Add Gender Options in the sidebar

[dusters]

Regarding "Dear Abby", some people just like to rant no matter the gender or anything They want to be pitied, they crave attention and that's all. Don't try to solve their problems, because without problems they can't be pitied no more.

I'm unsure if there is anything to discuss about it. I can't think of a decent opener for a topic like this. I would participiate in it, althought i feel very uncomfortable saying things like "men debate like this and women like that". I'm not a professional psychologist who has hundreds of case studies to have statistical basis for such statements. I'm a japanese girl living in Latvia, which is a east-europian country and that's a difference compared to USA and other big Western countries as well, so my opinion would come from quite a different background.

 

[sophie]

How about we just refer to everyone as "it"? Solves the problem.

Objectification's bad, mkay

 

[Light Cleric]

I'd support adding a gender option as long as one of the options is a simple "Yes"

 

[Thalassicus]

I refer to everyone here by name, instead of pronouns, and it avoids the gender issues. Adding gender to forums opens up cans of worms.

We immediately start forming an opinion of someone based on their gender regardless of their personality. It's unfair but we all do it anyway. The brain's wired to form opinions quickly based on limited information, and it ends up tainting our view of everything a person says.

There's also more than just 2 gender identifications, so it'd need to be a fill in the blank instead of multiple choice, and then people would get discriminated against anyway if they fill in something other than the two traditional genders. The T part of LGBT is less accepted by society than the first two parts.

The real solution is a non-specific personal pronoun like many languages have, but that's impossible for us to fix on an internet forum. English only has the non-personal pronoun "it", which is different from the nonspecific personal pronouns in other languages.

 

[Tasunke]

I think the off topic forum should have a 'meet up irl' subforum, which in turn should have a dating subforum

 

[Quintillus]

the she-poster has spoken!! (just pretend there was a quote from Valka-D'Ur up above)




-Tasunke, he-poster




--> As for my own 2 cents, I feel that there should be a pie-chart demographic at the home page so we can check the male:female:it ratios at all times.


Actually, have all female posters make their Avatar Pic the hooters logo (or similar) every other full moon ^_^

Good thread, but posts like this are a good reason not to have the feature, but I support the feature anyway. I have to correct far too many people even though I'm "in your face" about what I am. No one bothers me for being female, and I hope that more female members will identify when Ainwood implements the system. There's nothing to fear here. The site is well moderated and most complaints are handled swiftly. There is no reason for a woman gamer to fear the main forums. OT, on the otherhand...

Anticipating that this might cause more of the type of comment in the first quoted post is why my initial thought was "No", and why I voted that way, but I wouldn't be opposed to having it as an optional part of the profile. All things considered, these are among the more civil forums I've encountered on the Interwebs, and I can definitely see where some posters might appreciate that option, for the having-to-correct-it-reason. So as an optional, not-requested-on-registration type thing, I'd be okay with it.

 

[sophie]

I refer to everyone here by name, instead of pronouns, and it avoids the gender issues. Adding gender to forums opens up cans of worms.

Yes Owen Glyndwr agrees. Thalassicus brings up a good point in Thalassicus' post about how Thalassicus doesn't like using pronouns because Thalassicus finds that using pronouns is confusing and simply referring to Thalassicus by Thalassicus' proper name helps to avoid confusion and isn't at all redundant, neither for Thalassicus nor for Owen Glyndwr.

 

[Lemon Merchant]

Anticipating that this might cause more of the type of comment in the first quoted post is why my initial thought was "No", and why I voted that way, but I wouldn't be opposed to having it as an optional part of the profile. All things considered, these are among the more civil forums I've encountered on the Interwebs, and I can definitely see where some posters might appreciate that option, for the having-to-correct-it-reason. So as an optional, not-requested-on-registration type thing, I'd be okay with it.

Yes. It should absolutely be optional. I would think that some women would not want to come "out" as it were. Or men for that matter. Someone mentioned LGBT causing a problem, I would suggest that that distinction be left out of the equation altogether, though transgendered people may wish to identify as such. In my experiences with transgendered folk, they usually wish to be identified as the new gender anyway.

 

[ainwood]

OK - try it out.

 

[Evie]

Thanks for adding this. I think it was the right move

 

[Lemon Merchant]

OK - try it out.

Thanks ainwood!

 

[Cutlass]

I changed nothing except the gender option and got this message.

You did not enter the correct format for the We have ZERO tolerance for advertising field. Please read the field description for the expected format.

 

[Lemon Merchant]

Weird. I didn't get that. I just changed it and moved on. I've seen that before when I changed my user title, but not this time.

 

[ori]

its a one time annoyance that unfortunately everyone who edits their profile for the first time since it was implemented a long while ago has to go through - just type the password and enter as it were .

 

[Valka D'Ur]

Okay, I've done mine. It's not really noticeable at all, so I shouldn't think anyone would have objections to how it looks to have one more field in the sidebar information.

 

[Kyriakos]

So this site finally discovered Calculus (or the account for infinitesimal amounts of differences to a set number)

 

[Cutlass]

I still can't change anything. And I cleared all my cookies and history.


edit, i think I got it now.

 

[Manco Capac]

We immediately start forming an opinion of someone based on their gender regardless of their personality. It's unfair but we all do it anyway. The brain's wired to form opinions quickly based on limited information, and it ends up tainting our view of everything a person says.

The real solution is a non-specific personal pronoun like many languages have, but that's impossible for us to fix on an internet forum. English only has the non-personal pronoun "it", which is different from the nonspecific personal pronouns in other languages.

Ah, a shred of good sense. I haven't seen much posts since post 1 having been practical as such.

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Anyways, glad to see from where comes that new option when I was editting my profile. Because, unless I was blind, it seemed new (and useless; the bolded quote by Thalassicus crosses my own opinion).

Nonetheless, if the changes triggerred almost no effort from the admin, let it be seeing the light of day. Nitpicking people always need to have comfort in something.

 

[Takhisis]

I think the off topic forum should have a 'meet up irl' subforum, which in turn should have a dating subforum

Yes, I support adding an a/s/l feature to this forum if such a thing goes forward.

OK - try it out.

There's still a problem. I've tried Valka's profile:

Civ1 Versions
Civ DOS
Gender_Options
Female

Signature​

It reads like that, where it should say 'gender', it still has the field name.

I changed nothing except the gender option and got this message.

You did not enter the correct format for the We have ZERO tolerance for advertising field. Please read the field description for the expected format.

Same here! Awesome!

its a one time annoyance that unfortunately everyone who edits their profile for the first time since it was implemented a long while ago has to go through - just type the password and enter as it were .

Well, if less than a year is 'a long time'…

 

[Omega124]

woot! Thanks for listening mods, and thanks for the people that supported this idea and argued for it when I forgot I even made this!