Random Rants VII: Why do they ALWAYS do that?!

[CCRunner]

My brothers friend is staying at my house today. He never stops talking and will basically force me off of the computer with his non-stop questions. I hate my brothers friends.

 

[Ekolite]

If you have to be forced off then maybe you've been on too long .

 

[Firstlady]

If you have to be forced off then maybe you've been on too long .

That's funny. I was just thinking the same thing.

 

[Bigfoot3814]

Okay, here goes then.

I think the only real mistake you made here (in the process of things I mean, whether or not to even break it off at all I will never know) is was telling everybody else before you told her. That wasn't a good idea. When she finds out secondhandedly not only does it make you look bad, the information is often embelished, as it was in your case.

Besides, your post was 20th on the page, and probably nobody will ever see it.

 

[salty mud]

Okay, here goes then.

Two nights ago, I have an impulsive reaction, no clue why, probably pressure from high school building up, and I had removed everything involving my girlfriend from Facebook and MSN and told everyone that it was over and told them the reasoning I had (We lived too far away, we'd be happier just as close friends, restrictions, etc), and then suddenly I actually got thinking and the feeling had started to sink in. I hadn't even talked to her about it, and I went to bed and thought about it. When I woke up the morning after, I tried to revert everything back and tell everyone I changed my mind, but turns out one of her friends had literally text messaged her and said, "Davy's breaking up with you for another girl." So I had called Tiffany in the afternoon, because I couldn't wait until the night, and she told me not to waste my breath because her friend had already told her, but I corrected that and told the same reason, and she said she'd call back later at 7, so that she could think. So, I waited. 7 o'clock comes, the conversation goes no where until around 7:45 and she starts crying, and then she broke up with me in the last few minutes. Turns out she broke up with me for the REASONS I said as my reasons for the one night. We're still staying friends and all, but my god I made the worst mistake of my life...

/waitsforinsults

No insults from me. I understand, and feel for you. It's a shame, you probably should have thought a bit more before you make a decision like that. But life is one big lesson, and I'm sure you've learned from it. I'm in a lot of emotinal turmoil too, you know.

 

[Gogf]

Okay, here goes then.

Two nights ago, I have an impulsive reaction, no clue why, probably pressure from high school building up, and I had removed everything involving my girlfriend from Facebook and MSN and told everyone that it was over and told them the reasoning I had (We lived too far away, we'd be happier just as close friends, restrictions, etc), and then suddenly I actually got thinking and the feeling had started to sink in. I hadn't even talked to her about it, and I went to bed and thought about it. When I woke up the morning after, I tried to revert everything back and tell everyone I changed my mind, but turns out one of her friends had literally text messaged her and said, "Davy's breaking up with you for another girl." So I had called Tiffany in the afternoon, because I couldn't wait until the night, and she told me not to waste my breath because her friend had already told her, but I corrected that and told the same reason, and she said she'd call back later at 7, so that she could think. So, I waited. 7 o'clock comes, the conversation goes no where until around 7:45 and she starts crying, and then she broke up with me in the last few minutes. Turns out she broke up with me for the REASONS I said as my reasons for the one night. We're still staying friends and all, but my god I made the worst mistake of my life...

/waitsforinsults

Nobody's going to insult you, but stop freaking out. You're 14. I know it doesn't seem like it, but relationship are pretty meaningless at your age. You'll make much bigger mistakes, don't worry.

 

[Synobun]

I think the only real mistake you made here (in the process of things I mean, whether or not to even break it off at all I will never know) is was telling everybody else before you told her. That wasn't a good idea. When she finds out secondhandedly not only does it make you look bad, the information is often embelished, as it was in your case.

Besides, your post was 20th on the page, and probably nobody will ever see it.

Now they will because of Salty.

Anyways, yeah, I know, I made a massive mistake just because of an impulsive reaction and then started to think afterwards... At least we'll still be friends... I don't know if it'd be right in trying to mend the relationship so soon.

No insults from me. I understand, and feel for you. It's a shame, you probably should have thought a bit more before you make a decision like that. But life is one big lesson, and I'm sure you've learned from it. I'm in a lot of emotinal turmoil too, you know.

Thanks, and yeah, it's all one lesson...

EDIT:

Nobody's going to insult you, but stop freaking out. You're 14. I know it doesn't seem like it, but relationship are pretty meaningless at your age. You'll make much bigger mistakes, don't worry.

I'm not exactly freaking out, but I am kinda kicking myself in the head for this. Sure, most relationships seem worthless at our age, but some actually do mean a lot, even if it doesn't seem like it. And I probably will make bigger mistakes, we'll see...

 

[Gogf]

EDIT:

I'm not exactly freaking out, but I am kinda kicking myself in the head for this. Sure, most relationships seem worthless at our age, but some actually do mean a lot, even if it doesn't seem like it. And I probably will make bigger mistakes, we'll see...

You're talking about "the worst mistake of your life." You're freaking out.

The reason you're freaking out is that you're overestimating the value that this relationship had to you. It was obviously pretty meaningless to you if you could just spontaneously break up with her like that.

In my experience, most relationships at your age are really just two people hanging out together and bragging about having a "girlfriend" or "boyfriend." That's not even really a relationship... it's a friendship.

Hell, relationships are for the most part pretty meaningless at my age, but we have sex thrown into the mix, which makes things much more complicated.

Stop worrying about it. It's really not as big a deal as you think it is.

 

[Firstlady]

I'm not exactly freaking out, but I am kinda kicking myself in the head for this. Sure, most relationships seem worthless at our age, but some actually do mean a lot, even if it doesn't seem like it. And I probably will make bigger mistakes, we'll see...

I said the same thing when I was in a 'serious' relationship at the age of seventeen. I thought it was different, too. High school relationships are frivolous. Case and point.

 

[Bigfoot3814]

High school relationships are frivolous. Case and point.

Doesn't mean he wouldn't feel bad.

 

[Hitti-Litti]

Nobody's going to insult you, but stop freaking out. You're 14. I know it doesn't seem like it, but relationship are pretty meaningless at your age. You'll make much bigger mistakes, don't worry.

Now THAT is what I call encouragement!

d.highland@ Yeah, it must suck, but life goes on. Hopefully.

 

[Firstlady]

Doesn't mean he wouldn't feel bad.

Meh, I know. It took about a year for me to completely get over it but then again, I blew things way out of proportion back then.

It gets better. Life goes on. You'll meet new people.

Edit: Crosspost...

 

[salty mud]

Look what I've done. Got everyone involved in this thread talking about love and relationships. How good am I.

 

[Bigfoot3814]

Actually, I was the one who dragged it out of him.

 

[salty mud]

Actually, I was the one who dragged it out of him.

Stop using that smiley! It's so hypnotizing....

 

[Synobun]

You're talking about "the worst mistake of your life." You're freaking out.

The reason you're freaking out is that you're overestimating the value that this relationship had to you. It was obviously pretty meaningless to you if you could just spontaneously break up with her like that.

In my experience, most relationships at your age are really just two people hanging out together and bragging about having a "girlfriend" or "boyfriend." That's not even really a relationship... it's a friendship.

Hell, relationships are for the most part pretty meaningless at my age, but we have sex thrown into the mix, which makes things much more complicated.

Stop worrying about it. It's really not as big a deal as you think it is.

Look at my response to Firstlady.

I said the same thing when I was in a 'serious' relationship at the age of seventeen. I thought it was different, too. High school relationships are frivolous. Case and point.

I am 14 years old. Obviously this would be my worst mistake of my life... so far. Adding to that, I didn't just spontaneously break up with her. I got the impulsive reactions from my dad's side of the family, something which takes a long time to get out of. It's basically "Take Action, Think Later".

The 'value' of this relationship has lasted with me since last year's summer, where we were DEFINITELY not ready for anything in terms of a serious relationship and messed up things bad. After that happened, around mid-August last year, I stopped talking to her, and we both, like Firstlady, were miserable for the entire year.

Me, instead of trying to move on, I dug a little hole and remained there for pretty much the whole year. Her, she tried to cover it up and try to act like the rest of the people but instead she cut herself and kept on writing on papers of how much of an idiot she was. In reality, it was both our faults for that to happen, but it happened. Near June, I got a gut feeling, to try things out again. So I did that around July, she was happy about it, we got back together on July 17th. We thought it was going to last, but, deep inside, we still weren't quite ready. The relationship meant a lot to me, I was willing to sacrifice everything for her. I had kept myself to that moral value until I had that impulsive reaction.

Then, I quickly tried to revert everything back to normal, but did that work? No, it just got her thinking about the reasons I mentioned, and she decided that they made sense. Today, on the phone, she told me about how she didn't mean for this to happen and how she didn't want it, and I told her, "Of course you didn't, this happened because of my own stupidity." This relationship had nothing to do with bragging rights, especially since everyone thought we were the worst couple ever.

Nothing to brag about really. I know that the common stereotype with people my age is that we blow everything out of proportion and that nothing actually matters that much to us, but, believe it or not, some of us are different, some of us don't just get these situations because of hormones and puberty.

Doesn't mean he wouldn't feel bad.

Exactly...

Now THAT is what I call encouragement!

d.highland@ Yeah, it must suck, but life goes on. Hopefully.

Of course life goes on.

EndNote - Ok I believe I covered everything...

 

[Harbringer]

Well, not necessarily a rant but the girl I broke up with two days ago just told me she hit her period so Im glad for obvious reasons...........

 

[Bigfoot3814]

This thread need some serious silliness right now.

RANT: Mah big toe itchez!!!!!!111!!!11!

 

[Taras Bulba]

This thread need some serious silliness right now.

you didn't just ask for silliness

and in the words of Mr. Colbert

 

[Bigfoot3814]

Spoiler :

you didn't just ask for silliness

and in the words of Mr. Colbert

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