The point is that rationalists claim they cannot find God, or lack evidence of proof of God (which is what this topic is about), and I'm saying that they're using the wrong part of their being to be found by God. All relationships come through the heart. Only some really cold person sets up a relationship based upon logic, "Come dear, be my spouse because it is logical. Love isn't important."
This is a caricature of the sceptic's position. Certainly a loving relationship is based on more than cold logic and evidence, but it's not contradictory to logic and evidence either. For example, if my wife spent her time bitterly denouncing me, beating me up, and cheating on me, I'd probably conclude that she doesn't love me. This would be a conclusion based on the evidence. That's rather a clinical way of describing it, but that's what it would be. If, on the other hand, my wife spent her time giving me presents, saying that she loves me, and putting up with me spending all my spare moments bickering with people on the Internet, I might think that she does love me. That too is a conclusion based on evidence. And yes, I'll agree that there's more to it than that; but it doesn't contradict that. No-one will believe that someone loves them/doesn't love them if the person's behaviour is inconsistent with this belief. And if they do believe it, they're deluded, like Crysania's belief that Raistlin loves her really even though he treats her callously.
Now it sounds like you're saying that religious belief has nothing to do with evidence or how the situation seems. In that case you're saying that religious belief isn't really like a loving relationship at all. A person who believes that their spouse loves them even though they never perceive any behaviour from their spouse to indicate this, and indeed never even see their spouse at all or have any good reason to think they even have a spouse, is not a person with a "healthy heart", as you call it. But this seems to be more closely analogous to the picture you're painting of religious belief.
You're basically denying that religious belief has any cognitive element at all. But that's just as unrealistic as the opposite mistake that it's purely cognitive and has no affective element. It's got both. Your loving response to God has to be based, or at least presuppose, some kind of intellectual assent to God's existence, or it's simply irrational - and, worse, arbitrary. Because why make a loving response to God, and not to Allah, or Brahma, or for that matter Satan, or indeed Manwë?
A lot of skeptics will want to believe in God by evidence, but rather it's a relationship based upon faith. But the secret is that we cannot find God and approach the Light and so be called because of FEAR of their deeds being disclosed. If we freely admit that we sinned, not to be condemned by our actions, but rather that we "missed the target", and ask to approach the Light, not fearing our deeds that cannot earn our way into Heaven, then we can be be called. Some people hate the Light and so cannot approach it.
Here again, the problem is that I can't "ask to approach the Light" if I don't think it's there. It's a serious error to think that people refuse to do this purely because they "hate the Light". I don't hate the Light at all, I just don't think it exists. If I did think it existed I'd certainly want to approach it. But given that I don't, I can't rationally ask to approach it - indeed I don't think I can ask this at all in any meaningful way.