Should adultery be made illegal? (Now with correct poll)

[Archbob]

Generally when you are wed you agree and swear in front to hundreds of witnesses that "through sickness and in health, till death do we part". If you said it in private, then we have no proof and its hard to enforce it on someone, but since there are hundreds of witnesses, and you signed a marriage document saying that, it is a legal binding contract. Regardless of what you think, you can't worm your way out of a binding contract.

I never argued it being a criminal offense because it isn't. What Pyrite is argueing though is that it shouldn't even be taken to civil court, which is ridiculous. When you divorce, the assets of the couple have to be split and according to United States law, generally if you are caught committing adultry, then you forfeit a great majority of your assets, it all written out in divorce court laws and you should be aware of this before you sign the contract, take the vows, and get married. Committing adultry by definition is indeed a civil offense and you should be punished by civil means.

The government has a duty to protect its people and the laws against adultry are there for a reason. Adultry destroys families, causes divorce, and in some cases produces unwanted children outside of marriage. If there were no penalties at all for it, you would get a bunch of unscrupulous people just randomly screwing around, producing Children outside of marriage. You could also just randomly get divorced and not pay any penalties or child support.

If you and your partner agree to an open marriage, thats fine. It always your partner's choice to take you to court or not for adultry. The main object of concern is should there be any civil penalty for cheating behind your partner's back should your spouse attempt to pursue the issue.

 

[ComradeDavo]

From what I remember she is a lesbian, has been married (may still be) and does have kids.
Why don't you just ask her??

Here's a hint - do a thread search for a poster named AVN.

 

[punkbass2000]

I hate to feel a need to point this out, but things aren't necessarily black and white. People aren't necessarily "lesbian" or "straight". Now, I think it's terribly rude to talk about someone in third person like this.

 

[Mathilda]

Hey, you're talking about me and haven't told me.
I like talking about me, next time give me a whistle (aka pm)

Not bad, you're all correct, especially punkbass and ComradeDavo.

In my opinion (and that's what counts, right?) identity wise I'm a bisexual at the lesbian end of the scale. For some reason I still seem to end together with men. That cleared it up for anyone who'd not been paying attention?

 

[Homie]

But you have kids, no?

 

[IglooDame]

If marriage is a civil issue, then adultery is a civil issue, and not "illegal" in the criminal sense.

And I say that having suspected but not pursued or proved that my (now ex-) wife cheated on me.

 

[Mathilda]

But you have kids, no?

Still some confusion?
Yes, I have two kids
I've had relationships with a woman, a man (->kids) and now another man, aka AVN.
And no, I don't mind explaining, if someone has further questions.