Boss invited me to house for thanksgiving? Kind of odd.

[Karalysia]

As far as I know no one else from my workplace is being invited, just me, not sure why. For reference I work in an office doing secretary work and sometimes other stuff for the most part. Pay sucks but whatever.

My boss is significantly older and somewhat overtly friendly with me and has a tendency to talk about personal stuff as though we're pals like hobbies, kids, cars, or whatever something that's not done with the other employee's.

It makes me feel a little odd, should I go for the free food and beer or should I make an excuse but I don't want to offend my boss?

 

[Patroklos]

Are you the single guy at the office? In the military its customary to make sure all your single people have someplace to go for holiday dinners.

 

[Skwink]

Just do it.

 

[Heretic_Cata]

It makes me feel a little odd, should I go for the free food and beer or should I make an excuse but I don't want to offend my boss?

Odd as in awkward odd or odd yet slightly aroused ?

He's hitting on you ! (you did say you were a secretary of sorts)

If he's not hitting on you then it's a very good thing that you get along well with your superiors. If you really feel awkward then accept the invitation but tell him you won't be able to stay long because you have to go to another thanksgiving thing with some distant family somewhere (or friends/neighbours) and you'll only stay as long as it doesn't feel too wierd.

 

[Newbunkle]

I wouldn't go, it would be too awkward. If you do, take a rape alarm!

Edit: And pepper spray.

 

[wolfigor]

it seems a big odd indeed ... why not bringing a good camera-phone or voice recorder, just in case things go "weird"?

 

[Mise]

Seems like an appropriate time to use the "gonna get raped" smiley.

 

[really]

Are you the single guy at the office? In the military its customary to make sure all your single people have someplace to go for holiday dinners.

This sounds like the simplest explanation.

 

[Bast]

As far as I know no one else from my workplace is being invited, just me, not sure why. For reference I work in an office doing secretary work and sometimes other stuff for the most part. Pay sucks but whatever.

My boss is significantly older and somewhat overtly friendly with me and has a tendency to talk about personal stuff as though we're pals like hobbies, kids, cars, or whatever something that's not done with the other employee's.

It makes me feel a little odd, should I go for the free food and beer or should I make an excuse but I don't want to offend my boss?

Is he hot?

 

[Quackers]

Sounds like your gonna either be sliding up or down the slippery pole either way.

 

[Aegis]

Does he live in Austria?

 

[shadowplay]

I don't think it's too weird, and I wouldn't worry about offending him/her if you don't go. I think s/he's just trying to be a good person by making sure you have some place to be on Thanksgiving.

 

[warpus]

Maybe your boss is just lonely, and you're the only guy he feels comfortable confiding in.. or feels that you guys have some sort of a connection, since he tells you personal stuff from time to time, like you said.

Is this dinner going to involve anyone else? His wife? Family?

 

[Ataxerxes]

Maybe your boss is just lonely, and you're the only guy he feels comfortable confiding in.. or feels that you guys have some sort of a connection, since he tells you personal stuff from time to time, like you said.

Is this dinner going to involve anyone else? His wife? Family?

The last paragraph is important.^^^ I also wonder if you're the same gender as your boss.

A lot of this boils down to the "ick" factor. Does this "feel" OK or are you getting bad vibes about this? People sense a lot of stuff subconsciously.

 

[SuperJay]

He's probably a sociopath or a pedophile and should be executed.

But barring that, don't go over to his house.

 

[emzie]

Go. The worst thing that can happen is you have grounds to sue him and the company for sexual harassment.

 

[stormerne]

Your boss may have felt obligated to invite you, and may even feel relieved if you decline. But don't ever go to thanksgiving for free food or beer; go only if you want to be with the people there.

 

[Takhisis]

As far as I know no one else from my workplace is being invited, just me, not sure why. For reference I work in an office doing secretary work and sometimes other stuff for the most part. Pay sucks but whatever.

My boss is significantly older and somewhat overtly friendly with me and has a tendency to talk about personal stuff as though we're pals like hobbies, kids, cars, or whatever something that's not done with the other employee's.

Can't you go visit some family/friends and wriggle out of it? Otherwise, if it's too awkward, take a friend…? But we don't have Thanksgiving here (thank God for that!) so I don't really know… YMMV on this sort of thing. A lot depends on the vibe from this… there's many types of 'odd'.

It makes me feel a little odd, should I go for the free food and beer or should I make an excuse but I don't want to offend my boss?

Remember that food ain't the only thing that's important… it's the least important of them all, actually.

 

[Karalysia]

Are you the single guy at the office? In the military its customary to make sure all your single people have someplace to go for holiday dinners.

Well I'm not in the military but maybe that's it. I may have let on at some point about my Thanksgiving plans consisting of a heavy bout of drinking while writing a paper on European Union law, followed by further drinking while watching old episodes of the Wire until unconsciousness. It's probably it in that case.

Odd as in awkward odd or odd yet slightly aroused ?

He's hitting on you ! (you did say you were a secretary of sorts)

If he's not hitting on you then it's a very good thing that you get along well with your superiors. If you really feel awkward then accept the invitation but tell him you won't be able to stay long because you have to go to another thanksgiving thing with some distant family somewhere (or friends/neighbours) and you'll only stay as long as it doesn't feel too wierd.

Aroused of course who hasn't watched Secretary?

But no.

Is he hot?

No.

Does he live in Austria?

No.

I don't think it's too weird, and I wouldn't worry about offending him/her if you don't go. I think s/he's just trying to be a good person by making sure you have some place to be on Thanksgiving.

That may be it more or less.

Maybe your boss is just lonely, and you're the only guy he feels comfortable confiding in.. or feels that you guys have some sort of a connection, since he tells you personal stuff from time to time, like you said.

Is this dinner going to involve anyone else? His wife? Family?

I presume so, which is why it would be a little weird, don't you think?

The last paragraph is important.^^^ I also wonder if you're the same gender as your boss.

A lot of this boils down to the "ick" factor. Does this "feel" OK or are you getting bad vibes about this? People sense a lot of stuff subconsciously.

I'm not, but I mostly just think it would be awkward.

Can't you go visit some family/friends and wriggle out of it? Otherwise, if it's too awkward, take a friend…? But we don't have Thanksgiving here (thank God for that!) so I don't really know… YMMV on this sort of thing. A lot depends on the vibe from this… there's many types of 'odd'.

Remember that food ain't the only thing that's important… it's the least important of them all, actually.

I've already sort of let on that my thanksgiving plans involve heavy drinking, which reminds me I need to pick up some booze.

I'm a starving college student I never say no to free food or drink, especially since the dining hall shuts down over the holiday and I resort to eating uncooked/poorly cooked noodles out of that styrafoam cup.

 

[Angst]

I'm so turned on by that OP.