So, would you? or another girl question.

[Yeeek]

Would you ask a co-worker (a woman in this case) to go out sometime, for a drink. Knowing that she does have a kid, not married but is with someone at the moment. Though its still cloudy in your mind because she never said the words exactly if she is single or not. You've been working with her for a year now. You've been out already with her but you weren't alone, always with other people around. You suspect that she knows you've got something for her, nothing serious, but she is attractive to you.

There is a somewhat synergy between the two of you, you like her, she does too its obvious (at least you believe she does but perhaps not in the way you would like). Not in the mood when she call in sick and not at work with you. That kind of stuff ya'know. But there is still many questions coming back everytimes you are about to ask her. What if she's in a serious relationship, how she will react, will it destroy the friendship between you and her. Also, if you ask her and she say yes, maybe she will just believe its a friendly date, i mean just a drink between two friend.

Meh I guess i could just have asked this like that : Do you believe its very wrong to try and date a married woman (or in a serious relationship).

 

[Bozo Erectus]

Lets see: A coworker, whos got a kid, and has a boyfriend. Hmmmm...I dont know, sounds like 'three strikes, youre out', to me

 

[punkbass2000]

Generally speaking, I think asking out co-workers is just asking for trouble.

 

[Abaddon]

Go for it, could always just move your friendship out of the workplace.. or steal here away

 

[BCLG100]

depends how much you like her really, i wouldnt be messing around with someone who i worked with, had a kid and a boyfriend unless i felt v strongly for her.

 

[Mathilda]

If for some weird resaon you can't ask herself if her realtionship is serious, ask someone else in the workplace. The other women are bound to know.

 

[Yeeek]

I already thought about doing that mathilda, but if i do it, you can be sure the whole building will know that i "asked" that There are lots of women where i work at, and not only they formed some clans they talk about everyone and everything you do.

 

[BCLG100]

If for some weird resaon you can't ask herself if her realtionship is serious, ask someone else in the workplace. The other women are bound to know.

And if your real lucky theres a fair chance one of them women will pass the message you were asking about her on

 

[Masquerouge]

What will happen if you succeed? Then you will have to deal with a kid, with a not-so-happy ex, and with a relationship on the workplace (VERY dangerous unless you're officially married, and if you actually work together forget it: what will you tell each other at night? "so, how was your day?")
What will happen if you fail? Well, you work with her, so there will always be awkwardness between the two of you.

I say it is not worth it. You're both benefiting a lot more from the status quo: you enjoy working with each other, and thus you enjoy your work. Keep it that way

 

[BCLG100]

just get drunk and have a little fun at christmas party until then i'd go for someone else

 

[amadeus]

I guess i could just have asked this like that : Do you believe its very wrong to try and date a married woman (or in a serious relationship).

In other words, you're asking if it's wrong to cheat with somebody else's wife?


I don't know whether to be sad or disgusted.

 

[Erik Mesoy]

Generally speaking, I think asking out co-workers is just asking for trouble.

Seconded, and I don't ask people out in general.

 

[Yeeek]

Kind of odd that people think that, a lot of my relatives met at their work place. Can't tell if they were in the same office/bureau but they were working at the same place.

Guess i will ask her out, because if i don't (i'm going to work elsewhere in a month) i know i will regret it.

 

[BCLG100]

Kind of odd that people think that, a lot of my relatives met at their work place. Can't tell if they were in the same office/bureau but they were working at the same place.

Guess i will ask her out, because if i don't (i'm going to work elsewhere in a month) i know i will regret it.

oh well thats a different matter then, go for it and goodluck

 

[Masquerouge]

(i'm going to work elsewhere in a month) i know i will regret it.

Why oh why did you not tell this before?

 

[Sidhe]

I lust after one of my co workers, but it's a lack of a social situation that makes me think twice about asking her out, she is in a relationship isn't she, I don't know now, it's more cowardice than logic that makes me hold my cards to my chest. Oh she knows I like her, at least I think she does, but I cannot be sure, woman aren't psychic are they If only I had balls of steel, but I've never been one to be forward.

This is me in a nutshell, 2 years of longing but never the courage to try :/

seven days was all she wrote
A kind of ultimatum note
She gave to me, she gave to me
When I thought the field had cleared
It seems another suit appeared
To challenge me, woe is me
Though I hate to make a choice
My options are decreasing mostly rapidly
Well well see
I dont think shed bluff this time
I really have to make her mine
Its plain to see
Its him or me

Monday, I could wait till tuesday
If I make up my mind
Wednesday would be fine, thursdays on my mind
Friday'd give me time, saturday could wait
But sunday'd be too late

The fact that hes six feet ten
Might instill fear in other men
But not in me, the mighty flea (flee? )
Ask if I am mouse or man
The mirror squeaked, away I ran
Hell murder me in time for his tea
Does it bother me at all
My rival is neanderthal, it makes me think
Perhaps I need a drink
Iq is no problem here
We wont be playing scrabble for her hand I fear
I need that beer

Monday, I could wait till tuesday
If I make up my mind
Wednesday would be fine, thursdays on my mind
Friday'd give me time, saturday could wait
But sunday'd be too late

Seven days will quickly go
The fact remains, I love her so
Seven days, so many ways
But I cant run away

Monday, I could wait till tuesday
If I make up my mind
Wednesday would be fine, thursdays on my mind
Friday'd give me time, saturday could wait
But sunday'd be too late
Do I have to tell a story
Of a thousand rainy days since we first met
Its a big enough umbrella
But its always me that ends up getting wet

Gird your loins and go for it if your going to be gone in a month, what's the worst that can happen?

Don't be like me.

 

[BCLG100]

Im not sure why sidhe but i thought you were married

 

[Sidhe]

Im not sure why sidhe but i thought you were married

Oh I could be if I had some courage, hmm I really need to try something, I think, therin lies the rub I think too much

 

[BCLG100]

Oh I could be if I had some courage, hmm I really need to try something, I think, therin lies the rub I think too much

may as well give it a go, when it comes down to it you've got everything to gain and nothing to lose (cept self respect-but thats waaaaaaay over valued)

 

[Sidhe]

may as well give it a go, when it comes down to it you've got everything to gain and nothing to lose (cept self respect-but thats waaaaaaay over valued)

You're right, I have little self respect when it comes to the heart anyway from some experience, what's better pride/lost chances at love? I should take crawling a mile over broken glass just to stand in her dismissive shadow over pride every time, what hurts more not knowing or the truth though? And again I'm over thinking the situation, we'll see?