Our dear leader passed away while guarding one of the african provinces. Poor guy. (held him there for about 2 years in a half-colonised province)
New guy is only slightly less ********. But at least i got rid of overextension.
Inherited squat btw.
However i CAN integrate both of them forcefully. What annoys me with keeping them in limbo like this is that relations with them deteriorate RAPIDLY for some reasons. Every year they both get a -25 relations hit at different intervals without me doing anything. Besides those, everything i seem to do on a diplomatic level with other countries decreases the relations even further. Because of them i'm can't really conquer anything regardless of religion/culture.

The good news is they are finally willing to "trust me to uphold my bargains".
Also, i just noticed i have a HUGE problem with war weariness caused by attrition during peace times. (this was even from before killing the leader) I think i fixed it by abandoning border defenses and moving my armies to big supply limit provinces. (odd that i never had this problem playing with Spain, i didn't really care about this and had constant 0 war exhaustion)
What i really want to know is how can i make war exhaustion decrease faster ???