Random Rants XLIX - IT CHAFES MY ARSE!!!

[Verarde]

Hmm. What would you suggest I do?

 

[_random_]

^You know, I had a pretty similar situation in high school, and my school was so tiny "Make other friends." didn't really work well as advice. So by the time I figured it out, I figured I'd just appreciate the more casual relationships I had and wait for college. So, um, wait for new first years I guess?

So, funny story, did you know they put lights in glove compartments? And that they're really difficult to notice if you're not aware of them? And they don't turn off when you turn the engine off, so they can drain your battery gradually if you absentmindedly leave your glove compartment open? Meaning that you'd have to continually get jumps from campus safety and drive it around for about an hour, but just when you think you're good, it goes out again a day or two later? And that if you take it to an Autozone in a sketchy neighborhood, they'll tell you the battery's fine and you'll see people selling bootleg DVDs and suspiciously inexpensive Beats by Dre while they charge it? And that it's apparently totally okay for Autozone workers to smoke on the job in Tennessee? And that parking your car under a tree for a few days with no way to move it will result in it being drenched in bird dung? And that if this goes on for a goddamn week, it'll drive you pretty insane?

BECAUSE I CERTAINLY DIDN'T.

So yeah, turns out the battery was effed up, and I suspect that was partially because of all the things I mentioned above. I had to get it replaced, and because it's a Volkswagon and only takes really particular parts, that was not a good experience.

 

[hobbsyoyo]

Hmm. What would you suggest I do?

Anything but that. Try and hangout with whatever friends you,still like.

 

[Antilogic]

Send a couple of them a text if you have their phone numbers, and don't send another if they don't respond to yours (or mention it the next time they see you). Sometimes, people are just used to communicating with each other in a particular fashion and don't think to send a text or a phone call.

The silent treatment is only going to alienate yourself further from the group. If that's what you want to accomplish, it will work quite well.

 

[madviking]

I thought I was part of this group of friends. Tonight I realized that they don't really care about me. Well, screw you too.
I'm slowly losing hope about my ability to make friends here. I'm not sure what's happening. People seemed to really like me at the beginning of the semester, and now I feel like I'm getting brushed aside, like there's stuff always happening that I just don't know about that I would love to be a part of...people are always texting each other, they never text me...I'm just not that important to them. Well, have fun. I'm not changing who I am just to please you.

I'm considering going hermit style for a week, just to see if anyone notices or cares.

college freshman are notoriously fickle

 

[ReindeerThistle]

I won't be able to pay my credit card bill because of sudden medical expenses. I will not be paid for another 11 days.

This makes for an unhappy and irritated man.

Call the credit card company and tell them. Ask to speak to a supervisor and work out a payment plan to avoid excess charges.

I thought I was part of this group of friends. Tonight I realized that they don't really care about me. Well, screw you too.
I'm slowly losing hope about my ability to make friends here. I'm not sure what's happening. People seemed to really like me at the beginning of the semester, and now I feel like I'm getting brushed aside, like there's stuff always happening that I just don't know about that I would love to be a part of...people are always texting each other, they never text me...I'm just not that important to them. Well, have fun. I'm not changing who I am just to please you.

I'm considering going hermit style for a week, just to see if anyone notices or cares.

Going hermit style is only going to confirm your suspicion while not actually providing you an accurate assessment of your friends level of commitment to you. Don't do that.

Anything but that. Try and hangout with whatever friends you,still like.

QFT.
Good advice.
@Antilogic -- yours is too, too tired to go back and quote.

college freshman are notoriously fickle

Tru Dat. I found sophomores to be only a slight improvement. I found it is not until people really declare that they gravitate to the people who like them.

 

[_random_]

So even though my roommate just told me I'm nice and he loves me, those feelings might not carry through? Like, maybe not even into his upcoming sobriety?

 

[Ajidica]

@Verarde: I'll give to you the same advice I gave to Joe, join clubs. You meet loads of people that way. (My two reccomendations would be Model United Nations/Foreign Affairs and Mock Trial, if only because the Model UN Conference in Chicago is awesome and Mock Trial takes up so much of your time working with others that you start to long for a lack of human contact. )

 

[Verarde]

Thanks for the advice guys. One more thing to mention. That group of "friends" went and got themselves a photoshoot this afternoon, and now it's all over Facebook. xD suspicions confirmed, moving on to other people now. this is how I feel. xD

I think I'm just going to move on from them. If they really want me to chill with them, they'll mention something. But I know when I'm not wanted. I've got other friends...it's just a matter of making sure they don't do the same thing.

 

[hobbsyoyo]

Not to downplay your hurt feelings but try and keep some perspective. In the long run of things, this slight is so minor you'll forget about it entirely. Moreover, at some point you're going to hurt your friends feelings. Especially when you get a girlfriend, you're going to piss off all of your friends as you spend all of your time with her.

 

[GenMarshall]

I think I'm just going to move on from them. If they really want me to chill with them, they'll mention something. But I know when I'm not wanted. I've got other friends...it's just a matter of making sure they don't do the same thing.

I get this feeling on these boards, so you're not alone.

 

[madviking]

why are you judging yourself based on other people's (pretty dumb) actions? self-esteem gives you friends, not the other way around

 

[Borachio]

Does self-esteem give you friends?

Arrogant people seem to lack them, but not self-esteem.

But never mind. I'm curious. How does self-esteem give you friends?

 

[hobbsyoyo]

You threaten them with overwhelming awesomeness until they relent and sign a treaty handing over their weapons of mass friendship.

 

[Borachio]

I think being happy and friendly will win you more friends.

 

[madviking]

But never mind. I'm curious. How does self-esteem give you friends?

bc you don't fret over what other the 'friends' think. also people are naturally attracted to people with high self-esteem anyway.

 

[hobbsyoyo]

Rant: my ratio of serious/******** posts has fallen to catasteophic levels.

 

[Borachio]

bc you don't fret over what other the 'friends' think. also people are naturally attracted to people with high self-esteem anyway.

I agree that not worrying what other people think is a good rule of thumb. Up to a point. (It's a very good idea to consider what people do think, though.)

But I don't agree that people with high self-esteem are attractive to anyone. Someone with high self-esteem spends a lot of time thinking and evaluating themselves in a postive way. No? So, if it's not a good idea to fret over what other people think, it might be a good idea not to fret over what one thinks of oneself.

 

[bhsup]

I demand new rule for serial threads that the numbering be in ROMAN numerals! Those weird Greek numerals are just wrong, man! Wrong!

 

[Borachio]

What Greek numerals?

I'm familiar with Roman and Arabic numerals. But I don't recall ever seeing Greek ones.