So, would you? or another girl question.

[Neonanocyborgasm]

Would you ask a co-worker (a woman in this case) to go out sometime, for a drink. Knowing that she does have a kid, not married but is with someone at the moment. Though its still cloudy in your mind because she never said the words exactly if she is single or not. You've been working with her for a year now. You've been out already with her but you weren't alone, always with other people around. You suspect that she knows you've got something for her, nothing serious, but she is attractive to you.

There is a somewhat synergy between the two of you, you like her, she does too its obvious (at least you believe she does but perhaps not in the way you would like). Not in the mood when she call in sick and not at work with you. That kind of stuff ya'know. But there is still many questions coming back everytimes you are about to ask her. What if she's in a serious relationship, how she will react, will it destroy the friendship between you and her. Also, if you ask her and she say yes, maybe she will just believe its a friendly date, i mean just a drink between two friend.

Meh I guess i could just have asked this like that : Do you believe its very wrong to try and date a married woman (or in a serious relationship).

I have no idea what you just said, but I'm going to summarize my answer in one sentence:

All is fair in love and war.

 

[BCLG100]

You're right, I have little self respect when it comes to the heart anyway from some experience, what's better pride/lost chances at love? I'll should take crawling a mile over broken glass just to stand in her dismissive shadow over pride every time, what hurts more not knowing or the truth though? And again I'm over thinking the situation, we'll see?

Not knowing to me, i'td drive me crazy at least once you know you can do something about it-hook up or move on

 

[Sidhe]

Not knowing to me, i'td drive me crazy at least once you know you can do something about it-hook up or move on

You're wise beyond your years, and I thank you for it

Unrequited love is wasted lust. Let's not be romantic about it.

 

[King Flevance]

Meh I guess i could just have asked this like that : Do you believe its very wrong to try and date a married woman (or in a serious relationship).

I do. I also think it unwise to get involved at a workplace. Unless you're under 20.

 

[7ronin]

I think you are asking for trouble. Particularly, if you intend to try and break up what you describe as perhaps being a "serious relationship." It also strikes me as being on the low and underhanded side. Supposing she does dump this other guy to be with you. How could you ever trust her?

 

[BCLG100]

You're wise beyond your years, and I thank you for it

Unrequited love is wasted lust. Let's not be romantic about it.

thanks but it's all well and good thinking such thoughts at 20 past 12 on an internet forums about games-its a complete other thing to actually go through and do something, however i do wish you the best of luck and can you imagine how good it would feel if you asked her out on a date and she turned round and said yes?

 

[usarmy18]

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[CaptainF]

I would tread lightly if I were you.

Go after it if she's not married, but realize that you are on thin freaking ice.

 

[shortguy]

I don't know about you, but when I leave work I try to get as far away as possible. I don't think it's a good idea.

 

[Narz]

Meh I guess i could just have asked this like that : Do you believe its very wrong to try and date a married woman (or in a serious relationship).

I wouldn't trust a married woman who wanted to "date" me.

Now if she was going thru a divorce... well, I still wouldn't "date" her but I might be "friendly" with her assuming I didn't have an exclusive relationship myself.

 

[Mulholland]

I lust after one of my co workers, but it's a lack of a social situation that makes me think twice about asking her out, she is in a relationship isn't she, I don't know now, it's more cowardice than logic that makes me hold my cards to my chest. Oh she knows I like her, at least I think she does, but I cannot be sure, woman aren't psychic are they If only I had balls of steel, but I've never been one to be forward.

This is me in a nutshell, 2 years of longing but never the courage to try :/



Gird your loins and go for it if your going to be gone in a month, what's the worst that can happen?

Don't be like me.

Give'er. Try! But not too hard. It's probably not going to work out. From experience holding back emotions for so long puts you in the friendship category, but again nothing ventured... As for me After a Year of trying(too hard) I finally gave up. Best advice is take a hint; good women don't want to hurt you.

Edit:Btw, if it's your good mate, tell him first, do the honourable thing.

 

[downtown]

I wouldn't ask her out. If she's got a kid, I bet her pooter is wide as the freakin Grand Canyon.

WOW. You generalize much? Guess your mom is a dirty slut huh!

Anyways, I think its a pretty bad idea. First of all, its usually BAD news to go after a co-worker, as many other posters have pointed out. Second...you have to find out if the relationship is serious. Its waaay underhand and low to try and mess that up. How would you like that if somebody tried that with your woman?

Its bad news. I vote no.

 

[usarmy18]

WOW. You generalize much? Guess your mom is a dirty slut huh!

Ok, so me commenting on the fact that if she had a natural child birth that her vaginal muscles would be really loose automatically equates to my mom being a dirty slut. Alrighty then.

Matt, you do realize that children come down the vagina during childbirth right?

 

[shadow2k]

Don't date a woman with a kid unless you're ready to be a father. It's a package deal.

 

[ComradeDavo]

Would you ask a co-worker (a woman in this case) to go out sometime, for a drink. Knowing that she does have a kid, not married but is with someone at the moment. Though its still cloudy in your mind because she never said the words exactly if she is single or not. You've been working with her for a year now. You've been out already with her but you weren't alone, always with other people around. You suspect that she knows you've got something for her, nothing serious, but she is attractive to you.

There is a somewhat synergy between the two of you, you like her, she does too its obvious (at least you believe she does but perhaps not in the way you would like). Not in the mood when she call in sick and not at work with you. That kind of stuff ya'know. But there is still many questions coming back everytimes you are about to ask her. What if she's in a serious relationship, how she will react, will it destroy the friendship between you and her. Also, if you ask her and she say yes, maybe she will just believe its a friendly date, i mean just a drink between two friend.

Meh I guess i could just have asked this like that : Do you believe its very wrong to try and date a married woman (or in a serious relationship).

I'd wait intill I knew more about her current relationship - i.e. is she happy with it? And would she be willing to end it?

 

[Grisu]

personally I wouldn't go after a woman who's into a serious relationship.

the problem is, if she values her relationship she turns you down. If she however doesn't turn you down, then she's not the kind of woman I want to be with (willing to cheat on her bf and all...)

the kid wouldn't be a problem for me, though

 

[Marshy]

Oh I could be if I had some courage, hmm I really need to try something, I think, therin lies the rub I think too much

This is why god invented alchohol .

 

[truckingpete]

I would tread lightly if I were you.

Go after it if she's not married, but realize that you are on thin freaking ice.

He can easily get off the ice..forget about her, which is really hard most likely, but possible. I say no though, but hey, it would suck if you didn't ask her, then probably regret it in the future, you just never know....

 

[BCLG100]

This is why god invented alchohol .

explain to me his reasoning behind 'alcopops' then?

 

[Desmond Hawkins]

If you want the job to be pleasant and bearable in the long-term I wouldn't do it.

Whether she is single or not is beside the point.