NickyJ
Retired Narrator
Quoted for seconding.Quoted for extreme truth.I'm probably a 7.. though I am more outgoing over the internet than real life
How sociable are you?
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MagisterCultuum
Great Sage
I don't know how to quantify it, but it is not a large number.
When in school I almost never started a conversion, but usually did just fine one they had begun. There is really only one friend that I'll call up just to talk. We talked pretty often last year, but since her wedding back in April I've only heard from her in one short email. I haven't really kept in contact with people I know very well after graduating. The main place I'd see friends was at the church I went to while at college, but my dad says that it costs too much in gas money to commute back there and there is really no one my age at my family's church. It seems like a social life may have to wait until I find a job. For now, I don't get out much.
When in school I almost never started a conversion, but usually did just fine one they had begun. There is really only one friend that I'll call up just to talk. We talked pretty often last year, but since her wedding back in April I've only heard from her in one short email. I haven't really kept in contact with people I know very well after graduating. The main place I'd see friends was at the church I went to while at college, but my dad says that it costs too much in gas money to commute back there and there is really no one my age at my family's church. It seems like a social life may have to wait until I find a job. For now, I don't get out much.
MjM
Deity
I put a 6. Around certain people, I'm very sociable. Others, not so much.
Disgustipated
Deity
BTW my answer was 1. Although maybe I'm being hard on myself.
I still think about what her kids said about me. I know I shouldn't dwell on bad things people say about me. And it's kind of sad that I value the opinions kids have of me. But I'm thinking they are right. I'm not a friendly guy. And I'm starting to realize I'm not actually a nice guy. Women may say that about me (in the bad way and sometimes in the good way), but I think I'm faking my niceness. I think deep down, maybe I'm not a friendly, nice guy.
I think maybe her kids see something in me that I do not see. Maybe they see the true me. My lady friend was blind and didn't see the true me.
I still think about what her kids said about me. I know I shouldn't dwell on bad things people say about me. And it's kind of sad that I value the opinions kids have of me. But I'm thinking they are right. I'm not a friendly guy. And I'm starting to realize I'm not actually a nice guy. Women may say that about me (in the bad way and sometimes in the good way), but I think I'm faking my niceness. I think deep down, maybe I'm not a friendly, nice guy.
I think maybe her kids see something in me that I do not see. Maybe they see the true me. My lady friend was blind and didn't see the true me.
Disgustipated
Deity
I really should say something constructive here since it was mentioned a couple of times in this thread. I'm by no means an expert, but I at least try to stay optimistic (although my above post doesn't look that way as I'm not always successful at being optimistic). Like I said, I'm no expert on women and social life. My social life is a complete disaster, but the thing is, I don't give up. I don't make excuses. You aren't the only one bullied and put down. I have been as well. The trick is to use that anger for something constructive.
I've contemplated my anger over my failures in my social life, and I always thought anger was an unnecessary emotion. I questioned why we have it. Although an episode of ST:TNG really put it into perspective (I know it's corny learning things from ST), and that anger can be used in constructive ways. For me, it means showing the people (or in my case the type of people since I don't know anyone from my childhood) that I can succeed and get a girlfriend or whatever that they thought I couldn't do. I am more determined than ever to have some success in my personal life. I use that anger I have to motivate me and give me determination to succeed. Don't let the anger consume you, or you'll end up like that guy who shot up an LA fitness last year. Use the anger for constructive things to improve yourself and vow to succeed. Maybe I'm doing it for the wrong reasons, but so be it.
BTW my answer was 1. Although maybe I'm being hard on myself.
I still think about what her kids said about me. I know I shouldn't dwell on bad things people say about me. And it's kind of sad that I value the opinions kids have of me. But I'm thinking they are right. I'm not a friendly guy. And I'm starting to realize I'm not actually a nice guy. Women may say that about me (in the bad way and sometimes in the good way), but I think I'm faking my niceness. I think deep down, maybe I'm not a friendly, nice guy.
I think maybe her kids see something in me that I do not see. Maybe they see the true me. My lady friend was blind and didn't see the true me.
Well, if it matters to you whether you are a nice guy or not, you may as well try to change it in your favor. If that means being more social and less "rude", then that's worth attempting.
In the end, it may be a good idea to release yourself of emotion and desire, that tends to have good results. If your desires/emotions bring a negative net-change to your state of mind, you may as well do away with them entirely.
CommonKnowledge
Warlord
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Probably a 2 or 3. I don't mind being social if it's with people where I can talk about something that interests me, but I'm certainly not the type of person who feels obligated to talk rubbish just to cover up silence. Personally I find it strange the way some people seem to think its required to make small talk just because - always reminds me of that Hitch Hikers' quote, "If human beings don't keep exercising their lips, he thought, their mouths probably seize up."
aelf
Ashen One
Are there some kind of yardsticks so that the numbers between 0 and 10 can make some sense?
I enjoy the company of friends and I'm pretty good at talking to people if I have some reason to, though I have good days and bad days. I don't approach strangers to make small talk, and if there's no apparent reason why I should be conversing with someone, then I just won't. Not sure what number to attach to that.
I enjoy the company of friends and I'm pretty good at talking to people if I have some reason to, though I have good days and bad days. I don't approach strangers to make small talk, and if there's no apparent reason why I should be conversing with someone, then I just won't. Not sure what number to attach to that.
Narz
keeping it real
0 = never leave your room
and 10 = can never be alone maybe.
It's all situational really, some people are very shy with strangers but have quite a few close relationships. I'm kind of the opposite, I can shoot the **** with anyone but I'm pretty careful about who I get close to.
I have days where I don't want to talk to anyone and there are nights where I want to hang out and talk to everyone. Granted, one usually outweighs the other so I'd put it at a 6. I still don't actually open up to many people but god damn I can talk your ear off about certain topics!
so 6
so 6
Chukchi Husky
Lone Wolf
I thought 0 was going around destroying whatever you can find because you don't care about anything or anyone.
aelf
Ashen One
I can imagine what 0 and 10 are like, which is why I asked about the numbers in between. What does, say, 4 or 6 mean?
I'd say an 8; I have a circle of lifelong friends, and I usually get along ptretty well with people in whenever circunstance where groups formed. I have a limitation, though; my patience for small talk in real life is but inches greater than it is in my internet personae. Ergo, I am not quite good in chatting about nothing - and most people don't have the mindset to debate phylosophy, ethics, literature and physics in their daily lifes.
As so, I for years forced myself to talk about small topics, because I's annoying to be the person people remember only when they want to know something. Still, I tend to be quiet and make only punctual interferences when the conversation took such turn.
However, whenever I have a topic of interest, I tend to take over and even monopolize the conversation. More than once I've been accused of never shutting up, what is quite curious considering that in my observations, I am usually one of the most quiet and reserved person in whatever group.
I'd say my real life persona much resembles my internet personae, with a great difference. In the net, there is no shortage of people wanting to pursuit grandeur topics for me to jump in the chat.
Regards
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As so, I for years forced myself to talk about small topics, because I's annoying to be the person people remember only when they want to know something. Still, I tend to be quiet and make only punctual interferences when the conversation took such turn.
However, whenever I have a topic of interest, I tend to take over and even monopolize the conversation. More than once I've been accused of never shutting up, what is quite curious considering that in my observations, I am usually one of the most quiet and reserved person in whatever group.
I'd say my real life persona much resembles my internet personae, with a great difference. In the net, there is no shortage of people wanting to pursuit grandeur topics for me to jump in the chat.
Regards
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aelf
Ashen One
4 obviously is being just below what you deem as averagely sociable, and 6 the contrary to that
What is "averagely sociable"?
Kyriakos said:
Well, I have no idea what the numbers mean, and I'm sure most people are just voting according to what they individually think the numbers mean, which makes your poll kinda useless.
MagisterCultuum
Great Sage
A lot of us are not sociable enough to have a large enough sample size to estimate average sociability.
Doesn't matter, since the question in the poll says "in your view". So what can be seen as important is what you perceive as your degree of being socially-skilled and relaxed in social situations, not really a hypothetical position on the scale where all people on earth are to be found
aelf
Ashen One
Doesn't matter, since the question in the poll says "in your view". So what can be seen as important is what you perceive as your degree of being socially-skilled and relaxed in social situations, not really a hypothetical position on the scale where all people on earth are to be found
Then what's the point of making a poll?
Usually polls try to measure something. You can't measure anything when the metric varies wildly from person to person.Polls in CFC are typically not based on abstract numbers so at least there's more room for discussion. Your poll might be greatly improved if you offered some guidelines, for example, a description of what every other number might mean.
I am a bit of curmudgeon and not very interested in social activity. Yet, I have the skills for fine schmoozing, and exercise them on occasion, more for business than recreation. I rank myself a little below center at 4.
