since you asked ;D
precedent, or to "pre cede". You are ceding who pays, in advance, so preceding.
Not "honest and endearing" like honesty is a state of being that you are seeking to elicit for your pleasure or connection. "Honest" like "someone is speaking the raw truth from which you can accurate extrapolate all you need to know about your actual lasting compatibility". Why make it hard for someone to be honest if you want to learn the secrets of the universe? Her secrets of her universe.Sex is one thing. It's one thing man. It's a damned nice thing but it's not what makes a long term partner a long term partner. Sex is generally fun. It's easy to be both honest and endearing when you're having fun. Measuring your compatibility with somebody while doing what is very nearly literally the easiest human activity to find enjoyable is not a good measure. Measuring your compatibility with somebody while you're both terrified or bored or miserable or angry or all of those at the same time is a much more exacting standard. But it's a better one. Life is going to get you with those eventually, isn't part of the core reason of a long term partner so that you don't have to face those times alone?
I'm expecting it cause its fun. I know there's alot of social shame about sex so if the girl needs 1 or 2 dates to warm up I understand. If there's no sex by the 3rd or 4th date I assume either there's no attraction or maybe just a low sex drive & either way there's no point to continue (unless she's really cool, then we can chill as friends).
If there's no possibility of sex it's not dating, just hanging out.
If she said that I'd wait a lil longer. After 5 or 6 dates though I'd probably give up waiting. Holding out that long goes against nature.I'm curious what your policy would be if she said around the third date, "hey, I really like you, but I need a little more time before we get intimate," with the implication that, assuming things proceed as they have, the relationship will become physical in the future.
Sex is one thing. It's one thing man. It's a damned nice thing but it's not what makes a long term partner a long term partner. Sex is generally fun. It's easy to be both honest and endearing when you're having fun. Measuring your compatibility with somebody while doing what is very nearly literally the easiest human activity to find enjoyable is not a good measure. Measuring your compatibility with somebody while you're both terrified or bored or miserable or angry or all of those at the same time is a much more exacting standard. But it's a better one. Life is going to get you with those eventually, isn't part of the core reason of a long term partner so that you don't have to face those times alone?
Sex is the ultimate male-female intimate bonding activity. As a species we not only partake in sex for procreation, but also for fun, bonding, and health purposes. (Okay, most people don't have sex for reasons of health, but that's one of the benefits and our subconscious "knows" that)
IMO there are two major aspects of a long/medium-term romantic relationship you need to be compatible enough in for that relationship to work. Your personalities must have chemistry and be compatible, and you must have chemistry in the sexual side of things and your sexual needs need to be compatible as well. IMO of those two conditions are met, a relationship is far more likely to flourish. There are a lot of other variables involved, but these are the two big ones. And I mean, "personality" includes a lot of stuff, such as religious beliefs, political beliefs, likes, dislikes, etc.
So you can say "it's just one thing", but it's a super important part of the human male-female romantic bonding experience! Usually anyway, there are of course always exceptions (couples can mutually decide to focus on other parts of the relationship and for example focus on their compatibility in religious beliefs instead, on purpose making sexual compatibility/incompatibility less of an issue)
Of course having said that I'm the last person you should ask about women, since women like me, and we get along, but I refuse to play their games, so I never get any. So what the hell do I know.
I'd say the opposite, the more experience you have the more tricks of the trade you know, the more adaptable you are. If you've only been with one person you only know what they like.I suppose it can be. It's pretty malleable though. Well, perhaps that's not right in every situation. I bet it's almost totally malleable when both parties haven't had a ton of it. I'd guess it becomes less malleable the more separate experience both parties come to the table with.
Masturbation is easy, yes.Sex is easy but being sexually compatible with your partner can be a throw of the dice.
I'd say the opposite, the more experience you have the more tricks of the trade you know, the more adaptable you are. If you've only been with one person you only know what they like.
Are you saying that platonic acquaintances can't be friends? Why wouldn't a platonic acquaintance be asked to do something for fun? Friendship isn't something that usually happens right away. It takes some interaction, even if it's just a casual conversation at a bus stop, for example.Taking out all romantic context, would YOU ask a platonic acquaintance who you see only very infrequently talk to to do something together? Idk about you, but it would feel pretty odd for me to ask someone I wasn't friends with to one day walk up to him and ask him to hang out. If a girl got asked out for coffee by an acquaintance she sees quite infrequently and is awkward around, I'm fairly certain it's a pretty clear signal of romantic interest because most people would not ask a platonic acquaintance to do something together for fun.
Sex is easier than masturbation. Look ma, no hands!Masturbation is easy, yes.
Sex is difficult to the point of impossibility.
Their aura.I mean, just where does a person start?
In a hospital room where a mother died in childbirth?Or where does one person start and another end?
Both ideally.Do I take pleasure in giving pleasure? Or do I give pleasure in taking it?
Makes sense. There is a certain innocence to being virginal or near virginal in that you'll appreciate your partner more even if they're not that great in bed, not that great looking, etc. in the same way I appreciated my collection of 9 or 10 cassette tapes in some ways more than I appreciated the whole Internet full of music today.Not malleable as in how much different stuff can you do. Malleable as in what do the two of you grow into liking together, as opposed to stuff one person brings to the table that they already like/dislike. That actually mostly makes sense in the light of that big bag of stats somebody dumped in a post a while back where people with few past partners gravitate more successfully towards people with few past partners and the same with those who have had many past partners.