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I would just make it stupid, someone else needs to do it so that it has meaning.
 
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CFC members: >100000 (more than a hundred thousand)
Percentage who are female: ~ 10% (so sayeth most of the polls)
10% of 100000 = 10000 (ten thousand)

Are you sure?
 
Im a chick but no1 believes me because I don't act like a frilly-lala queen every time we hit the dancefloors.
 
Yo, girls, question!

I met a girl at a friend's party the other weekend, she took me back to her room, we had some fun. Well, a lot of fun (Not quite sex). I left early in the morning and she seemed kinda awkward but I just put that down to a hangover and being a girl. I messaged her a few days after and asked her out properly (And soberly!) and said if she's not interested she should just tell me.

Her response was that she thinks I'm a "really lovely guy" but she never usually lets things go so far so quickly and she'd find it hard seeing me on her own again. So I replied asking if she was sure, I thought she was great and shouldn't feel bad blah blah blah, and she said she wasn't sure but it might be easier seeing me in a group.

My final reply was that maybe I'd see her around sometime... I get the impression now that I'm only going to see her again if our mutual friend invites us both out again, which is possible but probably not for a few weeks, by which time she could be seeing someone else or may have just completely forgotten about me! I feel like I'm in a catch-22 situation cos I already asked her out, she didn't say yes, but she didn't say she's not interested, if I ask her again it'll seem like I'm grasping for straws, but leaving it how things are probably won't improve things either...

Is there a hope? It's rare I meet a girl I actually connect with (Much less one with such a great body)...
 
Mr. Do said:
Yo, girls, question!

I met a girl at a friend's party the other weekend, she took me back to her room, we had some fun. Well, a lot of fun (Not quite sex). I left early in the morning and she seemed kinda awkward but I just put that down to a hangover and being a girl. I messaged her a few days after and asked her out properly (And soberly!) and said if she's not interested she should just tell me.

Her response was that she thinks I'm a "really lovely guy" but she never usually lets things go so far so quickly and she'd find it hard seeing me on her own again. So I replied asking if she was sure, I thought she was great and shouldn't feel bad blah blah blah, and she said she wasn't sure but it might be easier seeing me in a group.

My final reply was that maybe I'd see her around sometime... I get the impression now that I'm only going to see her again if our mutual friend invites us both out again, which is possible but probably not for a few weeks, by which time she could be seeing someone else or may have just completely forgotten about me! I feel like I'm in a catch-22 situation cos I already asked her out, she didn't say yes, but she didn't say she's not interested, if I ask her again it'll seem like I'm grasping for straws, but leaving it how things are probably won't improve things either...

Is there a hope? It's rare I meet a girl I actually connect with (Much less one with such a great body)...
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The next time you are out with her don't mention a word about getting together.
First of all this tells her that you aren't desperate to be with her (aka no one-itis, everyone hates one-itis).
Second of all she wonders what the hell happened.

If she's truly interested, she'll display interest in you. If she's not interested, she won't say anything at all, nor will she ask you whats wrong.

Tip for the future: Instead of asking a girl out as in a romantic fashion next time, ask her to hang out with you and some friends on a "quick" outting. That relieves all the pressure of something she's not ready for.

And yes, most girls will go weird with you if they took it THAT fast initially. It's just the way they are, and there's nothing wrong with it.

PS: Yes, I'm a girl.
 
It was kinda sarcasm. :D
I needed a fake qualification to answer his question since he asked for girls' responces.

(Don't worry guys, I wouldn't do that to ya.) ;)
 
Civrules said:
The next time you are out with her don't mention a word about getting together.
First of all this tells her that you aren't desperate to be with her (aka no one-itis, everyone hates one-itis).
Second of all she wonders what the hell happened.
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How I behave with her is not the problem, it's getting her there in the first place!

If she's truly interested, she'll display interest in you. If she's not interested, she won't say anything at all, nor will she ask you whats wrong.
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Thanks, though I do know some stuff like this already ;)

Tip for the future: Instead of asking a girl out as in a romantic fashion next time, ask her to hang out with you and some friends on a "quick" outting. That relieves all the pressure of something she's not ready for.
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My exact words were: "I'd like to see you again sometime. So if you want to hang out or let me take you out let me know... and if you're just not interested then let me know that as well for my own peace of mind!" I didn't exactly get down on one knee and declare my undying love ;)

And yes, most girls will go weird with you if they took it THAT fast initially. It's just the way they are, and there's nothing wrong with it.
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Well, there is something wrong with it in my mind. How can a girl reconcile not wanting to look like a slut with not being willing to see a guy again properly after they do stuff?!
 
Mr. Do said:
My exact words were: "I'd like to see you again sometime. So if you want to hang out or let me take you out let me know... and if you're just not interested then let me know that as well for my own peace of mind!" I didn't exactly get down on one knee and declare my undying love ;)
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Girls will very rarely if ever give you peace of mind. Don't even ask for it because you're just pushing their button that says "keep him guessing."
Guys like making things plain and clear, girls don't.
Therefore, most attractive girls that get a lot of guys are players. It's like asking someone that has been doing something that works to all of a sudden stop. Won't happen.



Well, there is something wrong with it in my mind. How can a girl reconcile not wanting to look like a slut with not being willing to see a guy again properly after they do stuff?!
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Because everything they do, they rationalize.
You prolly don't know this, but if you don't ever want this stuff to happen to you again, ALWAYS stop her first from going too far.
She's got Buyer's Remorse. That happens when you allow her to take things too fast.
Girls aren't logical. That's ok, cuz we just adapt to it.
 
Civrules said:
Girls will very rarely if ever give you peace of mind. Don't even ask for it because you're just pushing their button that says "keep him guessing."
Guys like making things plain and clear, girls don't.
Therefore, most attractive girls that get a lot of guys are players. It's like asking someone that has been doing something that works to all of a sudden stop. Won't happen.
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I didn't realise that she could well be thinking that (Even inadvertently), cheers. She's attractive, but doesn't strike me as the kind of girl that goes off with loads of guys (She usually gets to know them first, apparently).

Because everything they do, they rationalize.
You prolly don't know this, but if you don't ever want this stuff to happen to you again, ALWAYS stop her first from going too far.
She's got Buyer's Remorse. That happens when you allow her to take things too fast.
Girls aren't logical. That's ok, cuz we just adapt to it.
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Buyers remorse... hmm... I hope not! I think she still wants to see me, she just needs to get into the right state of mind and the right situation, with our friends. I'm not really sure why I'm asking for advice, as the only way I can see ultimate success is if she spontaneously changes her mind (She's a women, they do crazy things like that, after all) or if my mate organises stuff with both of us. Which again doesn't rely on what I do! But the stuff about how I should take things and view her mindset is definitely helpful, thanks.
 
Mr. Do said:
I didn't realise that she could well be thinking that (Even inadvertently), cheers. She's attractive, but doesn't strike me as the kind of girl that goes off with loads of guys (She usually gets to know them first, apparently).
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Ja, there's a lot of things girls don't want guys to know about why they do things and what they're thinking. If I was a girl, I'd frankly pee my pants if I knew I was dealing with a guy who knew why I was acting a certain way, because then my own girly manipulations won't work. (Again, hypothetically, guys. I don't have a vagina.)

And by "getting a lot of guys" I don't mean being slutty. I watch out for those. I mean the kind of girl who doesn't have trouble with guys.

Buyers remorse... hmm... I hope not! I think she still wants to see me, she just needs to get into the right state of mind and the right situation, with our friends. I'm not really sure why I'm asking for advice, as the only way I can see ultimate success is if she spontaneously changes her mind (She's a women, they do crazy things like that, after all) or if my mate organises stuff with both of us. Which again doesn't rely on what I do! But the stuff about how I should take things and view her mindset is definitely helpful, thanks.
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She doesn't know if she wants to see you again because she didn't achieve the comfort level that is desired for the kind of stuff you guys did that night (no matter - that night both of you were just in the moment of things, and from day to day things change).

A surefire way to lose her at this stage is to insist on seeing her. Things have to happen by chance again somehow. And at that point, just talk like you're old friends. This builds comfort, and that's what you need to do to get her back.

If the first moment you realize she's moving even further away, just let her go.
 
Not many girls posting in the 'ask a girl' thread.

And the Wiki doesn't even have a 'Z' section in the 'posters' section :(
 
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