So there's this girl on my bus...

[Shylock]

She'll probably think you're weird and ignore you.

At least that the extent of my experience.

 

[Masquerouge]

She'll probably think you're weird and ignore you.

At least that the extent of my experience.

Aaaaahh, teenagers.

 

[Red Door]

She'll probably think you're weird and ignore you.

At least that the extent of my experience.

If she looks at him, that's usually a good start. If you say she's Italian, then you guys have a common thing. Try to work with that.

 

[Syterion]

Maybe she's just trying to get a closer look at that guy who keeps staring at her.

Just a thought.

I'm kidding, by the way.

 

[Elrohir]

My advice: Never ask advice on an internet gaming forum. If we were all wise sage's when it came to the fairer sex, we'd be out with them instead of posting on here!

No, seriously, here it is: Dude - just ask her. If she tells you to get lost, or just doesn't seem interested, then yeah, it'll hurt. But that will be better than never knowing whether she was someone you really would have liked, and who would have been a great friend - if only you could have brought yourself to talk to her! And if she does, then all the better. Either way, you just need to bit the bullet, and do it already. Do it tomorrow - no more putting it off. If you don't want to talk to her, then stop talking about it. If you do, then just go ahead and do it already. If you wait any longer, you'll just be mad at all the time you've wasted. (That last bit is from personal experience)

My $0.02.

 

[Eukaryote]

As the title suggests, there is this girl on my bus, absolute gem. The bus takes us and many others from our schools to our homes, a 20 minute process.

Now, this has been going on for months, where most days she would glance at me, for a considerable time, eye to eye. With this, and many other things, I have ascertained that she likes me, no doubt.

The problem is that she is obviously waiting for me to make the move to talk to her. The other problem, possibly worst than the first one, is that I simply cannot bring myself to talk to her because I do not know how I could keep a conversation going; I don't know what to talk about.

We have just got back from the summer holidays and I have been thinking of her quite a bit, thinking of how I could approach her and talk to her. I promised to myself that on the first day back I would go straight up and talk to her. But it gets to the first day coming home, and I can't do it. It gets to the second day, and I can't do it. This was today. But this time, the last second of her gaze seemed to be quite annoyed from her, as if she has given up with me.

There has been a few times when we have had very short conversations, all going well. For some reason, I feel absolutely incapable of talking to her again.

And now that she is in the sixth form, she wears her own clothes, and she looks even better, making me sad.

I know I am not the only guy with this problem. Other people can vent their problems too here, if you want.

So, I have decided to seek the help of real people, to see what you people think I should do to overcome my situation and take the girl!

Don't be afriad of failure because even if you do fail you'll be able to handle it, it's not like you're losing anything. In fact you'd be gaining experiance! And if you succeed you gain experiance and this awsome girl! And what you should talk about to her is her and try to set it up so she is doing more of the talking.

Anyway, you should just grit your teeth and do it! It might help if you listened to some music before you made your move.

This is how fear works, we all have irrational fears, and sometimes people want to do something thing that they're afraid of. Some people wait for their fear to go away, don't do that, it doesn't work. But if you do what you're afriad of you won't be as afriad of it anymore, and if you keep doing it the fear will eventully be gone. Fear goes away when you conquer it, not before.

 

[Sophie 378]

"So, what do you think of being in the sixth form now?"
"Dunno. It's OK".

My worst nightmare. What would I say after that?

Either ask her some more about it (so, what are you studying, what bits do you enjoy, is it like you were hoping/expecting, what are you planning to do after it, are there any school clubs you like, etc) - or tell her a little bit about what you think about it (my favourite subject is Chemistry, I'm in the choir, I hoped we'd have more free time, the 6th form common room is nice though) - or ask/tell her about something else entirely (see others' suggestions). Just because you've had one noncommital or unenthousiastic response doesn't mean that she hates you and never wants to see you again! It might mean that she too is shy and doesn't know what to say, or she's afraid of what her friends will say/think, or something like "oh my God he spoke to me! What do I say!? Help!"

Just don't go overboard trying to impress her, but don't be so "cool" and laid-back that you annoy her by making her think "oh, he's not really interested in me, he's just trying to look like a playah for his mates" or something. Don't talk too much - look for hints that she's wanting to say something - but don't leave her to do all the talking. Ask her some questions, but answer hers, and volunteer information too. Think of her as a quiet shy bloke who you'd like to get to know, if that would help.

 

[CartesianFart]

Either ask her some more about it (so, what are you studying, what bits do you enjoy, is it like you were hoping/expecting, what are you planning to do after it, are there any school clubs you like, etc) - or tell her a little bit about what you think about it (my favourite subject is Chemistry, I'm in the choir, I hoped we'd have more free time, the 6th form common room is nice though) - or ask/tell her about something else entirely (see others' suggestions). Just because you've had one noncommital or unenthousiastic response doesn't mean that she hates you and never wants to see you again! It might mean that she too is shy and doesn't know what to say, or she's afraid of what her friends will say/think, or something like "oh my God he spoke to me! What do I say!? Help!"

Or the chick is a prude or is thinking of becoming a nun.

I say attack her weakness,or unless you want her in the future have the upper hand in the relationship.

Just don't go overboard trying to impress her, but don't be so "cool" and laid-back that you annoy her by making her think "oh, he's not really interested in me, he's just trying to look like a playah for his mates" or something. Don't talk too much - look for hints that she's wanting to say something - but don't leave her to do all the talking. Ask her some questions, but answer hers, and volunteer information too. Think of her as a quiet shy bloke who you'd like to get to know, if that would help.

This is not an advice on how to fall in love,this is a job interview or some way to impress your boss in order to get a raise.

 

[Masquerouge]

I say attack her weakness,or unless you want her in the future have the upper hand in the relationship.

Feeling frustrated?

 

[CartesianFart]

Feeling frustrated?

No,just a cry for help.

 

[Markus6]

Just go and sit next to her. Don't worry about silence (see Bozo's advice in the relationship thread). Ask her what her name is then say something funny. Once you get her laughing (which you're good at right?) you'll relax and it'll be plain sailing from there. Hows about, "Do you come here often?" cos it's cheesy and yet she knows you know she comes everyday or, "Do you think this bus could go somewhere more interesting for once?" or as you get on, "Is this the right bus for disney land?" then look gutted when she says no. Don't worry about talking for the whole journey. Once you've made her laugh (and hopefully got her phone number) say, "sorry i just need to go and talk to *insert name of friend on bus*" and leave. If it doesn't work it doesn't work, but the more you try talking to hot girls the easier it gets.

 

[Shylock]

Just go for it. Chances are even if it does work it'll die in short while anyway (Nothing personal, that's just how teen relationships end up). If she rejects you it isn't the end of the world.

 

[CaptainF]

Many of us been there chrisrossi.

I have taken this line from Collateral which might help:
Someday my dream will come. One night you'll wake up and you'll discover it never happened. It's all turned around on you and it never will. Suddenly you are old, didn't happened and it never will, 'cause you were never going to do it anyway.
- Vincent

In other words chrisrossi, your guts are saying the right thing that this is the chance of life time. You kid yourself if you think it can happen again. I have my fair share of chances and some of them have gone with the wind. Don't do the mistake that you don't talk with her. You regret it later, when she's gone for good. Trust me, if I know something it is this thing.

You do what the man's gotta do. You will know how to talk to her when you approach her. Like guys said, you can start with her clothes and move on from there.

However even though we all say this might be your chance of life time, on the bus and before that, you should think it is just normal day and there's nothing special about that you go to talk to this girl. It should calm you down. As long as you pay attention to her especially with eyes and keep talking at least about something everything should turn out OK.

I would pay more attention how I say things than what I say as long as it isn't BS. And remember the last things what you say to her before goodbyes might be the most important. Remember end it with high note about seeing her again.

Good luck and I think mods should ban you for the time being before you have seriously talked to the girl.
But like Turner said, you have to do this favor not for anyone else but for yourself and also possible for the girl.

Best advice yet, taken from an appropriately awesome movie, which was made by an appropriately awesome director!

 

[general_kill]

My 2 pennies:

I was going to tell you to make sure that this girl is someone you truly like and are compatible with before asking her out, but then again, at your age, I'd say to just go for it. Make a fool out of yourself! Do this while you still can, because you don't want to wait until college and still not have any experience in talking to girls.

Trust me, first experiences are embarrassing experiences for everyone. First crush, first date, first kiss, etc. The first time I asked a girl out was in 6th grade. She was blonde, blue eyes, great smile, and just overall beautiful. We had track together, her mom really liked me, and we were in the same class together. Back then, I did not even know what going out meant, all I know was that I wanted her. So I told her to meet me after school and I asked her out and she said yes. A week goes by, I did absolutely nothing, then she asked my "best" friend out in a note that was passed through my hands! Then a week later, she asked my other best friend out!

Needless to say, this was a traumatizing experience for me; I did not ask another girl out until my sophomore year of high school! My junior high prom, it was my date that asked me out, and every experience since then, it was always the girl who took the initiative.

Even though I never faced rejection in those years, I've let countless girls slip by because I was such a wuss. This really really cute girl that I had a crush on in freshman year was practically my girlfriend, but I was too afraid of simply asking her out and making it official. I actually called her first and we got along really well, we talked about icecream for like half an hour. And we had English together, her seat was right next to the door and mine was across the room and she would come wait for me everyday so we can walk to the next class together. It was just such a sweet puppy love experience, but then I was too afraid to open up and didn't want to give her the "upper hand" so after a few weeks, I started ignoring her hoping she would come after me. At first she did, but then she just gave up. She must have told her friends because guys started asking her out almost immediately after we stopped hanging out. Thank god she rejected them... Now it's my senior year and we have english together again.. she looks so damn cute, but I'm afraid she does not have the same feeling towards me as freshman year. I took the seat next to her but I feel like I can't talk to her like before. Sorry I just trailed off there, but the point is, don't let this chance slip by, if you do not ask the girl out, some other guy will! No matter what you do, you cannot do much worse than the first time I asked a girl out

My first date? I shook the girl's hand good night.

My first kiss? I thought it was absolutely disgusting and never talked to her again.

I'm glad I made a fool out of myself at a young age, now I know so much more.

 

[Red Stranger]

Haha, you ride a bus.

 

[Rossiya]

I didn't do it. Hear me out though, there are reasons why.

The bus stops earlier down the hill, for those that have got out from school early and have enough time to walk down there. This was one of those days where I did have plenty of time down there, and guarantee myself a seat. This was the cause of the missed opportunity, I feel. She had not walked down there. The two previous days she had been on the bus already, on her own, waiting for my friends, so I could easily introduce myself and everything, without her friends all staring at me.

So I get on the bus with a mate, and sit in the middle of the bottom deck, where she normally sits. The bus soon fills up when we get to the regular bus stop but the seat infront of me is still free. One of her friends, who has got on earlier than her, sits in it. I'm thinking "Damn".

She soon gets on the bus and sits on the lap of her friend. So therefore, I could not make any eye contact with her. Not that she was constantly out of conversation range; she wasn't constantly talking to her friends around her for the whole journey; it's just that the girl she was sitting on the lap of was sort of acting like a barrier. I couldn't just talk across her, could I? And this friend's head was in the way of our eye contact, so I couldn't even wink at her.

The bus driver drops her off infront of her cul-de-sac, just for her, nobody else gets off there. Good looks are an advantage then.

I get off the bus later, depressed and angry at myself, wondering why I chose to walk down the hill, and not use the possible chance that I may have caught her on her own at the top.

Any thoughts on what I should do now?

 

[Elrohir]

Try again tomorrow?

And be sure to tell us when you do it!

 

[Corlindale]

Try again. The chance is not gone forever, only for a day. Best of luck

 

[C~G]

Wait for the genuine opportunity and then make best of it.

If a man does his best, what else is there?
- George S. Patton

Nobody will get angry if you don't succeed but we will if you don't try and just come with new excuses every time.

I don't want to see you as one of them who's in hands youth goes into waste.

 

[Rossiya]

I think I will do it when she is on her own, when I get on the bus. If she is without any friends for that time, and there is a seat free next to her, I could ask her cheekily "Is that seat free cos there's no other seats?" It gets the conversation off on the right note.

Another reason why I failed myself today was probably because it was the day after I got so much help from all of you.