I hate my mum

[scorch]

Ok people, tell me what you think.

Ok, as you should know, it was my birthday the otherday, I turned 16. So my mates asked what i was gonna do for it, and i think, and say 'ohhh, nuffing i guess', coz, you guessed it. My mum.

My mum hates my freinds for somereason, shes incredibaly facists. She hates any of my maori freinds, i have one freind that lives in an alternative lifestyle, she hates him, anyone that drinks alchohol and is not older than 25 is a loser.... etc, that rules out everyone except about 2 freinds.

So, my mum was saying to me, 'what do you wanna do for you birthday?'
and i say 'well, what can i do?'
'you can have a small party here with your good freinds, or we can go out for dinner as a family.
'well, what freinds?'
'well, theres emma, and what was here name, helena.....'
wow, thats just great, emma and helena are great mates, but i have more mates than that, and my mum hates them.

so i decide i'll just have a famliy dinner.

well, guess what, i have no ****ING say at all at this dinner at all, my mum and my older brother are organizing it all, what resturant we go to etc, who comes, etc. **** THAT!!!

I'm getting so ****ing pissed off at her, she only let me go out with freinds that she aproves of, classic, she likes one of my freinds because his dad is a stockbroker. Seriosly, what do youse think, should parents be allowed to choose their childs freinds? My freinds are not drug pushers. My freind toshi, who lives in an alternative lifestyle does not do drugs, because he wants to get ahead in life...

 

[TheDuckOfFlanders]

Rebeliate the opression!

Dont run away from home though ,but i guess you could "sneak out" and have a party of youre own.Once happend it can not be reversed anyway.And maybe you can with those means achieve some rights because youre eventually growing up to an adult.

 

[H Tower]

Happy Birthday Scorch!

I'd make a birthday thread for you, but aren't those prohibited here?

 

[TrailblazingScot]

Have a fancy dress party so they can come in disguise...that way everyone is happy!

Personnally I would re-educate your mum!

 

[SunTzu]

Well i don't have that problem, i love my mom cause well since she's a single mom and its just been me and her since i was 2 and my dad's dead now, so she trys to give me everything. So its all cool, my advice is talk to her. And i don't mean just ask her, sit her down and talk to her about why and everything

 

[Lefty Scaevola]

Quite your carping, clean your room, wash the cat, practice you violin, eat you brocoli suprise casserole, and then paint the house, you ungrateful, obnoxious, juvenile delinquent!!!

 

[amadeus]

Well, if you are 16 and you drink (or use any illegal substance), you are a loser.

 

[Knight-Dragon]

At least you are still doing something for your birthday (happy birthday BTW). The last birthday party I had was like 25 years ago. Cos I got a (GREAT) single workingclass mom but life wasn't exactly a bed of roses. We were really poor. So I had to do w/o birthday celebrations or what while growing up.
So grow up and stop whining about how repressive your mom is. At least she cares enough to celebrate your birthday with you.

 

[scorch]

hey, im not complaining that she is aranging me a real **** birthday.

Im complaining that shes choosing my freinds. I don't think that parents should be allowed to do that ****.



And god Rmshape... thats the exact attitude my mum has... its great for anyone to get skulled as long as are an adult. My mum has picked me up from work once, and she was skulled off her nut, but it was fine, coz shes and adult, and shes responsible.

When i drink, i drink socially, i don't try to get skulled off my nut.

Oh, BTW SKM, you have a point. i'll take that into consideration.

 

[Knight-Dragon]

Sorry, cos of all the following posts after yours, thought you are whining about your birthday and whom you can bring to celebrate it or something.
I believe firmly that your parents have no business minding who your friends are. But bear in mind, they'll always care for you while sometimes your friends may or may not. So maybe you'll need to listen to them cos they may be right once in a while. Some 'friends' can be pretty bad company but you may not realize that.
But for the present, you'll just have to bear with it. Until you grow up, get a permanent job and then can move out. That time you're pretty much free to do as you pls. And by then, you'll prob hate your life cos you are an adult now and will have to take full responsibility for your life.

 

[Juize]

I have a good weapon against old, annoying mothers:

 

[scorch]

****! no matter how much coffee you put in her, she wont sweeten up....

shes one of them big boss moster enemys that you get at the end of the game...

 

[DaEezT]

I hate her too
Hope you feel better now

 

[scorch]

wow!!!

this feels great


corn, change this thread title to 'i hate davids mum' club.

 

[Strik]

Hey scorch I think your mother really needs a good shag.

Now just finding a guy drunk or stupid enough to do an evil monster

 

[duke o' york]

Maybe if you throw your rattle onto the floor from your high chair and scream really loudly then you will get what you want.

 

[jiml_63]

Quit your whining....are you sure you turned 16. Sounds more like you turned 5 to me....

Be grateful that you have a Mom that gives a damn....

 

[scorch]

wahoo!

i knew this would generate some responses.


Ok. let me clear some things up, ok, its my birthday and im a little bit pissed off that i can't go out this weekend, i have been studying hard out, and the exams are over, so yeah.

But, what im saying is.

DO YOU THINK IT IS RIGHT FOR PARENTS TO CHOOSE THEIR CHILDS FREINDS, BASED ENTIRELY ON THE FREINDS BACKGROUND, PHYSICAL APPARENCE AND PARENTS JOBS?

 

[amadeus]

Well, if they look like they're drugged up and their parents are fat on social welfare, well...I wouldn't blame them.

 

[Leowind]

Okay, Scorch, as the parent of an almost 12 year old, I"ll try to answer your question. Parents cannot ever, even if they try, choose your friends for you. They may limit who you see and spend time with, but friendship is something between you and another person. No one can ever choose somebody elses' friends.

As for disliking your friends and not allowing you to spend time with them, unfortunately for you, that is your mom's perogative while you are still a minor and living in her house. That is not to say she is justified in her choices or actions, but the simple truth is that you have to suck it up and deal with it.

Now, for the real question: Should your mom be trying to regulate who you spend time with? At your age, I think its basically counter-productive. All it's done is piss you off, and probably make you want to spend time with them even more. It has achieved the very opposit result she intended. Sounds to me like she has some problems of her own, but hey, guess what, ALL adults/parents do. None of us are perfect, and we all screw up in some way. That doesn't mean her motivations are necessarily bad, could just be bad parenting skills. Then again, as an adult who's lived I would guess at least twice as long as you have, she may have a broader perspective on the world and what it takes to succeed in it. She has seen what bad influences can do to a person, and when whe percieves bad influences in your life she acts to remove them. She may be falsely assuming your "undesirable" friends are bad influences, but I can assure you that is her motivation.

The only solution as I see it is to talk with, not to, her. If your friends really are cool, help her to see that somehow. Maybe ask her, calmly and cooly, exactly why she doesn't like these friends. Listen to what she says, consider it carefully, be ready for the possibility that she may have some good points, and let her know if she does. Explain to her how your friends don't fit her definition of "undesirable." It won't happen overnight, and won't come easy, but it is the best way out of the situation I see. If she sees you take her concerns seriously, and that your friends aren't as bad as she thought, then you're on the road to progress in your relationship.

Even then, it is possible that your mom is just a racist jerk, and your only hope is to ride it out until you can leave home. I would assume that only as a last resort, however. Good luck.