Would u date and marry a divorcee with kids ??

[IglooDame]

IIRC, your soon to be wife has more or less grown up kid(s). Would that make a difference?

When I was 8 years old, my mother (32 at that time) married a 25 year old guy (with a FIAT 128 ) . At the time I really had no idea this was anything special. Right now, I understand that being 32, having 2 kids, and still finding a 25 year old bloke with a FIAT to marry you, simply means my mother is the most superb woman on earth !
A more serious note: I completely fail to see why he did it. Next week they celebrate their 23rd wedding anniversary, so all is well .

What the kids are like makes more of a difference, but yes, their near-adult ages make it more positive. I'm not sure I'd hook up with a woman that had an 8-year-old version of you running around.

 

[Stapel]

I'm not sure I'd hook up with a woman that had an 8-year-old version of you running around.

I used to be a good boy, when I was 8!

 

[IglooDame]

I used to be a good boy, when I was 8!

Ah, well, okay then. In that case I'd hook up with your mom and keep you on the straight-and-narrow.

 

[ManOfMiracles]

I once dated someone who had two kids. It only lasted until he found someone hot on the internet. I laughed my backside off when he found out she was a total FruitLoop. I still wonder how the kids are...

 

[Comraddict]

all what this poll can show is that ladies do not post or visit here.

 

[amadeus]

Nope. For one thing, I'm 19, so any woman divorced in my age range is someone I should be wary of in the first place.

Also, anyone who has a kid at 19 is in my opinion pretty much just plain irresponsible. I'm on a no-children diet, and I'm going to stay that way.

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[Ramius75]

all what this poll can show is that ladies do not post or visit here.

This i have to agreed with u. I thought there were more females around here...

Initially, i wanted to find out if females are more acceptance to divorcee with kids or males. But too little info to make the judgement thou.

For my case, im not sure if I can accept a partner with kid/kids of her own. Mostly coz im not ready yet to be a father, not ready for fatherhood. But if there is one that can make me to commit, i will love the kid/kids as my own. No doubt about it.

Ramius

 

[HighlandWarrior]

If i already had my own kids and was widowed or divorced maybe. If i didnt have any kids, hell no! They're not my kids, they wont show me any respect "your not my dad whine whine whine".

 

[Azhure]

I chose the "Yes and Im a lady" option. I have kids myself (and am happily married), and if I found myself single again now I would definitely date somebody who had kids too.

But I would have said no back when I was younger, single and childless myself. Kids are a huge responsibility and I wouldn't have wanted to take on somebody elses in my early 20's for instance.

 

[GenMarshall]

Nope. For one thing, I'm 19, so any woman divorced in my age range is someone I should be wary of in the first place.

Also, anyone who has a kid at 19 is in my opinion pretty much just plain irresponsible. I'm on a no-children diet, and I'm going to stay that way.

I dont know of any divorcies that are within my age range. I am guessing that they are probhibly from marrages from high school sweethearts that turned sour or a girl getting pregnent and has to get married to her boyfreind (A classic Shotgun wedding).

I have rarely encountered a divorced girl or a single mother that never married

 

[Syterion]

I hate to say it, but I probably wouldn't. I for one really, really want any kids I raise to be one-hundred percent mine. I'm serious, I feel very strongly that I want my genes to be passed on. If I had to date someone with kids, I'd always be suspicious that if he was "mine", he wouldn't have done that, or if he wasn't that smart/strong/anything, my kid would have been. I think I feel to myself that my genes, to me, are superior. It sounds elitist, but I think it is justifiable to want to spend half my life raising something that to me isn't a waste of time. I basically want a kid that at least has some characteristics of mine.

 

[stormbind]

Yes, because any guy who manages to keep the kids after a divorce is obviously really amazing to begin with.

I think you are on a different wavelength. The poll never suggested to me that the kids had to be living with the father.

In the real world, kids stay with the mother, because that's what the law demands.

 

[stormbind]

"your not my dad whine whine whine".

It is obviously a scenario thwart with complications. I think, unless the children were actually responsible, it would be incredibly awkward for the intruder.

It's not a situation I wish to imagine myself in. Not gonna vote

 

[Shadylookin]

No. firstly I can't legally get hitched for another month(and that's assuming my parents would consent to it) secondly any divorced women close to my age(I'd say 21 or less) that has kids has some issues that I don't want to involve myself in. thirdly a divorced woman with kids will probably not have any interest in me. And lastly I have no interest(at this time though I might in the future) in raising children especially children that don't carry on my excellent genes. I would date a divorcee's teenage daughter though

 

[ManOfMiracles]

I think you are on a different wavelength. The poll never suggested to me that the kids had to be living with the father.

In the real world, kids stay with the mother, because that's what the law demands.

Actually the poll could suggest that to any female voters to put things on an even keel. It might make a difference whether you are dating the parent who has the kids the majority of the time or the one who sees them once a month + alternate holidays.

The "law" is too biased. Some very unfit mothers have been allowed to keep their children. I wish the father's rights movement would pick up more steam.

 

[GenMarshall]

Just out of curiosity, Why would anyone want to date a divorced woman or a single mother that never married?

 

[alphanav1]

Just out of curiosity, Why would anyone want to date a divorced woman or a single mother that never married?

Why not?

As long as the woman was someone, I want to be commited to there is no reason not to. There is nothing wrong with people who have been divorced, and there is nothing wrong with single mothers that never married.

 

[PlutonianEmpire]

Curt, why solo? Why not at least a Curtess? I imagine it must be nice to have someone to Snip

I like that!
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[Quasar1011]

I am currently dating a lady with 3 sons. But they are ages 16-18, so they are pretty much grown up. I don't see that marrying her would be a problem, for reasons of her kids. But it has been a problem with other women I have gone out with. So, it really depends on the woman...

 

[Stapel]

In the real world, kids stay with the mother, because that's what the law demands.

I know quite some kids that stayed with daddy. It's not really common, but it does depend on the situation a lot.
A woman leaving her family for an old love (happened with my neighbours 15 years ago), absolutely has no chance to keep the kids (here in NL), unless the father agrees.

A friend of mine (and his sister) had a week-mammy / week daddy arangement when he was 10, but his father got his life 'back on track' pretty soon, and remarried with a women with two daughters. Since his mother didn't have her life on track so soon (a sad story in itself), he has lived with his dad until 18.