Try talking about things that matter to you. These hours-in-the-night discussions aren't about inane things like the weather and the results of the latest sportsball game. It's easy to talk for hours if your partner shares your interest in a subject. You've put days into talking to us. Just pretend the girl is someone you disagree with on CFC.
That's the worst advice imaginable. I usually go on CFC when I need advice or to argue politics. I can pick and choose a discussion, insert myself precisely where I want to be and also have as much time as I want to make responses.
Just look my entry to this
thread here (the very last post). Is that how you recall meeting your girlfriend? Information-dumping about obscure topics?
Ask them about who they are and what they're interested in. Ask them questions about those interests.
What does that mean? I can never get out of 'interview mode' and so I run out of things to say very quickly.
Try to match your level of discourse to them and how deep they're willing to go on the topic. Listen to their answers and ask follow-up questions. When they ask you about your interests, be earnest, but stay in-tune to their reactions/mood. Don't push if you're losing your audience and try not to gush. If you have a strong opinion on something, it's fine to assert it. But don't be a dick about it. The cliché'd advice is just to let the girl do all the talking, but this is bad (and sexist!) advice.
Funny, girls hardly seem to ever say anything to me. I don't think I'm ugly and I don't have a weird hairstyle or clothes, so clearly something about my personality is putting them off.
People who sit back and go "uh-huh" a lot are not memorable and you won't find yourself getting very far in the dating scene doing that.
My first conversation with my recent... crush... had me doing all the talking. I know this and it isn't helping.
You want to make an impression on her. Keep in mind that you can just as easily do that by asking really good, interesting questions, as you can by blathering about cool stories about you or whatever.
I have no idea what you mean by good or interesting. I asked a girl what she was studying psychology for, and she said she was considering being a therapist. What would I say to keep the conversation going? I don't know anything about psychology or therapy and thus can't commentate in any meaningful way.
Mostly just pay attention to the person you're talking to and adjust topics/mode of discourse according to how your audience is responding.
There's literally no advice here, dude. You might as well say "spin the pedals clockwise with your feet" to teach me how to ride a bike.
Or you can just flip the script. Someone with whom you find you have a hard time carrying on a conversation for 10 minutes is probably not going to make for a very good romantic partner. You should be looking for someone with whom you can chat for hours on end without even thinking about it.
i.e. you'll be alone forever because no one is compatible with you. (I know that's not what you mean but it's clearly a corollary of this.)
