When you got misunderstood

[Pegasus_77]

Share your moments when you got misunderstood.

 

[Camikaze]

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[Pegasus_77]

Last year, a teacher of mine was introducing the rules of debate but he kept talking about some silly topics, like online shopping vs store shopping, junk food vs healthy meals. what was worse, he simply instigated my classmates to act aggressively, with little deep analysis involved.
When he left us discuss, I raised my hands and he came to me. I said that his topics were sort of boring ,having little debate values. As soon as I finished, he flared up and immediately went back to the front of the classroom and told people not to question his authority since he was an experienced teacher. I then added that I had participated some British parliamentary debate contests before, which were drastically different from the debate he was saying. Hearing this, he got even angrier. I was startled because I didnt expect he would think my words were offensive. Everybody was staring at me.....he and I later got silent.
Actually, in the first place, I was just wondering why he kept talking about those topics rather than the current affairs or controversial topics. Maybe he was just too emotional then. He shall have listened all I wanted to say.
A few days later, I heard from my friend that someone else I didnt know called me a cocky jerk because in that class, I “said” I was better than the teacher. I got speechless and embarrassed,thinking my reputation was ruined already.

 

[Harv]

Pretty much every day. How about I get misunderstood every time I try to tell a funny joke to a girl.

Do you know what the difference is between "looking good" and "good looking?"
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About ten pounds
.....

 

[Pegasus_77]

so, in other words, I was notorious, in the eyes of some people.

 

[Pegasus_77]

Pretty much every day. How about I get misunderstood every time I try to tell a funny joke to a girl.

Do you know what the difference is between "looking good" and "good looking?"
.....
About ten pounds
.....

So you have a lot of girls to tell jokes to?awesome

 

[Borachio]

So there I was sharing a vegetarian meal with some T'ai Chi chums, who I didn't know terribly well.

"And what do you do for a living?" the quite stunningly ugly Chinese girl, sitting opposite me, asked.

"I'm a docker," I said.

"Oh, yes? Which hospital do you work at, or are you a GP?"

(I was seriously out of my class, that evening, I can tell you.)

 

[Pegasus_77]

So there I was sharing a vegetarian meal with some T'ai Chi chums, who I didn't know terribly well.
"And what do you do for a living?" the quite stunningly ugly Chinese girl, sitting opposite me, asked.
"I'm a docker," I said.
"Oh, yes? Which hospital do you work at, or are you a GP?"
(I was seriously out of my class, that evening, I can tell you.)

lol.
what happened later?you shall have spelled that word to her.

 

[Borachio]

Nothing much happened. I think I could have chatted her up (in my typical cack-handed way). She was quite pleasant and intelligent. But some people are just too ugly for me. Poor girl. It wasn't her fault. She also told me she was a Buddhist. And when I asked what sort of Buddhist she was, she said "you know, just Buddhist". Which might have been ignorance (there are different kinds of Buddhist after all), or simple unwillingness to talk about it.

That was a seriously New Agey bunch, though. And we were never going to see eye-to-eye.

One of them even told me I had "bad energy", which sort of took me aback (and still does, when I think about it). I drifted away not long after, iirc.

 

[Kyriakos]

Pretty much every day. How about I get misunderstood every time I try to tell a funny joke to a girl.

Do you know what the difference is between "looking good" and "good looking?"
.....
About ten pounds
.....

Reminds me of a good joke posted in the humor forum here. Along those lines:

<Guytalking to two large girls> I noticed your accent, are you girls from Scotland?
<Girl> That is Wales, you idiot.
<Guytalking to two large girls> I am deeply sorry... So are you two whales from Scotland?

(death).

 

[sophie]

ITT: Being a dick to your teacher does not, in fact, make you a hit with the ladies.

 

[H4run]

Nothing much happened. I think I could have chatted her up (in my typical cack-handed way). She was quite pleasant and intelligent. But some people are just too ugly for me. Poor girl. It wasn't her fault. She also told me she was a Buddhist. And when I asked what sort of Buddhist she was, she said "you know, just Buddhist". Which might have been ignorance (there are different kinds of Buddhist after all), or simple unwillingness to talk about it.

That was a seriously New Agey bunch, though. And we were never going to see eye-to-eye.

One of them even told me I had "bad energy", which sort of took me aback (and still does, when I think about it). I drifted away not long after, iirc.

bad energy, take it positively, in the new agey dictionary bad energy mean you need to take more bath with a salty water to reduce and detach the negative energy.

Man I was miss understood once and it really made me so annoy. So one of the student making presentation, and the teacher ask him a question, and he answer but not directly, but with a lot of background and prior argument (which is so long) before get into the answer, however time running short, the teacher warn him "but please just answer my question" and again he circling around, until my teacher get quite angry and becoming a little bit harsh to him.

He look so sad and shock, and I feel really sorry for him. And after the class is over I told him

"I understand your feeling, both of us are asian and we usually make our argument circular before we come to the point, unlike mostly the typical western graduate which argue directly to the point".

And he get it wrong, he think I am mocking at him, when I try to made him understand that it is not my intention my american friend kidding at me and drag me away from him (darn him also he made the thing worse!) after that he start to complain about the teacher in his facebook (uff) and the day after I told him
"so you really angry at the teacher?"
and he answer "and you also why you tell me I beating around the bush?" I told him "I never told you that!"
he answer "but you imply it".

And I tell him "my intention for you is good and innocent while the way you precieve it is very much the opposite, I even tell you you pretty much like me, why should I mock you if I compare your behaviour (circular answer) with mine because of our education background and cultural background?"

And after I discuss with him, he seems to bit calm, but man that thing is really annoy me, and I promise to myself, never to help and be kind to peoples without invitation, sometime peoples don't want to be help and I let them be like that until they asked me to help or to make them feel better.

 

[Phrossack]

In Bavaria, I couldn't understand anyone and would ask them to clarify. They answered in English, thinking I couldn't speak German. Actually, I just can't speak Bavarian.

 

[Hygro]

I have a friend who treats me like he believes I'm a closet MRA racist.

He listens for tropes, not to content. It's much easier to listen for tropes and to speak in tropes gets you laid faster. It's greasier and grease makes everything easier. It's a shame, because he's real smart.

 

[Phrossack]

I have a friend who treats me like he believes I'm a closet MRA racist.

He listens for tropes, not to content. It's much easier to listen for tropes and to speak in tropes gets you laid faster. It's greasier and grease makes everything easier. It's a shame, because he's real smart.

I get that vibe here a lot, too. It's worse on the internet than in person, because when a lot of people in online debates read what you write, they're specifically searching for ways to counter or attack your argument--or you-- rather than trying to understand your argument. I'd say we're all guilty of this at some point or another.

Another misunderstanding in Germany: A few people I met were convinced I was Russian for some reason. They thought I looked Russian, acted Russian, and spoke German with a Russian accent. I'm not even slightly Russian.

 

[Antilogic]

Kochman.

'nuff said.

 

[Cutlass]

Kochman.

'nuff said.

 

[Harv]

Reminds me of a good joke posted in the humor forum here. Along those lines:

Just when I thought I had the complete list of things not to say to a lady, I run into another one!

I get that vibe here a lot, too. It's worse on the internet than in person, because when a lot of people in online debates read what you write, they're specifically searching for ways to counter or attack your argument--or you-- rather than trying to understand your argument. I'd say we're all guilty of this at some point or another.

It happens. Maybe you have to understand the person before understanding the argument. There are also things you can say on an internet forum that you cannot say in a bar.

 

[Phrossack]

It happens. Maybe you have to understand the person before understanding the argument. There are also things you can say on an internet forum that you cannot say in a bar.

Face-to-face discussions aren't anonymous, and usually happen in either a public or a private but friendly place, so there are social consequences to being a dick.

Also, your nose is within reach of their fist.

 

[Hygro]

I get that vibe here a lot, too. It's worse on the internet than in person, because when a lot of people in online debates read what you write, they're specifically searching for ways to counter or attack your argument--or you-- rather than trying to understand your argument. I'd say we're all guilty of this at some point or another..

Yeah, it happens here a lot too. But the cool posters do it less, and the less cool posters do it exclusively, so it's pretty easy not to worry too much when someone can't understand what you mean

Like, if someone's looking for how to attack your argument without understanding it, they're gonna do a pretty terrible job attacking it, and they look like a dweeb to those actually following along. Yeah, I wrote dweeb.