Random Rants : Pissed tae th' gills

[Phrossack]

Rather be happy about that. At least you'll not get fat.

Trouble is, my meals are large anyway, and I like eating. It's an enjoyable escape.

How that?

Spoiler :

Well, above all else it's confidence. I have none. I know myself very well, and familiarity breeds contempt. I don't like myself, leading to low confidence, leading to staying single, leading to lower confidence, and so on.

 

[azzaman333]

Self-fulfilling prophecy. If you believe you're undateable, no one is going to want to date you.

 

[Phrossack]

Self-fulfilling prophecy. If you believe you're undateable, no one is going to want to date you.

Well, yeah. But I really have no reason to believe I am dateable because I'm a pretty mediocre person and I know it. Meaning that I believe I'm undateable. Which causes the problem.

 

[Borachio]

Self-fulfilling prophecy. If you believe you're undateable, no one is going to want to date you.

Hmm. They might.

I, for a counter example, am brimful of confidence and no one will even go out with me, never mind on a date.

And most extraordinary of all, I'm a wonderfully nice fellow: well-meaning, cheerful, and thoroughly well-mannered.

Also, modest to a fault.

 

[The_J]

As if you were the only person with that problem...
Good point about that: You can't see self confidence.
Just pretend, and people who don't know you will believe it.

EDIT: And most persons are mediocre, and most persons have a partner. So don't see a problem with that ^^.

Trouble is, my meals are large anyway, and I like eating. It's an enjoyable escape.

Then you need less time to eat. Fill your day with stuff!

 

[Phrossack]

As if you were the only person with that problem...
Good point about that: You can't see self confidence.
Just pretend, and people who don't know you will believe it.

EDIT: And most persons are mediocre, and most persons have a partner. So don't see a problem with that ^^.

Of course, if they start dating me for some reason they'll get to know me and realize I'm not confident.

Then you need less time to eat. Fill your day with stuff!

I don't spend much time eating. Two meals a day plus the odd snack, tops.

 

[GamezRule]

Of course, if they start dating me for some reason they'll get to know me and realize I'm not confident.

What are you proud of? Get confidence from the things that make you proud.

 

[Phrossack]

What are you proud of? Get confidence from the things that make you proud.

Nothing, really. I have no special skills or accomplishments that I think are worth mentioning.

 

[Borachio]

What are the accomplishments you have that you don't think are worth mentioning?

 

[Kennigit]

No one is undateable. It consistently surprises me that people get together.

Now having a good relationship, that's a different question.

 

[Joecoolyo]

I just realized I am thoroughly undateable. Wonderful.

I'm also frustratingly resistant to hunger, which is unfortunate because I like eating. One or two meals a day is more than enough.

I wish I was resistant to hunger. Since moving into my own apartment I've been in a constant state of hunger, and I'm always running out of food. Dinner is never enough, and neither are snacks. I'm going to reverse on all the progress I made last year in terms of weight loss if this keeps up.

I also kind of feel the same way about dating. Blech.

 

[Ajidica]

Nothing, really. I have no special skills or accomplishments that I think are worth mentioning.

You're at college, right?
Most colleges have a Mock Trial team, and if yours does I highly recommend joining it. If you college's team is anything like mine, it is an absolute blast filled with interesting individuals who quickly become friends (if only because they had better be your friends after spending 6+ hours a week with them).
Plus, your skills at public speaking, and speaking in general, becomes a lot better. If you can keep your cool in trial, it is quite surprising how easy it is to keep your cool and remain confident (or at least appear confident) among your peers.

 

[Phrossack]

What are the accomplishments you have that you don't think are worth mentioning?

Spoiler :

Well, in high school I was a pretty major player in our History Bowl team. First year, we won at the state level and went to Nationals in DC. Which we lost. Next year we got second place in state and I came second in the Bee, but most of the teams went to Nationals anyway. We lost again. There was another, smaller Bowl event, which admittedly we did exceptionally well in, to the point that we actually reset the score board because our score was so high. And in another news quiz competition hosted by some organization called the World Affairs Councils of America, we got first place in the state and went to Nationals in DC again, with predictable results, but it was nice visiting some foreign embassies and stuff on a largely paid-for trip. Granted, I was just one guy in a team that was usually four people, so I really can't claim full credit. Maybe just a third or two-fifths or so.

I'm also a mediocre shot with a recurve bow. And I've made a few decent dice cups out of walnut. But that's about it.

Like I said, not worth mentioning.

 

[sophie]

Well, yeah. But I really have no reason to believe I am dateable because I'm a pretty mediocre person and I know it. Meaning that I believe I'm undateable. Which causes the problem.

Nothing, really. I have no special skills or accomplishments that I think are worth mentioning.

As someone who has been there before with the constant self-loathing/modesty/whatever, I must say, you just gotta get over it. You aren't doing yourself any favors and you aren't doing anybody else any favors either with the self-deprecation. You're better than you think you are. By a lot. The sooner you realize this the more enjoyable you're going to find life.

 

[Arakhor]

Do you give to charity, help out homeless shelters, escort old ladies across the road etc.? Achievements don't have to be financial or vocational.

 

[Borachio]

As someone who has been there before with the constant self-loathing/modesty/whatever, I must say, you just gotta get over it. You aren't doing yourself any favors and you aren't doing anybody else any favors either with the self-deprecation. You're better than you think you are. By a lot. The sooner you realize this the more enjoyable you're going to find life.

Yes I agree. And even though it might still not lead to any dates (perhaps you simply smell distasteful?), you'll feel a lot happier. And if that's not worth it, I don't know what is.

Just be unreasonably happy in spite of everything. Can that be so hard to do?

 

[Phrossack]

As someone who has been there before with the constant self-loathing/modesty/whatever, I must say, you just gotta get over it. You aren't doing yourself any favors and you aren't doing anybody else any favors either with the self-deprecation. You're better than you think you are. By a lot. The sooner you realize this the more enjoyable you're going to find life.

Well, thanks, but you don't know me very well. And I'm not fluent in God knows how many languages like you are, I don't understand IPA, I'm not as good-looking or likable as you are from what I've seen here, and I can't do history quite as well.

My fundamental problem is severe laziness. I procrastinate like mad, and while I could eventually maybe solve most of my problems by getting off my ass and working out, exercising, starting earlier on projects, reading, and so on, I simply don't have the willpower. The trouble with laziness is that it's a problem that destroys your ability to solve problems.

 

[Borachio]

Huh! You think you're lazy!

I could tell you what lazy is.

Spoiler :

But I can't be arsed bothered to.

 

[Arakhor]

Unless you go into linguistics, knowing IPA is not exactly that useful a skill. It's like being able to solve quadratic equations in your head - that's great and you're undeniably talented in that field, but what are you going to do with it?

 

[Phrossack]

Unless you go into linguistics, knowing IPA is not exactly that useful a skill. It's like being able to solve quadratic equations in your head - that's great and you're undeniably talented in that field, but what are you going to do with it?

You could go into linguistics, learn languages more easily, be more likely to be hired, and maybe get a nice job as a valuable translator.