Tinder?

[MagisterCultuum]

I thought you could read people's profile? It's just picture based?

Just picture unless it was changed recently. You can't even send messages until both parties have swiped to the right.

There are profiles

Typically everyone keeps it less than 3 sentences

There are profiles, but you have to click on a picture first in order to read them. They make it easier to just swipe left or right (or click the X, Heart, Star, or return arrow) than to read the profile. As I said, I accidentally swiped up and "superliked" several profiles when I was trying to just click them for more info.

I'd say that most of the profiles have one sentence or less, but that those with more than two tend to have more like 8.

One that I would have superliked had I the option had several paragraphs about her background and several more about the thesis she is working on for her PhD in Economics.

Based on the profiles I have read, the typical female Tinder user is enamored with puppies, tattoos, marijuana, and whiskey. A significant minority however use their profile to emphasize how much they love Jesus and are only interested in Godly men who want serious relationships and would never consider a hookup.

I tried it for the first time on my trip to Norway, and would "like" a couple girls here and there during downtime, but didn't really have much time for it. Spent a small amount of time setting up my profile, and for some reason it got populated with 100s of my "like"s on facebook. There's stuff like E.T. and humour sites on it, Civ, video games, Space Balls, some silly stuff, etc. so I wanted to remove some of that, but.. there's no way. So I figured that hurt my chances if they saw a bunch of video games or whatever, so I didn't put too much effort into it. App feels gimmicky the way it is set up. Anyway, out of all the matches I got, the most positive one ended up being a bot, which tried to send me to a sex site.

I've fixed up my profile since, and got a couple matches here and there, but have been too lazy to do a follow up.

I believe that it is set up so that no one on Tinder can see any of your Facebook "likes" unless they have "liked" the same things too. Unless they liked those things ironically and don't believe you did, liking more things should only help.

 

[Kennigit]

Just make a fake facebook

 

[Narz]

Tinder looks absolutely terrifying. I don't know how ya'll have the chops for the steady stream of rejection that seems to flow from online interactions. My skin never actually got all that thick even when I was half decent(for me) at the game.

Being a man is dealing with constant rejection to find a diamond in the rough, may as well get used to it. The only other option is settling for the first lame chick who comes at you.

 

[Borachio]

Tinder's that stuff you use to light a fire, right?

I guess it's an appropriate name for a dating site, then.

Mind you don't burn your fingers. Or burn someone else's.

 

[Narz]

Silly Borachio, fingers can't get STDs!

 

[Farm Boy]

Being a man is dealing with constant rejection to find a diamond in the rough, may as well get used to it. The only other option is settling for the first lame chick who comes at you.

Of course. But there are differences! Unless your approach is particularly d-baggy a lot of interpersonal rejections aren't particularly unpleasant. So you can have a nice short exchange with somebody. Talking with people is good. Particularly when it's face to face enough that you realize a lot of women are just a nervous and silly as you are. An approach or two a night is a bit different than what tinder seems* to my old for this game and undoubtedly not seeing super clearly eyes.

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Spoiler :

Link to video.

But ah well. I'm never really sure what to do with "settling" being mentioned like a bad thing. I never had choirs of angels tell me omg she's the one! I never passed out from immediate blood loss to my brain. But most women I've gotten to know, except for some creepy ones that hold it deeper under wraps, are pretty lame when it comes down to it. Which makes sense! My friends and I are super lame too, so it's a matter of finding lame people who are into you and some of things you're into. So, while I didn't settle for the first girl or three I dated, I'm still plenty happy with the lame one I did settle for. It's a bit bewildering that she's still satisfied with me.

 

[bhavv]

Internet dating sites are literally vile.

 

[Mango Elephant]

I love Tinder! I don't get how it's a "hook-up" app, because I've maybe had two or three people who actually asked to have sex after matching. Everyone else just doesn't message, or they want to go on a date.

I actually haven't really met many people off Tinder irl, but it's nice to have that validation when a hot guy likes you back.

 

[ZeletDude]

No... I find it super sketchy. Plus it's easy enough to find girls in college

 

[_random_]

I've tried it and had pretty much no success. I'm seldom photographed, and even more seldom photographed in interesting situations where I look good, and I'm not good at icebreaking, so I'm really not the market for it.

I did find that I got a fair number of non-spambot matches when I was visiting St. Louis. I didn't actually do anything since I was only in town for a few days, but knowing I'm apparently St. Louis hot is a decent confidence boost.

 

[caketastydelish]

I tried it for the first time on my trip to Norway, and would "like" a couple girls here and there during downtime, but didn't really have much time for it. Spent a small amount of time setting up my profile, and for some reason it got populated with 100s of my "like"s on facebook. There's stuff like E.T. and humour sites on it, Civ, video games, Space Balls, some silly stuff, etc. so I wanted to remove some of that, but.. there's no way. So I figured that hurt my chances if they saw a bunch of video games or whatever, so I didn't put too much effort into it. App feels gimmicky the way it is set up. Anyway, out of all the matches I got, the most positive one ended up being a bot, which tried to send me to a sex site.

I've fixed up my profile since, and got a couple matches here and there, but have been too lazy to do a follow up.

Literally everyone I got was a spambot. That's why I stopped using tinder.

I've tried it and had pretty much no success. I'm seldom photographed, and even more seldom photographed in interesting situations where I look good, and I'm not good at icebreaking, so I'm really not the market for it.

I did find that I got a fair number of non-spambot matches when I was visiting St. Louis. I didn't actually do anything since I was only in town for a few days, but knowing I'm apparently St. Louis hot is a decent confidence boost.

I don't have any matches either. I've given up on ever having a girlfriend, and I'm actually being completely serious.

 

[_random_]

I've been there, man. I really don't think the online thing is for me. I have been talking to a girl I met in meatspace a couple years back and decided to drunk text and we actually have a ton in common, so maybe that'll go somewhere. Or maybe not. I dunno, optimism and pessimism both tend to screw me over. Aristotle was probably onto something when he described virtue as an avoidance of extremes.

 

[warpus]

I believe that it is set up so that no one on Tinder can see any of your Facebook "likes" unless they have "liked" the same things too. Unless they liked those things ironically and don't believe you did, liking more things should only help.

Oh REALLY... Well, that makes a lot more sense then.

 

[Kennigit]

yea that is the case; you only see mutually liked items for facebook

you can tie in an instagram account with more pictures though.

 

[Quintillus]

I've never personally used it, and am less likely to if it requires Facebook since I hardly used that in 2015, but have a good friend who met his girlfriend of over a year via Tinder. And it's actually gone quite well for them. They're pretty well-rounded, normal people, and I get along with her just as well as my long-time friend.

Of course, they could be the exception, and it may be unlikely that two compatible people both looking for a relationship and who would hit it off would meet through it... but while I might otherwise have rejected it as "clearly a hook-up app" or similar, I might consider it at some point since I personally know a success story originating from it. Don't have any particular plans to try it at this point though.

 

[Hygro]

TIL that the software that keeps pairing me up with stupid teammates also pairs up strangers on Tinder.

The article wasn't terrible precise so this is my guess:

You're matched on a ladder system and the more you swipe right with no reception, the poorer you do. If you swipe right indiscriminately and low ranking people aren't swiping right back, your ranking is utterly tanked and very few people are even seeing your profile.

Only swipe on people you really want.

 

[Rashiminos]

The player count is rather high, or so I hear.

My buddy (also Berkeley) swears that sending long messages on tinder is a winning strat. I haven't ever used Tinder but I find that highly dubious. Is there something about Tinder that brings out such cretinous men that long texts work better than short?

Yes. It works as a feeding ground for somewhat skilled PUA types. Then the obviously cretinous (ones) attempt to duplicate that performance.

 

[warpus]

The article wasn't terrible precise so this is my guess:

You're matched on a ladder system and the more you swipe right with no reception, the poorer you do. If you swipe right indiscriminately and low ranking people aren't swiping right back, your ranking is utterly tanked and very few people are even seeing your profile.

Only swipe on people you really want.

I don't know, a lot of people say that the best strategy is to swipe right on everyone and then deal with the matches. That seems to work for people, but I mean, I'm probably out of the loop on this one.