what if I am obessed with both? I have (to be fair, together with my dad) somewhere between 5000 and 10000 records, hundreds of books (mostly fiction and art), in my digital collection there's more than 1,5TB of music (that's roughly 20,000 albums, mixtapes and EPs, maybe close to a quarter million of actual tracks, not a single compilation or torrent, all of the are hand-picked, renamed, tagged and so on), I also hoard gems (a habit from when I was a child), plants and lots of other stuff. Still I don't feel like I lead a very material life. My rooms are all very minimalistic and mostly empty space, my apartment is the opposite of cramped, when I travel I always have the lightest luggage with me, and so on. Is not collecting in and of itself, even hoarding, an experience anyway? Seems like they are not mutually exclusive.
Either way I do believe that, at some point, your posessions end up owning you, which is why I think very hard about whether I really need/want something I'm about to purchase. Mostly I just say nah and buy good food instead.
I'm still very young and I've been to four different continents and countless countries, many of those vacations I did alone, so in the end I would probably say I am an experience person, but it's hard to make that call.
(I have a very weird relationship with my posessions, especially electronic devices, I often talk to them, usually to calm them down, or show them how much I appreciate them, but yeah that's another story for another day)
Well, I have no things so there's only one answer I can honestly give, but I don't travel either. I consider it pointless to go somewhere if I can't live there...that's how you experience a place, not by passing through it.
That's such an arbitrary distinction. I did a school-exchange with Latin America for 3 months, lived with a family and all. Is that now a vacation or did I live there? Some friends of mine left home for three or four years and travelled through all of asia, is that simply a vacation or did they actually live, experience it? I studied for more than half a year in Korea, had my own apartment and all, was that a vacation or did I live there?
I do see what you're getting at. For example when people go on a cruise, they usually have a few hours to see all the destinations they stop at. It's disgusting, like collecting stamps, but instead of stamps you're collecting countries. Of course in such a scenario you never actually got to experience anything besides existential dread and long queues.
I was thinking about gifts. If someone wants to gift me something, would I prefer they gift me an experience or an item?
The answer I kept coming up with was that I preferred neither. I've never truly liked a surprise of either kind. I prefer what I want in the moment, and that can be an experience or a thing but it doesn't really have a rhyme or reason to it. I usually opt to just stay in my corner.
For the most part, I'm passive in how I want to live life. I am completely happy just going out to the movies, getting a burger, and then hanging out at home with someone. I don't need to go to events. I probably don't want to go to the event. I don't care very much about traveling beyond the scope of seeing my friends.
And then, when it comes to items, well... I can fit everything that isn't a necessity into a duffel bag even after living independently for six years. I don't really like knick knacks or decorations. I have an octopus snow globe on display that a friend got me but I only notice it when I'm cleaning. I have no paintings or posters on the walls. My linens are just plain colours. I just don't really have anything. I don't understand having things. I have a jacket and a sweater from the Leafs since they're my favourite sports team and I've never worn them. Even if I had things, I have no idea what I'd do with them.
this is like reading Fernando Pessoa set in the 21st century
by the way, those bolded things you said I don't think are true. you have many things. for one, you collect games. your steam library is huge, and it has many games you spent your money on that you never even touched. I know (because you posted that), mine looks exactly the same. that is just one small example. you prefer to not have physical things, and you prefer to not have your apartment cluttered (I feel that way, I genuinely cannot think when a room is too "cozy", when it's overltly decorated, kitschy, posters, holyday garbage, whatever..).
but when you think really hard I am sure you will find an item you appreciate very much. a trusty pair of shoes or maybe a sofa or a chair that feels comfortable or maybe a pill, or maybe just your computer. I love my computer, I cherish it.