Online Romances, do they work?

An online relationship is just the modern long-distance relationship. As long as there is a goal to move the relationship to... short distance... it can work.
 
augurey said:
An online relationship is just the modern long-distance relationship. As long as there is a goal to move the relationship to... short distance... it can work.
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Yes, but I think the difference is that with a long-distance relationship, the people have been together and are separated for long periods of time, but they've met and started something before being distant. With this, the two people have never actually met except online. I'd put more stock in the conventional long-distance thing (and that has nothing to do with my being in one now...).
 
Sometimes they do, sometimes they dont.

My beilef is if you dont put any investment or time into it will most definitly not work.
 
I'll go with the 'in some rare cases it works, but it's very difficult to achieve.'

My best friend met his girlfriend online (though I believe it was through another friend) back at the beginning of 2005, and they hit it off pretty quickly. She was in England, him here in Scotland. They didn't meet for about half a year, which in my opinion actually made it worse for them, as they really liked each other in person as well. After several trips back and forth he eventually moved down to be with her, and they've been doing great so far.

Of course, I miss him terribly, and I suppose it could be said our relationship is essentially now an online one. But I don't think that's quite the relationship you mean :p
 
Sure it can work. I met my current girlfriend on the internet, on a dating site actually. It's gonna be two years in a month and we've been living together since last october.
Dating sites are also an excellent way to find sexual partners.
I tried dating in many different environments and internet is by far the one I have enjoyed the most.

When I first joined a dating site, I really thought that only desperate attention whores signed up in there. (I thought it would be easy sex), but I quickly found out that in 2007, many normal, and even pretty cool and serious people use them.

I also like the fact that it goes straight down to business. No wasted time, both person know why they are there for.
 
Rhymes said:
Sure it can work. I met my current girlfriend on the internet, on a dating site actually. It's gonna be two years in a month and we've been living together since last october.
Dating sites are also an excellent way to find sexual partners.
I tried dating in many different environments and internet is by far the one I have enjoyed the most.

When I first joined a dating site, I really thought that only desperate attention whores signed up in there. (I thought it would be easy sex), but I quickly found out that in 2007, many normal, and even pretty cool and serious people use them.

I also like the fact that it goes straight down to business. No wasted time, both person know why they are there for.
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Just curious. What site was it?
 
I think that the internet is a great way to meet people with similar (and even different and fascinating) interests, but it's generally a bad idea to get involved with feelings and stuff with someone you've never physically met. Sure, get to know people online, but meet them in real life before you consider a relationship.
 
Xanikk999 said:
Just curious. What site was it?
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It's a site in Quebec, called reseaucontact.com
Mostly french speaking people in there, wouldn't suggest it for outsiders. ;)

Local sites are the best, cuz, as mentionned before, internet is great to meet people with similar interest, but you have to meet them in person if you want to take it to the next level.
 
My buddy and I did it when went to NYC and Miami to hang out. It's always interesting meeting local girls who know what's going on.
 
CivGeneral said:
No romance works at all, they all fail in one way or another.
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You can find whatever you want to, you only have to want to find it. You know this from religion, CG. If you don't want to find God, you won't. It's the same way with love, dude, it just sometimes takes a bit longer to come to realization. You're, what, twenty? You're just getting started on life! You can have this pout when you're sixty and single! Until then, just take what life throws at you, and if it throws a she-woman your way, don't pass it up!

As for online romances, my aunt and uncle met online, and they've been happily married for around eight or nine years now, and have two beautiful daughters. She lived in Hong Kong and he in the States, and they didn't meet in person for a long time. So it CAN work.
 
I just don't see them working, but I don't have any experience,excect for the girl who started hitting on me right away and wanted to have cybersex about 24 hours after meeting me. I figured out rather quickly that she was a liar (made up a ton of crap), which I had immediately assumed anyways.

So yeah, I guess I am kind of biased. But not having physical contact seems limiting.
 
When you meet someone online, you don't really end up knowing them very well. You interpret things to ways you want them to be, feelings you want to be there. The truth however, is that you don't know the person well enough for any deep connection, which is why I find "internet girlfriend" a peculiar and false ideal.

However, that does not mean that people who encounter on the internet can't work out, but only after they get to know each other in person do they ever even begin to find out if they'll work together. It very rarely works out because the person you meet, when you meet them in person, could be any old stranger and they might not be what you imagined in your minds eye (through deception or not).

I don't reccomend it personally, but if you feel it's the only avenue for you then that is your perogative.
 
Originally meeting someone online isn't what I would call an online relationships either, as what you end up having is a very much in-real-life relationship. I've met girls in nightclubs, but I don't say it was a "nightclub relationship"...

What about relationships that are actually online - i.e., they only exist online, and the people have yet to meet, and perhaps have no plans to meet in the near future?
 
They only work if you eventually meet the person and have a normal relationship.
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After leaving for our mutual home countries, my gf and i tried to maintain a long distance relationship, it became too unsatisfying so we broke off.
 
A good friend of mine is faithfully involved in an online relationship; it's no problem if both parties are mature.
 
I lost my real life girlfriend to her internet boyfriend.

I don't believe she's had a real boyfriend since me, two years ago. Then again I don't know since she's stonewalled me for no reason.
 
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