatever enterprise - and yet, I think that's a factor to be considered in planning, NOT a reason to not try it. My sullen resentment is my problem, and should not prevent attempts to reward those deserving.)

I know and respect Psyringe, a SMACer, and he's not wrong here:
I believe that everyone who does something good deserves positive feedback - *everyone*, every member of CFC who does something good, and *not* only some few guys who are lucky enough to win a vote and get an award. Your concept of artificially *limiting* positive feedback by creating awards that can only be won by one person each is totally counter-productive to that, because it unnecessarily creates envy, disappointment, and distrust. I simply don't see why you can't just give people direct positive feedback based on their actions, this would achieve l the goals you want to achieve without these assorted risks. So why do you have to also tell people that they did better than others (and tell the others that they did worse than the winners) by singling out members for "awards"?

Not wrong at all:
thank people in the respective threads for valuable contributions. Positive feedback doesn't need a badge to reinforce good actions. This can be done without any additional workload to the mods, and would work just as well. It wouldn't offer the easy recognition you're after, but I'm not that fond of that anyway. I'd vastly prefer this suggestion over an institutionalized award system because it doesn't share most of the disadvantages of the award system

Incidentally, newb-bashing is a hanging offence at AC2, and I would have (gently as possible) have stepped on what was getting said to a newer member on pages 10 & 11 before I had to tie a noose.

Well, finished now, that was a very educational read, well worth my time. Thanks again for the link.


I've never intended to imply that there isn't much, a mountain, that CFC does right. Success is success.

However, there's no way to point out problems without pointing out problems and the buck rightly ought to stop on the president's desk. Attempts at establishing the existence of problems, alas, subject you to drive-by 'whining' accusations, which is really helpful, BTW, but is the price of doing business.

Now, let's kick around some improvements...
 
Birdjaguar said:
How do we build better relationships between staff and members?
Analogous to how I complain about everything because it's all connected, most of this is the same answer as the last. [furrows brow, thinking] ...

...Beyond that? Hmm. One thing to think hard on, I reckon, is about positive incentives. I see a lot of negative incentives, I just reread the rules thread today (and while no big surprises in what I think of the ruleset, I did think the tone/attitude of how it was expressed was somewhat laudible) and there's a lot of 'this rule for this reason' and at least the part about sanctions didn't go on at painful length. It's not something that would come up in the rules, or in policy complaint threads, but I have to ask because I don't know - what do you do to encourage/slightly reward good behavior? :thumbsup: and stuff like that. Forum goodies that can be rewarded to members who do something simply wonderful? A million little things a staffer can do to attaboy good citizens, as little as posting "You have done well".

I ask because you MUST have good citizens, and the postive things you can say or do are a powerful tool - and a way to improve relations with members, not playing favorites, but rewarding the good citizens just a little for doing it right and projecting positivity and a friendlier atmosphere in the process. For me, well, my authority in my place ultimately derives from my big hammer (a metaphor for all punitive action, of course), sure, but I go out of my way to rule by reward and encouragement and persuasion. I never have to mention the hammer.

Except for that one troll - I thought for a second, typed "Enjoy your vacation, troll" and gave him a week, and that was the end of it, to date. Some things you don't screw around finessing.

So okay, I'm Police Chief Parker of Smallville, and Gotham City needs Commisioner Gordon. But Jim Gordon is a good man deternimed to do the right thing not the easy thing - when the Joker crippled his daughter, he told Batman "We're going to take him in by the book." Not the best example of working on good relations with the population of Gotham, but at least I got to talk about The Killing Joke, and fostering the image of scrupulousness is not something the staff here does best, I'm afraid.

How much encouragment and positivity projection would you say you're already doing? Rhetorically I ask, how much would you say other staffers do? The hammer should be the last resort in small things, if wielded with conviction in certain necessary big ones.

The hammer upsets people. Not just the bad ones. A kind word turneth away wrath.


Bj, if you're seriously interested in this, not as a test or a lesson, I'm going to need your help. I'm just conversing here, trying to close in at least closer to what you need, but you're demanding details, a weakness in my debating/persuasive position as an AC subforum hermit. You tell me more, and I'm in a position to tell you more.
Relationships are built one at a time and passed from person to to person by word of mouth and then experience which either confirms the relationship or not. The mod to member relationship begins when staff selects a mod. In my opinion the staff selection process is mostly good. Mods are chosen because the staff feels that they have shown dedication to CFC; they seem to get along with the membership; they post thoughtfully; they follow the rules; and the staff thinks they will get along with the existing staff. The goal is a staff that can work together to keep the forum running smoothly and contain the problems. I do not recall that there has been substantial discussion about how well a mod would/could build strong relationships with the general membership. I do not have a great track record in selecting new mods, so I let others do the heavy lifting now. I do think that we need to add "relationship building" as a bigger part of our selection process though. It is far easier to talk about how we should do things than to actually do them in practice every day.

If mods are participants in the communities they moderate, I think it helps them build stronger relationships and be a more effective moderator. And after we select the best candidates, that is the next step: make sure that they can build those one to one relationships that will lead to more and more strong relationships that make moderating both easier and less intrusive. I moderate threee forums: NES, OT and IOT. For me, IOT is the hardest because they are all crazy I know them the least and cannot figure out how their games actually work. I am still an outsider there. They gave me a warm reception though and that helped.

So I think two things need to happen here. first we need to encourage our staff to think more about relationship building and how one does that. If you don't know, you do it the same way you do it person; be kind, be polite, respectful, listen and try not to do stupid stuff in public. On the member side, you all need to also make the effort to be respectful, listen, be polite, and don't do stupid stuff in public. All of us have to make the effort to allow folks to change and grow. It is not one sided. You cannot wait for the other guy to begin. You have to begin and be patient. Growing relationships is a joint venture between mods ands members. Both parties need to want to do it. The best approach is to start with someone specific and as a mod, I would try to show a new face to that person and treat them like I actually did care. By changing one person's experience you can more easily change others' too. It is not quick and the results will take time to show. It takes courage and perseverance.

Having such a goal will change the way staff moderates and should change the way members respond to moderator actions. In a more perfect world, the mod actions will be less severe and members will be more responsive when a mod "speaks."
 
I recall that the maligned, persecuted and abused OT conservative minority also spoke against a reputation system, since it would increase the already existing circlejerk of arrogant, elitist, smug PC liberals.
 
I'm guess it's possible that some conservatives may have asked for the governing authorities around here to affirmatively act in a manner that regulated the liberty to have a free market determination of rep.
 
I recall the reputation system thing being mentioned in the early days of the Frog Pond - I opposed it from life experience indicating that I'd lose big. You can't be as active as I was without annoying many, no matter HOW genial a citizen you were, or how well you played by the rules and tried to make the place better.

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Not that it matters here, but I just became an owner of AC2. sisko and I have shaken virtual hands on the deal and I just paid my first server bill. All this management shop-talk here, and the closing of CGN and the hacking of 'poly in the same month, had me thinking about how S.O.L. I'd be if something happened to my partner, and I decided to step up and put my money where my mouth is. Now if he got hit by a bus, I have four guys tech-savvy and trust-worthy enough that I could appoint another Admin and soldier on. SO, I am now officially Consul Poop.

I hope Thunderfall has some contingency plan in place - if a bus got him, that would be great for my place in the short term, but several thousand people would still have a really crappy month the first time a bill got overdue.

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[*]What results are reasonable and even possible for either of these efforts?
Well.

What do you expect me to say to that? The rules here suck, everything being forbidden, but it's become clear that they're not the real problem - it's become clear that your private staff areas are far, far more active than anything I've ever set foot in, and an daunting level of groupthink is SOP. To phrase that more carefully, there's impressive message discipline coming from the staff - alas, TF is displaying an unfortunate attitude even if he's not using his own brain and fingers to talk to me.

See, and this is actually going somewhere on topic to the question, I've realized that the oppressive ruleset isn't the real problem - a broken system (over-thought and over-complex) and what looks to be problem staff morale (based on the staff's own large-majority-of-those-speaking-up testimony) is the problem. That's the only conclusion (other than massive lying) I see that can reasonably be drawn.

(I've got a bulletin for all the citizens playing at home - forum management everywhere most always prevaricates on the following point, and that does not exclude me - to tell the truth for once, being in charge is mostly GREAT if you're doing it right. You have to place some serious limits on your own freedom if you care about taking your responsibilities seriously and doing a good job, and you spend a lot of time being a janitor, which isn't so bad and it's no lie about the headaches of the job, but you get your way a lot more, you see dead people, and you know a lot more of what's going on. You're higher in the pecking order of the site, and the added immunity you gain from getting stepped on tends to be a plus. [shrugs] I'm just deducing/speculating, but I hear a lot of management unhappiness, and I have to think something's wrong there, 'cause moderating ought to be sort've fun.)

I just see absolutely no sign of that unhappiness with my own small staff - everyone actually active seemed to react very positively to being empowered, and has stayed active.

So Bird, I have an answer, that a five times happier CFC five times bigger as a result is possible. Reasonable is a question I don't think you can answer a lot better than I - it's all up to the owner.

For the nearly zero my opinion is worth, I think if the lot of you would seriously unlax and tell YOURSELVES that it's only the internet, you'd end up not only running the place more to the benefit of the membership, but being happier and easier to be in the same virtual room with. Absolutely keep taking care of business, but try really hard to go all Teddy Roosevelt on the moderating - speak softly and carry a big stick (mostly behind your back, s'il vous plait). Ask yourself as you go about your duties: "Would it really hurt anything to give a little slack on this rule? Could I head off this situation by just posting and asking them to tone it down and/or be a little nicer?" (PMs are invisible management - a gentle post instead is visible leadership.) "Am I not making work for me or another mod when my directive for almost everything is to take it to PMs or the Report Button? Wouldn't it be less rude to briefly explain the rule to this sinner who doesn't seem to MEAN to make trouble instead of modshouting and linking the rules? Is not nearly everything on this site made unnecessarily complex by our lack of flexibility, which makes the people less happy and us a lot less happy?"

Less procedure and more conversation with the plebs in the management style is what I'm suggesting. Doing something about the rules can wait a little.

So my position has evolved that much; I'm not calling for a paradigm shift in the way the entire site is run anymore, but a paradigm shift in the tone of the conversations in the staff room. If you guys can get permission to relax and be a little more easygoing, all the rest will take care of itself, I think.
 
Regarding ^^^

I don't seem to be able to attach your thinking to any of my previous post, but I will soldier on. In my time as a moderator, the biggest difference between the staff forum and the regular OT forums is that in staff everyone is polite. There is no group think; there is no "we don't do that here" lock step; and there is certainly no consensus among the staff that there is one way to things. When it comes to specific moderation actions generally, a small group will reach a consensus on what will be done (or not done). On larger issues there is a larger discussion that pushes towards a consensus. I've found that on tough issues like banning DLs, swearing, PDMA, permanent points, the admins will listen and provide a reasonable solution to the dissonance.

We have fought the same battles over and over much like threads in OT. There are more than one who know too well my positions on DLs and would just as not hear them ever again.

The change you want does not happen in staff. It happens to staff and to members. If I were king and all the mods worked in my building, I could command change, but moderation does not work that way. we are diverse; we work across many time zones; we have never met; we all see our roles a bit differently than those working with us. But even if every mod adopted a new way of thinking about the job, unless members are willing join in the change, it will not work. 10 or 12 renegades can be handled, but the 5x happy you want can only come about if somebody throws the pebble into the pond and others follow.
 
I'd saved your previous post, but haven't gotten to responding to it yet, being caught up on working through your questions, and phailing spectacularly to be focused and/or succinct - as I think I've been clear about, stuff is going on at my place, and we're having our busiest month ever. I'm doing the best I can under the circumstances. Sorry.

Read my last again and think about all I've said about leadership. There's my pre-existing first-draft answer to your latest. It's, appologies, ridiculous to expect the members to do the changing first or even simultaneously. Lead, man. Take the wheel. You can do it. ThunderFall can do it. You guys have already won - CFC is way, way on top. Some introspection won't hurt anything; take your time, but think and then do. Don't let it slip through the cracks. There is a better way, and you can find it.

I've been shoveling pebbles as hard as I could...


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Okay, and a thing I couldn't fit into my last - my degree is in Communications and I've worked public relations; message discipline is very important when many speak representing a group, but the message the staff is passing around these days -and for several years now, from what I've read- has a lot of problematic aspects, and needs a good looking over.

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I saw somebody from the staff doing his homework at AC2 yesterday. It kinda sucks that he's apparently talking in the staff room and not to me.
1) I'd be interested in feedback. 2) That's certainly how you go about circling the wagons, (and I know how it is when there's something unusual going on on the boards; you need to talk it over), but not so much with the square dealing and being open to reason. I'm just sayin'.

Also 3) he didn't post over there. :(
 
I'd saved your previous post, but haven't gotten to responding to it yet, being caught up on working through your questions, and phailing spectacularly to be focused and/or succinct - as I think I've been clear about, stuff is going on at my place, and we're having our busiest month ever. I'm doing the best I can under the circumstances. Sorry.

Read my last again and think about all I've said about leadership. There's my pre-existing first-draft answer to your latest. It's, appologies, ridiculous to expect the members to do the changing first or even simultaneously. Lead, man. Take the wheel. You can do it. ThunderFall can do it. You guys have already won - CFC is way, way on top. Some introspection won't hurt anything; take your time, but think and then do. Don't let it slip through the cracks. There is a better way, and you can find it.

I've been shoveling pebbles as hard as I could...

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Okay, and a thing I couldn't fit into my last - my degree is in Communications and I've worked public relations; message discipline is very important when many speak representing a group, but the message the staff is passing around these days -and for several years now, from what I've read- has a lot of problematic aspects, and needs a good looking over.
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I saw somebody from the staff doing his homework at AC2 yesterday. It kinda sucks that he's apparently talking in the staff room and not to me.
1) I'd be interested in feedback. 2) That's certainly how you go about circling the wagons, (and I know how it is when there's something unusual going on on the boards; you need to talk it over), but not so much with the square dealing and being open to reason. I'm just sayin'.

Also 3) he didn't post over there. :(
You raise the question of how to begin and emphasize that it has to begin with staff and I don't disagree. I think the roughest spots in the relationships between staff and members are well known. I would expect the moderators to make the first steps and try to rebuild or perhaps begin building better relationships based on the 5X goal. but if that is going to work, the specific members must be willing to accept the efforts in good faith.

If you have correctly identified a CFC mod visiting your site and I will admit that I have done so, but not yesterday, you should not jump to your conclusions about what that actually means. It could mean that your site is just getting a traffic boost through an effective marketing plan you are unfolding here in SF ;) . A mod visiting certainly doesn't mean that CFC staff are circling any wagons (they aren't). You raised my curiosity and I went to see what it was all about. I did not read any of the AC threads. The most interesting was your rules discussion thread that you started last Nov? and ran up to now, or at least recently. It is like many of the ones we have had here. Different names, but many of the same themes.

IMO your biggest short coming is the slow pace that is tied to it being small. I hope all this attention will give you a permanent boost. If you can pull off what you want in leadership, then I'm sure many of our OTers would find a better moderated version of our OT in your Recreation Commons. Hint hint guys, go take a look. The link is in Buster's sig.

Note: After my last post in which I made the statement that staff was like OT, but more polite, I received a pm taking me to task for it. I was reminded that there was a brief period several years ago in which there was considerable rancor and ill will among some of the staff. Most of the mods involved in that ruckus are no longer active. I was one and I am still here though.

So I must amend my statement to say that in the years that I have been a mod, staff discussions have been mostly polite. As I was thinking about that time, it was interesting to see how differently folks remember the past and the memories that they hold on to and the ones they forget. We all use our memories to fuel our present and drive our future. I stand corrected on the matter. All has not been perfect in staff.
 
I think if the lot of you would seriously unlax and tell YOURSELVES that it's only the internet

You have to place some serious limits on your own freedom if you care about taking your responsibilities seriously and doing a good job
[...]management unhappiness[...]

God, that sounds so hopelessly conceited, but I don't know a better way to make the point. By treating them with respect, we draw a crowd who makes managing them as easy as could be imagined. -It'll never happen here, because the culture is all wrong.

Note: a lackluster, not-really-trying attempt, just to shut people up would be a lie. An honest attempt to make it work is the right thing to do, AND if you're proved wrong by the trial succeeding, the people will notice your integrity and trust you that much more the next time.

That's leadership.

I did open my comments in this thread by insulting the entire staff, and I am comparing CFC to a totalitarian state at the same time, yes. As I implied about taunting Yang, I believe that a genuinely strong person can afford to be gentle, as Julius Caesar was in showing his enemies mercy. A need for minute control of every trivial aspect of everything -in a social setting, of all things, which is what this place ultimately is- is a sign of weakness and/or insecurity. [shrugs] I don't say it out of malice; I do to perhaps shock people into questioning themselves.

It's very important that you understand that I'm articulating the straight-up overwhelming perception in the rest of the Civ community, that CFC is the CivCentration Camp.


I think if the lot of you would seriously unlax and tell YOURSELVES that it's only the internet

Yeah, that.
But that honestly doesn't sound very convincing coming from the person who's been making a fuss about this for 10 pages.
 
Yeah, that.
But that honestly doesn't sound very convincing coming from the person who's been making a fuss about this for 10 pages.

+1

It is not like anyone can correctly speak even for the people around him in RL. Let alone some hundreds of forum members on the internet. Demonstrating the futility of making up a fantasy of what the forum is supposed to be like in any commonly-shared way of perception, is all this thread seems to amount to.
 
I make no apologies for engaging in discussion on a forum. There's a difference between that and echoing something staffers say back at them. Trying to echo an echo un-ironically is ironic.

IMO your biggest short coming is the slow pace that is tied to it being small. I hope all this attention will give you a permanent boost. If you can pull off what you want in leadership, then I'm sure many of our OTers would find a better moderated version of our OT in your Recreation Commons. Hint hint guys, go take a look. The link is in Buster's sig.
This is a dirty, dirty trick on your part, Buster is my niece, and life being a complex thing, I'd been in here a week before I thought of any possible promotional side effects. I fancy that promotion is one of the things I do best, and I wouldn't have chosen to do a "you suck" promotion - I'm perfectly aware of what a jerk I seem to those who don't want to hear my message, and if you don't like me, you probably won't like my place. And if I thought my only/best chance of growing my forum was headhunting CFC, I'd settle for having a small shop forever or find another hobby.

Again, dirty trick, and that's only half a joke. AC2 is a specialty forum focused on a single game, and I daresay our activity level is impressive, given that and how briefly we've been building it. Naturally, we would like a livelier Rec Commons than we have, and all are welcome - I'm willing to gamble on whomever takes your bait, Bj. Perhaps we will learn something.

As I've already spoken to, my motivational set is complex, but in the main I am tilting at this windmill for exactly the reason I've proclaimed all along. I think There is a Better Way.

More later as time permits.
 
Yeah, that.
But that honestly doesn't sound very convincing coming from the person who's been making a fuss about this for 10 pages.
It's only 6 pages for me. You should reset your preferences, and then the thread wouldn't seem so long.

At least Buster's Uncle hasn't been consistently saying, "If it's not important to ME, it's just not important, and doesn't matter."

You raise the question of how to begin and emphasize that it has to begin with staff and I don't disagree. I think the roughest spots in the relationships between staff and members are well known. I would expect the moderators to make the first steps and try to rebuild or perhaps begin building better relationships based on the 5X goal. but if that is going to work, the specific members must be willing to accept the efforts in good faith.
And if it's the other way around...?

IMO your biggest short coming is the slow pace that is tied to it being small. I hope all this attention will give you a permanent boost. If you can pull off what you want in leadership, then I'm sure many of our OTers would find a better moderated version of our OT in your Recreation Commons. Hint hint guys, go take a look. The link is in Buster's sig.
Well, I've certainly been enjoying the place. The "6 degrees of separation" concept resulted in reconnecting with people I corresponded with via snailmail over 25 years ago, and it's wonderful. And I am determined to learn SMAC (just found my discs, which were packed away for a long time).
 
If punishment is freely available and often mentioned/handed out, and good behavior rarely praised,
Perhaps we could create a new staff category, Praisers, whose mission to to find good posts and praise them. It would likely be easier to get suitable volunteers than for moderators. When The Duke of Wellington retired from public serve, and was asked what he would have done differently, he said "I should have given more praise."
 
I'm not sure that idea isn't sheer genius. I have trouble imagining it working, and I think it would only address a small aspect of what I've been talking about, and could easily undermine some of the rest, but it would not be nothing.

Perhaps a staff ombudsman would be doable? Go look up how that works at newspapers that have one; if someone wise, trustworthy, and even-handed enough can be found, the perception of justice at CFC could profit enormously.

...

Bj, your talk of the polite staff room discourse is troubling, as the internal logic and my experience of human nature both say no way. I bow to the top managers if they've achieved that. I've been in a couple staff areas myself, and frankly, half of what a staff room is for is so the staff can fight issues out and not undermine each other in doing it in public, and some of the rest is a safe place for blowing off steam badmouthing annoying members. And then there's the passing around of PMs members thought were between them and a staffer, for purposes of discussion or ridicule, often both. I've seen where it had been done to me before I came in, which was great fun. Heinous, vicious, excrement goes down in staff rooms, and it's nearly impossible to credit assertions to the contrary where the staff seems so burned out and hostile. It appears that either the groupthink charge has some weight, or someone's not being entirely honest. I believe I've been insulted if you thought I was dumb enough to swallow that, but your masters cannot fault you for trying.

Moving on...

What is the best response for those who are slow to be responsible for what they say and do here?
This is too vague a question to answer usefully in any detail, keeping in mind all the principles I've already articulated.

Some of them you'll probably end up having to go Zeus on, but I regard any situation where I have to assert my authority as a failure on my part. You can't know everyone in a place as busy as CFC, which is a pity, because knowing a member is central for coming up with tactics to best handle that member. One of my favorites at Dung Mountain is a frequent drunk poster (I think); a few times I've needed to PM him to point out that over-frank public discussion of subject X embarrasses AC2. He probably would have gotten permabanned a long time ago at CFC -HE thinks so- but the thing is, this guy is on the bus and all about the community. He contributes a lot. His late night rampages are far more entertaining than problematic, and his heart is in the right place. I can usually work with anyone whose heart is in the right place.

I'm trying to say that different tactics work for different posters, and you need a worthwhile sense of who you're managing to take the subtle aproach. Most people are worth getting to know.

So the short answer is patience. You never know who will have an epithany if you work with them, should their sins not be serious, but more a problem in the aggregate. You always have your obsidian sword-club to fall back on, but once that's been used, the just talking to them tends to be sabotaged.

How do we treat those for whom the opportunity to speak out is more important than the community?
If by that you mean trolls and other self-centered problem members, the short answer is get rid of them, but short answers are usually evil, in that we are nerds and want things to be that simple, and we are capable of doing much wrong to people over matters of principle.

Let me say this: you're still not entirely sure of my motives and whatnot, and I'm not entirely sure of yours. We don't really get 100% certainty of other people in this life, and we have to make some suppositions. Even if I wasn't talking about nerds on innerwebs forums, I can never be sure whether that rude guy over there is actually hateful or just from New Jersey (not a slam on Joizy; cultural standards differ, which doesn't make any standard inherently wrong, provided other standards are considered when needed). I have a lot of eastern European friends, even know a few in RL, and (broadly speaking) their cultural standards of civility are radically different than the "What you mean, suh?" culture of which I am a product. -But I can get along fine with those guys; they don't play casual social games, you know where you stand pretty well, and if they make a habit of casual minor rudeness to you, it means they like you, or they wouldn't be talking to you so much. And they're thick-skinned. I can work with them; they play fair.

All of which is my long-winded way of pointing out the presumtion in your question that you correctly read the intent of the entire set of someone else's behavior.

I've met a lot of trolls who were worth talking to; I don't think I've converted many from the dark side, but I've had a few privately tell me I'm okay at the end of the raid. (The best counter I ever saw to a truly malicious and implacable troll, BTW, was when one started several dicey, not quite closeable/bannable but dicey, threads, and someone [on staff and leading, as it happened] fired off a few PMs to many of the usual OTf supects reminding not to feed, and said troll only got one bland reply to one of something over ten posts - the raid was over almost instantly, and the troll threads sank out of sight, neglected, alone and unloved.)

That guy who is very active, one might say spammy, and not all that well behaved? I'm thinking of a specific (now permabanned) member here whom I would love to have at AC2. He and I would quarrel frequently enough, I think, but he has something to offer, and I see no fundamental malice, but rather someone who absolutely cares about the community yet expresses it poorly. That's someone I can probably work with. It would take work, and the time required may not be feasible for other managers, of course.

Give me more details and I can give you a more specific answer.

Why should the staff subject themselves to such radical changes when the site is very successful and its probably just a few spoiled apples who feel their personal needs are not being accommodated?
I've already mentioned a lot of reasons (doing the right thing is the one I think most important, but also streamlining a broken system to something more efficient, attracting all the kind of people I meet at AC2 who wouldn't be caught dead here as things stand, and better staff morale all come to mind). The latter half of the question is loaded and not necessarily true/fair, but I'll note that and move on.

Let me expand on the attracting people issue, since it's Thunderfall I really have to convince of anything: I have not even a ballpark idea of how the banner ads are doing for money, but I'm guessing they contribute in a very non-trivial way to the server bills and such. If CFC breaks even now, a doubling of membership and activity ought to result in an amount of profit equal to nearly the current overhead, depending on the nature of the hosting agreement and bandwidth thresholds thereof. I should think the 5X figure I admittedly pulled out of my butt would be talking about at least serious pocket money, given the assumptions I've laid out. [puts on Hal Holbrook mask, takes a drag on a cigarette, and says "Follow the money"]

Step three: Profit!

I do not know what you do for a living, but I do recall saying you were approaching 50. I was in school quite a while ago also, but my current RL job is actually work compared to what I did in school. Such questions are part and parcel to solving problems. If you don't ask and answer the right questions, you will not make any progress. Many folks see a problem like "no discussion of PDMA" and say that to fix it, we need to open a PDMA thread or forum and we will be done. Failing to put such changes into a larger context will only doom the process to "the law of unintended consequences".
And yet I am often insulted for long and rambling posts. People are not simple, the universe is not simple, truth itself is almost never simple, and everything's ultimately connected.

Yes; the larger context is everything. That is why I think the remedial gestures you mention are ultimately inadequite. I've seen plenty of explanation of why the PDMA rule, but none of why even a forum notorious for the bad behavior of the members, where hostility seems the mode attitude, doesn't need such a rule and CFC does. Perhaps the thing I said about taking the forbidden as a dare? I engage in exaggeration when I assert that everything is forbidden here, but perhaps there's a threshold in play, and were the level of regulation lower, less would NEED to be forbidden.

If the problem is "poor leadership that leads to poor attitudes on moderation, which leads to poor moderation and shackled members", then just getting new moderators will not solve the problem. With such a paradigm shift you need a new foundation followed by a whole new structures built upon that foundation. Serious thoughtfulness is required both to build the new world order and to then implement it and hire new folks who are capable of carrying out such a plan.
Plainly, clearing house is far from the first thing to try. That would be stupid. If Mod X is a petty Barney Fife-level bully, you still cannot know that he is incapable of losening up and learning without someone trying to lead him into doing so.

X may well not be long for this forum, but that's up to him, and only a side effect of what I propose.

It is a tall order. An ambitious one. How do we proceed? Do you have a 5 or 8 or 10 step plan that we could flesh out? What would the first step be? Start me down your road. I'm up for it.
I'm working on it. Again, there is information I need to give a truly useful answer, having never been on staff here, and no one's going to sacrifice their postition on staff to give it to me. I can articulate principals and my reasons, but this is ultimately going to be in the hands of others who know the lay of the land and have the right access.

It has to start with the owner, who is substantially older, and I daresay, wiser, than 13 years ago. There are things that happened in 2002 that are unlikely to happen now for a number of reasons, and maybe it's time to step back and assess all that. John McCain once said of his campaign finance reform bill that of course in closing loopholes it created new ones - and people would find them and exploit them, and someone would have to reform his reform down the road; that's how it works.

...

It suddenly strikes me that I profit enormously from all this shop-talk no matter how it plays out - every bit of noise I see about the lame crap members might pull is forewarned/forearmed for me. I'd rather have an idea in place I won't need about possible future trouble than need an idea I don't have, so taking a class in the CFC way is educational...
 
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