Ryika
Lazy Wannabe Artista
- Joined
- Aug 30, 2013
- Messages
- 9,393
No of course it's not just hormones, but it's certainly built on them.No, that is not rude at all. I appreciate us having a nice discussion on a pleasant topic like this. I am not so sure that all feelings are caused by hormones, or lack thereof. What about ambivalency? Or preference? Is my adoration towards, say my favorite director, only really a culmination of all the serotonin rushes I had while watching one of his movies, or is it rather my contemplation of the philosophical implications that the movie proposes?
Even if love was 'just' hormones, that is still a pretty reductive view, no? Hormones flow every second, love, as you propose it, would be a symphony of chemical reactions in your brain that mirror every moment of your life, since obviously the outside world gives us the stimuli to which our brain reacts. That still sounds very romantic to me. Guernica is also "just colours on a canvas"
Whether or not, say "platonic love" really is "just hormones" is a really complex question I don't think any of us can answer convincingly.
But let's stick with that movie director for a moment: Yes, your adoration towards your favorite director is of course more than just the amount of times he or she made you feel something special. It's also what you make out of those moments, how you combine those moments into a greater picture, what they inspired you to think about, etc. etc. - but without those initial rushes, there just isn't anything. If a creator does not make you feel something special, then you can't "choose" that they are your favorite director. Even if you understand that what they're doing is great, that you have respect for the work, that on an intellectual or practical level they are the best director you know... if their movies for some reason don't connect with you emotionally, you cannot force it.
The same is true for love in my opinion. If hormones never cause you to have that initial feeling of love, the "love sickness" that some people would call it, then you can never arrive at a loving relationship. You simply do not have the "choice" to love somebody if there is no hormonal basis for it.