divorce

[PersianBoy]

I was saw in many films and serials that in the west countries most people is divorced.
I don’t want say that in the eastern countries divorce is not usual but number of divorced people in the western countries are too much and I want to ask that it is usual in the western countries that most of the people have divorced families and grow in that situation or it is only in the movies and other motion picture materials that divorce frequently saw because of story and other things?
Thank you for your answer!
Hope that would receive my propose!

 

[El_Machinae]

I am happy to see you back Persianboy.

Divorce is fairly common in Canada, I know a couple families personally who have divorced. Divorces are common because they are thought to be a wise choice if the couple cannot love each other and get along. As well, people sometimes get married at a younger age than they should have. As our societies progress, the 'age of maturity' gets pushed back a little more than we're used to - so people think they're mature enough to get married at the same age their parents did.

As well, divorce allows remarriage and this means that couples that have a divorce can then get into a good marriage after leaving the marriage that failed. We've learned that it's better to be divorced than to live with someone you don't love and no longer like.

There is also less pain resulting from our divorces than there used to be. When I was a child, the children of a divorced couple were treated a little differently by others (they had a lower social status). These days, however, our society is a bit more used to divorce and so the children are not teased or treated differently by other children

 

[Sophie 378]

You may find these links helpful, if you're wondering about rates of divorce:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Divorce_rate
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Law_and_divorce_around_the_world

 

[Gangor]

This may be slightly simplistic, but I think it boils down to two reasons:

a) There is less social stigma and legal obsticles to divorce. Once upon a time you had to create your own religion to get a divorce - no longer!

b) People are becoming more self-centered. We're taught from a young age nowadays to think primarily of ourselves. Naturally this causes a certain amount of friction in relationships (especially long ones like marrage), and reduces somewhat people's reluctance to get a divorce.

 

[GenMarshall]

Divorce is something that I don't want to experience.

 

[Whomp]

Hi Persianboy good to see you back.

I've been divorced. It's not a particularly great thing and we went through a considerable amount of counseling before we did it. We were married for ten years however we had a lot of different views on things like having children that changed as the relationship developed. We still talk to each other occassionally and both of us are happier apart.

 

[Mathilda]

This may be slightly simplistic, but I think it boils down to two reasons:

And a third, not insignificant reason is that women are now financially independent so they don't have to stay married to keep a roof over their head.

 

[Cuivienen]

From what I know, slightly more than half of all marriages in the United States end in divorce. However, this statistic is a little bit misleading since some people may be married many times successively. (One of my uncles has been divorced three times and married four.)

I have never experienced divorce, but my parents came extremely close to doing so shortly before I entered college last year. It's not a pleasant experience to be a part of, especially for the kids, who feel powerless to stop the two people they love most from hating each other.

 

[Phlegmak]

Divorce is something that I don't want to experience.

Then don't ever get married!

 

[GenMarshall]

Then don't ever get married!

Bah, I plan to get married in the future. I'm just going to take steps to ensure that it never happens in my future marriage.

 

[skadistic]

Bah, I plan to get married in the future. I'm just going to take steps to ensure that it never happens in my future marriage.

I give you a 50/50 chance of failure.

I've seen some divorces that were pleasant and amlicable where the people remain not just civil but friendly and I've see some that were beyond bitter.

 

[Prince_Imrahil]

Ya CG, sadly you can only do Your part, and thats jut half. The other part's up to her.

 

[CaptainF]

Marriage is dead.

 

[Leifmk]

Marriage is dead.

Not at all. In fact it's been gaining a bit in popularity around here, in recent years, although the average age at which people first get married has increased. The common pattern, now, is for couples to live together for several years before tying the knot. Theoretically, this might result in lower divorce rates in the long run, since those who do get married have mostly already proved that they can stand each other for longer than a few months.

 

[Prince_Imrahil]

Marriage is dead.

It's dead if two people want it to be. If two people want and try to make it work, its very alive and kicking. And really that's all that matters, who cares if its dead or not for everyone else.

 

[JoeM]

I was saw in many films and serials that in the west countries most people is divorced.
I don’t want say that in the eastern countries divorce is not usual but number of divorced people in the western countries are too much and I want to ask that it is usual in the western countries that most of the people have divorced families and grow in that situation or it is only in the movies and other motion picture materials that divorce frequently saw because of story and other things?
Thank you for your answer!
Hope that would receive my propose!

First of all, to understand divorce you need to separate marriage as a spiritual issue from marriage as a legal issue.

Divorce is in my mind mostly a legal issue. Getting married these days has huge legal ramifications, not least the financial arrangements required if divorce comes about, which is why divorce is such a hot topic.


Of course, underlying it all is a failed marriage. It would be false to assume that greater numbers of divorce equates to a greater number of failed marriages, for a start you have to define what is successful and what is failed.


Before divorce was common place, it was largely regarded that people continued to live together despite their marriage having 'failed'. Nowadays people tend to think that separation is better than continuing to live together in these situations.


One question I think is pertinent in 'failed' situations, is whether you think you will be more or less unhappy going through divorce than staying together and working on it. Just my take on it.

 

[Bozo Erectus]

Wherever women have equal rights to men, divorce rates will be higher. Obviously in societies where women are seen more as possessions of men (as opposed to equal partners), it will be lower.

 

[PersianBoy]

Hi everyone thanks for your answers
In most movies that I saw, mother take responsibility of children and I was considering that how she can pay the cost of growing children
In my country families with both parent mother and father some time have not enough money for costs of Childs
I wondering how a single parent could pose all of costs?

 

[MobBoss]

Marriage is dead.

Having been happily married for almost 24 years, I will say that is a crap statement.

 

[nonconformist]

Bah, I plan to get married in the future. I'm just going to take steps to ensure that it never happens in my future marriage.

I hear chaining her to your kitchen sink does wonders.