Should I be concerned about my lack of contact/experience with girls?

[CCA]

About my lack of experience/contact with girls?
(NOT A DATING ADVICE THREAD)

Basically the scenario is this:
I got to an ALL BOYS Catholic School, so therefore there are no girls.
The only female friend I have moved away from Auckland and I've lost contact with her since. Haven't seen or had communication with her since last year.

I don't find it hard to talk to girls in non-social situation, At work, I can ask my female co-workers how their day was, how busy work tonight was and other work related questions. I had a rather severe infatuation with one of them and was on the verge of a break through when the intellectual part of me over-analyzed the situation.

Unfortunately I made a total ass of myself talking about how much the movie "300" was a perfect example of how an ideologically neutral film in the current politcal situation is turned into American propaganda. So she now thinks I'm a pompous intellectual windbag(which I don't and didn't deny) and the only girl I talked to on a daily basis no longer speaks to me.

It's then I realized how behind I was to so many of my age group.
I turn 16 in 4 days and:

I have never had a girlfriend
Never kissed a girl
Never had more than 2 female friends at a time
Haven't talked to a girl in 1 week.
Never had any close physical contact except for hugs( the girls at our sister All Girls school hug people walking in front of their school saying "Jesus loves you!")

I only have 2 years to go before going to University and I'm wondering if my lack of contact/experience with girls will hamper social interaction with them in the future.

Will it?
Or will I turn out to be fine?
Should I be worried?

EDIT: Can a Mod please quickly change my name? A quick google search reveals this thread in page 2 and this thread isn't exactly something that you should be proud of. A quick change to "Francis" should do, I PM'ed Thurderfall about this a month or two ago and I haven't gotten a respones back.

 

[TopDog]

Na, as long as your a nice guy/good person shouldnt do much harm.

BTW, if you feel your at the liberty to say so, what school do you go to? St Peters, Sacred Heart?

 

[Eran of Arcadia]

I didn't go on a real date or kiss a girl until I was 22. My real problem wasn't that but lack of regular interaction with girls - I have never really had a real female friend (of course, I don;t have very many - if any - male friends either) and poor social skills in general. So I win!

Seriously though, just try acting normal around girls or something. We all know what will happen to this thread, so I will get in my advice now and say not to stress it.

 

[JollyRoger]

If the issue hasn't been solved by Univeristy, then University should solve it.

 

[Bluemofia]

It's then I realized how behind I was to so many of my age group.
I turn 16 in 4 days and:

I have never had a girlfriend
Never kissed a girl
Never had more than 2 female friends at a time
Haven't talked to a girl in 1 week.
Never had any close physical contact except for hugs( the girls at our sister All Girls school hug people walking in front of their school saying "Jesus loves you!")

For me, I am in your situation for 1, 2, and 5. 3 and 4 are those more like the groups we tend to break up into in Biology to do labs, but it is strictly a class studies relationship.

I did briefly have a gf, but it was for 5 school months, and we never went out or anything. I did ask her out, (she was busy) and basically just didn't talk much, because I would never know what to say, and having her brother there on the bus is a bit intimidating. So, we kind of broke up. (my fault entirely. )

 

[CCA]

Liston College

 

[TopDog]

Lol no way. I was there just this morning to play cricket but it was called off!

 

[CCA]

Lol no way. I was there just this morning to play cricket but it was called off!

What school do you go to?

 

[TopDog]

Auckland Grammar > Liston College

 

[Pasi Nurminen]

You're only 16, don't worry. Western males learn to deal with women by trial and error; with each error you make, you learn and are better equipped for the future. Don't worry if you feel you're not at an average level of female interaction for your age; everyone is different and if you try to live up to the popular image of the man you will be unhappy. Don't look explicitly for a relationship, just let it come and in time it will and you'll be happier as a result.

 

[Maimonides]

Basically the scenario is this:
I got to an ALL BOYS Catholic School, so therefore there are no girls.
The only female friend I have moved away from Auckland and I've lost contact with her since. Haven't seen or had communication with her since last year.

I don't find it hard to talk to girls in non-social situation, At work, I can ask my female co-workers how their day was, how busy work tonight was and other work related questions...

...I turn 16 in 4 days and:

I have never had a girlfriend
Never kissed a girl
Never had more than 2 female friends at a time
Haven't talked to a girl in 1 week.
Never had any close physical contact except for hugs( the girls at our sister All Girls school hug people walking in front of their school saying "Jesus loves you!")

I only have 2 years to go before going to University and I'm wondering if my lack of contact/experience with girls will hamper social interaction with them in the future.

Will it?
Or will I turn out to be fine?
Should I be worried?

Probably not.
Probably will.
Nah.

I was a hound chasing girls/women from puberty until my wedding engagement. My 1st gilrfriend was in the 4th grade. Because of my experience, I used to think that people with your experience were lacking important social skills. I was wrong.

My wife's family is pretty religious. Some of her siblings & cousins grew up with very little contact with the opposite sex until after college. Despite this, they have had wonderful marraiges. Their problems don't come from seperation from the opposite sex. Rather, having grown up in a bubble, they are very ignorant of other cultures & lifestyles.

I understand your worry, but from seeing this with others, I think you'll be just fine.

 

[CaptainF]

I have never had a girlfriend
Never kissed a girl
Never had more than 2 female friends at a time
Haven't talked to a girl in 1 week.
Never had any close physical contact except for hugs( the girls at our sister All Girls school hug people walking in front of their school saying "Jesus loves you!")

I meet all of those characteristics except #4, and I'm 18.

Ya know what? I'm totally not worried either.

Why worry? Women come and go. Life is now. Live it, regardless of whether or not you're getting tail.

 

[Abaddon]

16 isnt a time to worry, it all happens in the next two years.

 

[Truronian]

My advice... don't talk about communism at 16. Even if you have researched it thoroughly and have carefully formed opinions on the subject, people will either:

a) Think you're a bore.
b) Think you're just a rebel without a clue.

 

[Disgustipated]

my advice: don't talk about communism at all.

 

[Truronian]

my advice: don't talk about communism at all.

Actually yeah, that's much better advice.

 

[Tee Kay]

My advice... don't talk about communism at 16. Even if you have researched it thoroughly and have carefully formed opinions on the subject, people will either:

Correction, don't talk about anything of the sort at all, politics, etc. Unless you know the girl is genuinely interested in those sorts of thing.

(Don't take my word for it though. I'm just inexperienced as you are )

 

[ComradeDavo]

16 is when I started actually having girls being intrested in me, so don'tworry too much, see how it goes in the next couple of years

 

[Kozmos]

Dont sweat it man...just relax, slow down your wheels. Stay off drugs and get drunk instead.

 

[Winner]

Will it?
Or will I turn out to be fine?
Should I be worried?

Depends on how much do you want to have close social interactions with girls, or, more precisely, what do you expect from your social life.