Not to worry. That's why we're here. In general, etiquette dictates that one player in a succession game (SG) shouldn't make major decisions without consulting with the team. In practice, though, we all have a different definition of which decisions are major. I've seen some people not care when a player declares war and I've seen others yell about putting a cottage down on a flood plain. For me, the things that need to be discussed are: War declaration Peace settlements (ending a war) Great person usage Overall strategy (One person going for domination while the others want cultural sort of stinks) Diplomatic strategy (which civs to be nice to, which to burn) Civics changes Religion changes There are others that are on the fringe: City placement Keeping or razing a captured city tech trades Wonder builds Vetoing someone's build or research Research path The fringe elements should be discussed, but most wont argue if you can justify a decision after the fact. I'll let others point out when to violate etiquette. On another note, I played last night but won't have a report up until after standard issue bedtime.