Tahuti
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Outside, yes. Not in the sun, though it's quite stormy right now!
Random Rants LXVI: NO, **YOUR** THREAD TITLES SUCK!!
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Outside, yes. Not in the sun, though it's quite stormy right now!
dusters
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Still no job. I quit my 9 euro/hr job, because It was private lessons. My last stable job was kindergarden and it was like 280 euro neto month, barely enough to eat potatoes. Gotta find something else with my high school education and a bit of started BA's here and there.
That's nasty, dusters. How good are your prospects?
Oh, right, it's the Netherlands, right across from notEurope. Forget about this sun thing.
Traitorfish
The Tighnahulish Kid
What is... "sun"?
It's part of the British gutter-press. I hear it's not too popular Oop Narth.
dusters
Emperor
pretty bad. I will go to unemployed ppl's office and they will prolly tell me again- you are 29 and only high school? No profession? what kind of man are you?
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You sound pretty peeved to be liked by other people dude.
warpus
Sommerswerd asked me to change this
Why do you think people who do this sort of thing like me? I'm sure some do, some don't.
I don't mind people who like me, I just don't like it when people engage in poorly thought out behaviour. They're trying to say "hello" and the fail spectacularly and make things slightly awkward. If they were a bit more logical about their greetings, I wouldn't be peeved at all.
I welcome their friendliness towards me! But if you really honestly want to know how I'm doing, don't ask me while we're hurriedly passing each other in the hallway, while we've already passed each other and are walking away from each other! If you really want to know, ask me when we're just standing around the water cooler or whatever. Or come to my office and we can have a chat. Then I can actually answer you properly without having to turn my head and walk while looking backwards, responding as quickly as I can (because soon enough we'll be too far away from each other to hear).
You know what that says to me? That the person asking doesn't really give a crap how I'm doing. If they really honestly wanted to know, they would pick a far better time to ask me, like I said. So I am not peeved by people who like me, I am peeved by people who don't seem to give a crap and/or engage in poorly thought out social interactions.
I don't mind people who like me, I just don't like it when people engage in poorly thought out behaviour. They're trying to say "hello" and the fail spectacularly and make things slightly awkward. If they were a bit more logical about their greetings, I wouldn't be peeved at all.
I welcome their friendliness towards me! But if you really honestly want to know how I'm doing, don't ask me while we're hurriedly passing each other in the hallway, while we've already passed each other and are walking away from each other! If you really want to know, ask me when we're just standing around the water cooler or whatever. Or come to my office and we can have a chat. Then I can actually answer you properly without having to turn my head and walk while looking backwards, responding as quickly as I can (because soon enough we'll be too far away from each other to hear).
You know what that says to me? That the person asking doesn't really give a crap how I'm doing. If they really honestly wanted to know, they would pick a far better time to ask me, like I said. So I am not peeved by people who like me, I am peeved by people who don't seem to give a crap and/or engage in poorly thought out social interactions.
I think the thing is "How are you?" and "How ya doing?" have become just random generic greeting noise. There's no more meaning behind it than "Hello". And even though it's dumb, and a misuse of the language, we're stuck with it.
sophie
Break My Heart
warpus
Sommerswerd asked me to change this
We're not stuck with it, we can fight back!
I don't mind it as a generic hello thingy if it's done while you're standing around, waiting for your coffee or something. Then you can at least respond with "Good! How are you?". If you're just passing each other in the hallway, there's no time for that. By the time you say "How are you?" the person has already passed you. You are twisting your head and talking backwards, or stopping, or whatever.
It doesn't work for that scenario. Stick to the much simpler "Hey Johnson!" or whatever. Something that does not require a follow-up question. There is no time for follow-up questions when you're passing people in the hallway. That's my main beef with it.
It also seems insulting for people to ask me how I'm doing if they don't really give a crap. It's like me asking "How's that dying grandmother of yours, how's that going?" and then quickly walking away before you have a chance to answer. It's not cool and people need to cut it out, unless they actually care, in which case, I will tell you how I'm feeling! Oh will I ever
Even if it's just random chat: You'll get used to it. Or better: To that person. The meaningless phrase exchange will still make you used to this person, and you'll feel a connection. That person might become an acquaintance at some point (to whom you talk a bit more), just because of this.
Take it as an opportunity, not as an annoyance.
Take it as an opportunity, not as an annoyance.
warpus
Sommerswerd asked me to change this
I don't think you understand why it annoys me. It's annoying because it doesn't work. It's a horribly thought out social interaction. I get along with the person just fine, I'm used to her, I've been working with her for years.
Big yellow-white thing in the sky, shows up on average half the time along the year. I met it at lower latitudes than your current place of residence.
Basically, it's the light source responsible for the overcast being lighter during what is known as 'daytime'.
I don't think they really want you to answer what kind of a man you are. Unless you just say 'an immigrant', maybe.'
Yep, it has become a random generic greeting. Usually exemplified by 'Hi, how are you?' or, more properly, 'Hello, how do you do?'.
warpus
Sommerswerd asked me to change this
My point is that it's a question that you need to answer. This doesn't fly:
A: "Hey how are you?"
B: "Hey how are you?"
You gotta go:
A: " Hey how are you?"
B: "Pretty good, and you?"
A: "Great, thanks!"
If you're just walking down a hallway and passing random people there is no time for a back and forth answer and question period. Saying "Hey Steve" and Steve responding with "Hey Mark" actually works. But the above doesn't.
I just wish people kept this in mind. Different greetings work under different conditions. The exchange works fine if you're just standing around waiting for something. There's time to chit chat. But when you're on the go, there isn't.
A: "Hey how are you?"
B: "Hey how are you?"
You gotta go:
A: " Hey how are you?"
B: "Pretty good, and you?"
A: "Great, thanks!"
If you're just walking down a hallway and passing random people there is no time for a back and forth answer and question period. Saying "Hey Steve" and Steve responding with "Hey Mark" actually works. But the above doesn't.
I just wish people kept this in mind. Different greetings work under different conditions. The exchange works fine if you're just standing around waiting for something. There's time to chit chat. But when you're on the go, there isn't.
Snerk
Smeghead
I generally agree but like already mentioned, some English speaking countries use "how are you" or a similar phrase just as a hello more than an actual question that needs answering to maintain proper etikette. Not sure what the case in Canada is in this matter though.
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