Should I be concerned about my lack of contact/experience with girls?

[Brighteye]

Not at all. I went to an all-male school too. It put me a couple of years behind when it comes to understanding girls, but not interacting with them. After all, just because you know why girls like chick-flicks doesn't mean that suddenly you're going to watch lots of them: you're still going to feel sick at the thought.

Just treat the girls you meet at university the same as you treat the boys. There isn't really any special girl-interaction you need. You can then work from there.

 

[Neonanocyborgasm]

I only have 2 years to go before going to University and I'm wondering if my lack of contact/experience with girls will hamper social interaction with them in the future.

Will it?
Or will I turn out to be fine?
Should I be worried?

You should not be overly concerned about girls because they aren't worth your concern. You are better off focused on yourself -- your career goals, your male friends (which will be better friends than nearly any girl), and your education. Focusing too much on girls will render you vulnerable to manipulation.

If you require advice on how to approach girls socially, it amounts to little more than just being confident and not settling for less than what you want.

 

[aneeshm]

I have never had a girlfriend
Never kissed a girl
Never had more than 2 female friends at a time
Haven't talked to a girl in 1 week.
Never had any close physical contact except for hugs( the girls at our sister All Girls school hug people walking in front of their school saying "Jesus loves you!")

I meet all those criterion, except 3 and 4. And I'm 19. And unworried.

It works out, eventually.

 

[Winner]

I meet all those criterion, except 3 and 4. And I'm 19. And unworried.

It works out, eventually.

Have your parents arranged a marriage with some beautiful Indian girl?

 

[azzaman333]

I have never had a girlfriend

Neither

Never kissed a girl

Neither

Never had more than 2 female friends at a time

Never really had a female friend.

Haven't talked to a girl in 1 week.

Haven't had a conversation with a girl that I can remember. (at least 2 weeks)

Never had any close physical contact except for hugs

Never had close physical contact.

I turn 17 in 3 months too, and I also go to a co-ed school.

I really need a way to stop being so shy...

 

[Winner]

I really need a way to stop being so shy...

Alcohol is your friend

 

[azzaman333]

Alcohol is your friend

15 more months until I can legally drink alcahol...

 

[puglover]

I meet all those criterion, except 3 and 4. And I'm 19. And unworried.

It works out, eventually.

Same here. I'm 15, though, so even if I do get in a relationship it will almost certainly backfire. But I'm comfortable with who I am, so I can be patient.

 

[Kozmos]

15 more months until I can legally drink alcahol...

Legally? Well the illegality is what makes it so fun!

 

[aneeshm]

Have your parents arranged a marriage with some beautiful Indian girl?

The fact that I have that as an option is one of the contributing reasons as to why I'm so unworried.


More seriously - I'm not really the sort of guy who could live with an arranged marriage. My personality is far too intense.

But then again, life has taught me till now that you never know - it is quite possible that I'd fit right into an arranged marriage. Only thing is that it's not my first choice.

 

[CartesianFart]

About my lack of experience/contact with girls?
(NOT A DATING ADVICE THREAD)

Basically the scenario is this:
I got to an ALL BOYS Catholic School, so therefore there are no girls.
The only female friend I have moved away from Auckland and I've lost contact with her since. Haven't seen or had communication with her since last year.

Prpbably sleeping with another dude.

I don't find it hard to talk to girls in non-social situation, At work, I can ask my female co-workers how their day was, how busy work tonight was and other work related questions. I had a rather severe infatuation with one of them and was on the verge of a break through when the intellectual part of me over-analyzed the situation.

Talking is simply baby-step and having severe infatuation and showing it toward the target of your infatuation will surely either scare her interest of you in a heart-beat or will subject you into her will.Think of Seinfield episode when George was obsessing on who have the "upper-hand" of the relationship.

Love is war!Dammnit!

Unfortunately I made a total ass of myself talking about how much the movie "300" was a perfect example of how an ideologically neutral film in the current politcal situation is turned into American propaganda. So she now thinks I'm a pompous intellectual windbag(which I don't and didn't deny) and the only girl I talked to on a daily basis no longer speaks to me.

Sadly,speaking in-length of a synopsis of a movie you have watched will surely kill the fire in chicks that are devoid of any intellectual thought.

Culturally speaking-they are made to breed,dammnit!!

It's then I realized how behind I was to so many of my age group.
I turn 16 in 4 days and:

Do you really care of what the majority thinks?

I

have never had a girlfriend
Never kissed a girl
Never had more than 2 female friends at a time
Haven't talked to a girl in 1 week.
Never had any close physical contact except for hugs( the girls at our sister All Girls school hug people walking in front of their school saying "Jesus loves you!")

Well,look at it in the bright-side,at least you are not in a American public school who can't get laid and have no "game" because we get alot of sluts here(in some rare cases,teachers) and you would be really consider a loser.

I only have 2 years to go before going to University and I'm wondering if my lack of contact/experience with girls will hamper social interaction with them in the future.

Will it?
Or will I turn out to be fine?
Should I be worried?

Better hurry up and get laid or your penis will fall off when you graduate after college.

 

[azzaman333]

Legally? Well the illegality is what makes it so fun!

My few friends dont have partys, which means I cant get alcahol, which means I'm too shy, which means I cant make friends easily, which means I only have a few friends, and they rarely have partys, which means I cant get alcahol, etc.

And I dont know anyone who would be willing to buy me alcahol.

 

[Elrohir]

About my lack of experience/contact with girls?
(NOT A DATING ADVICE THREAD)

Basically the scenario is this:
I got to an ALL BOYS Catholic School, so therefore there are no girls.
The only female friend I have moved away from Auckland and I've lost contact with her since. Haven't seen or had communication with her since last year.

I don't find it hard to talk to girls in non-social situation, At work, I can ask my female co-workers how their day was, how busy work tonight was and other work related questions. I had a rather severe infatuation with one of them and was on the verge of a break through when the intellectual part of me over-analyzed the situation.

Unfortunately I made a total ass of myself talking about how much the movie "300" was a perfect example of how an ideologically neutral film in the current politcal situation is turned into American propaganda. So she now thinks I'm a pompous intellectual windbag(which I don't and didn't deny) and the only girl I talked to on a daily basis no longer speaks to me.

It's then I realized how behind I was to so many of my age group.
I turn 16 in 4 days and:

I have never had a girlfriend
Never kissed a girl
Never had more than 2 female friends at a time
Haven't talked to a girl in 1 week.
Never had any close physical contact except for hugs( the girls at our sister All Girls school hug people walking in front of their school saying "Jesus loves you!")

I only have 2 years to go before going to University and I'm wondering if my lack of contact/experience with girls will hamper social interaction with them in the future.

Will it?
Or will I turn out to be fine?
Should I be worried?

EDIT: Can a Mod please quickly change my name? A quick google search reveals this thread in page 2 and this thread isn't exactly something that you should be proud of. A quick change to "Francis" should do, I PM'ed Thurderfall about this a month or two ago and I haven't gotten a respones back.

Lessee....I turn 18 in two and a half months, and I've also never had a girlfriend, kissed a girl (On the lips), or had any real physical contact with a girl except for hugs. (Of a romantic or sexual nature - I've poked and lightly smacked girls, and yesterday I grabbed a girl around her waist to stop her from running away so another friend could tickle her , but that's about it) I do have several female friends, who I talk to frequently, however. So as with Aneesm and Puglover, I meet all your criteria except 3 and 4. And I am similarly unworried about it.

So I'm not significantly older than you, but I'm also not significantly "better" in this situation either. I wouldn't worry about it, though, seriously. Why do you need a girlfriend at your age? Are you realistically going to find the girl of your dreams and get married? Are you going to experience some mystical and spiritual connection? Possibly, but probably not. If you get a girlfriend, you'll likely spend a lot of time giggling and holding hands in corners and thinking about wonderful futures together that will almost certainly never materialize.

I've never understood why so many young people are so obsessed with going out before they can even drive or go to college. Why the rush? Relax! Do well in school, have fun, make some great friends. Platonic friendships with guys, and girls even usually last longer than most romantic relationships, so focus on those for now. I would certainly encourage you to pursue friendships with women, but don't try and force it to be romantic - just treat them like any other friend, and be yourself. Don't worry about making it romantic, if it's meant to be then it'll happen whether you're forced into it kicking and screaming, and if it's not then you're better off not wasting your time and money, and not hurting yourself.

 

[Evil Tyrant]

About my lack of experience/contact with girls?
(NOT A DATING ADVICE THREAD)

Basically the scenario is this:
I got to an ALL BOYS Catholic School, so therefore there are no girls.
The only female friend I have moved away from Auckland and I've lost contact with her since. Haven't seen or had communication with her since last year.

I don't find it hard to talk to girls in non-social situation, At work, I can ask my female co-workers how their day was, how busy work tonight was and other work related questions. I had a rather severe infatuation with one of them and was on the verge of a break through when the intellectual part of me over-analyzed the situation.

Unfortunately I made a total ass of myself talking about how much the movie "300" was a perfect example of how an ideologically neutral film in the current politcal situation is turned into American propaganda. So she now thinks I'm a pompous intellectual windbag(which I don't and didn't deny) and the only girl I talked to on a daily basis no longer speaks to me.

It's then I realized how behind I was to so many of my age group.
I turn 16 in 4 days and:

I have never had a girlfriend
Never kissed a girl
Never had more than 2 female friends at a time
Haven't talked to a girl in 1 week.
Never had any close physical contact except for hugs( the girls at our sister All Girls school hug people walking in front of their school saying "Jesus loves you!")

I only have 2 years to go before going to University and I'm wondering if my lack of contact/experience with girls will hamper social interaction with them in the future.

Will it?
Or will I turn out to be fine?
Should I be worried?

EDIT: Can a Mod please quickly change my name? A quick google search reveals this thread in page 2 and this thread isn't exactly something that you should be proud of. A quick change to "Francis" should do, I PM'ed Thurderfall about this a month or two ago and I haven't gotten a respones back.

I wouldn't be worried. I am suffering through Catholic homeschooling, and my family moved around a lot. Which means I am even more isolated than you are as far as friends in general go. As for girls, I am in pretty much the same situation, but I'm not worried. I just turned 18 and will be going to college in a few months. I expect there will be plenty of opportunities for friendships and romance once I am there.

 

[Cheezy the Wiz]

Depends on how much do you want to have close social interactions with girls, or, more precisely, what do you expect from your social life.

This is a very good point. For example, I'm nineteen, and I've never had a serious relationship, much less slept with a woman. But I'm okay with that, because I don't want to be a "swinger," I want to meet someone and get married; I could care less about dating, or enjoying being young, or whatever other fancy names people give to their post-high school promiscuity.

 

[CCA]

Good advice people.
Disturbingly similar to what the school chaplain says but still good advice.

 

[Swedishguy]

The short version: NO!

The long version: NO, you need no concern!

 

[Truronian]

Good advice people.
Disturbingly similar to what the school chaplain says but still good advice.

You go to your Catholic school chaplain for girl advice?

 

[happy_Alex]

You're only 16, don't worry. Western males learn to deal with women by trial and error; with each error you make, you learn and are better equipped for the future. Don't worry if you feel you're not at an average level of female interaction for your age; everyone is different and if you try to live up to the popular image of the man you will be unhappy. Don't look explicitly for a relationship, just let it come and in time it will and you'll be happier as a result.

western males ? So other males have some 'women chip' in their brain? Get a grip.

@ Fransico Hernan, don't worry about it, it's only telly/media that pretends all people of your age are sex mad.

BTW I thought you had a good point about the film though I've not seen it. Maybe that girl was impressed by your intelligence, lots of girls are apparently, makes for good genes. Never dumb yourself down for the sake of others. Unless your really desparate to make an impression in wich case Iguess you can.

 

[aneeshm]

western males ? So other males have some 'women chip' in their brain? Get a grip.

No. Their culture usually tells the men and women how to behave with each other. It's a difficult concept for someone from a Western POV, I know, but it's true.