Random Rants XLV: Isn't This Just a Ray of Sunshine?

[aimeeandbeatles]

If you have a few minutes I'll post up a link to a video of what happened

 

[aimeeandbeatles]

Ok here it is

What the hell did i do

http://www.mediafire.com/?q0uskwxrmxl0ys3

 

[GenMarshall]

I'm wondering if your video card is starting to melt since for a split second, I saw a bit of artifacting.

Also...


Link to video.

...GMAN ASSUMING DIRECT CONTROL!!!!!!

 

[aimeeandbeatles]

Actually no, the video got a bit corrupted there during reencoding

 

[Joecoolyo]

Rant: Back to being sad and lonely again. Talked to my friend for an hour about my whole situation, and he honestly tried to help, but I shot down every suggestion he had with weak excuses and now I just feel worse because of it. He just ended up saying I had to snap out of it... I wish I could just snap out of it. That would be nice.

This combined with a light hearted prod going up in red tape makes me think I'm not allowed to be happy. Nope, can't even joke anymore. I guess my humor has gone up in flames with just about everything else that causes smiles.

No happiness for Joe. Just misery, loneliness, and none of the confidence to fix it all.

 

[Tee Kay]

*TK hugs Joecoolyo*

 

[JohannaK]

You can count on us Joe.

 

[shadowplay]

*booty drops*

 

[NedimNapoleon]

Slept only 4 hours, drank an energy drink at school, head exploding.

 

[Phrossack]

Rant: Back to being sad and lonely again. Talked to my friend for an hour about my whole situation, and he honestly tried to help, but I shot down every suggestion he had with weak excuses and now I just feel worse because of it. He just ended up saying I had to snap out of it... I wish I could just snap out of it. That would be nice.

This combined with a light hearted prod going up in red tape makes me think I'm not allowed to be happy. Nope, can't even joke anymore. I guess my humor has gone up in flames with just about everything else that causes smiles.

No happiness for Joe. Just misery, loneliness, and none of the confidence to fix it all.

May I ask what's wrong? Sounds like you're sad about that girl and being single. I've been in the same boat too, and I can also shoot down helpful suggestions like a ZPU! You can PM me if you want; you're a cool guy, and I'd love to help.

 

[GenMarshall]

All I can say Joe is, welcome to the club. Just don't go into the deep end and start wangsting about it or start hosting pitty parties for months or years.

 

[Borachio]

Rant: Back to being sad and lonely again. Talked to my friend for an hour about my whole situation, and he honestly tried to help, but I shot down every suggestion he had with weak excuses and now I just feel worse because of it. He just ended up saying I had to snap out of it... I wish I could just snap out of it. That would be nice.

This combined with a light hearted prod going up in red tape makes me think I'm not allowed to be happy. Nope, can't even joke anymore. I guess my humor has gone up in flames with just about everything else that causes smiles.

No happiness for Joe. Just misery, loneliness, and none of the confidence to fix it all.

So what's making you sad and lonely? Really.

If you think someone else is going to make you happy and not feel lonely, then I'm very much afraid you're going to be disappointed. Honestly, the times when I've felt most lonely were when I was in a relationship. (That may sound paradoxical - but it's a fairly common experience. And I'm, of course, not talking about a beneficial relationship.)

There isn't any "way" of finding happiness in the end. It's certainly unrealistic to expect another person to provide it for you. And isn't it simply loading someone with too much responsibility in any case?

There are ways, though, of avoiding unhappiness and misery.

 

[sophie]

Your friend is right Joe. Honestly the best way to get past this is to work through it. I would recommend trying a new hobby or doing something different to get your mind off her. Meet new people or take up an activity. Have you joined the Mock UN yet like you said you wanted to? If not try that. Otherwise maybe join a sports club or hobby group or somesuch. The worst thing you can do for yourself right now though is mope about it or run it over continuously in your mind (or try to drink it out; but I really don't peg you for one of those guys.) That's not going to help anybody.

Don't worry there man, you'll get through this and meet somebody else. Until then, we're here for you

 

[GenMarshall]

The worst thing you can do for yourself right now though is mope about it or run it over continuously in your mind (or try to drink it out; but I really don't peg you for one of those guys.) That's not going to help anybody.

Trust me Joe, as someone who had hosted pity parties and sought sympathy from other people. It's not going to work and will only drive people away from you (more than likely, annoy other people) if you end up making a habit out of it. What Owen said in what I quoted is sound advice, even coming from a person for years sought pity and sympathy much to the annoyance to other posters during my struggles with years of depression.

I'm not sure if I could give any kind of advice since I myself am working on coming out of the tail end of my own hole.

Just promise me that you don't start use the "but" excuse .

 

[ace99]

When did the youth become so arrogant and cocksure? I've got younger siblings trying to give me career advice as though they know better than me when I'm the only one whose ever held a job.

Damn son, if I want to sell-out, I'm going to damn well sell out. What did the world come to when youth try to convince their elders to do good for society?

 

[Joecoolyo]

*TK hugs Joecoolyo*

You can count on us Joe.

Thanks guys, appreciate it.

May I ask what's wrong? Sounds like you're sad about that girl and being single. I've been in the same boat too, and I can also shoot down helpful suggestions like a ZPU! You can PM me if you want; you're a cool guy, and I'd love to help.

I don't know, to be honest, I just am. She might have just been the catalyst, or the cause, I don't know. Investing so much emotion for literally no payoff (I can't even tell if I got a friend out of it, she doesn't talk to me) cannot do a person any good.

All I can say Joe is, welcome to the club. Just don't go into the deep end and start wangsting about it or start hosting pitty parties for months or years.

I hope this doesn't become the norm

So what's making you sad and lonely? Really.

If you think someone else is going to make you happy and not feel lonely, then I'm very much afraid you're going to be disappointed. Honestly, the times when I've felt most lonely were when I was in a relationship. (That may sound paradoxical - but it's a fairly common experience. And I'm, of course, not talking about a beneficial relationship.)

There isn't any "way" of finding happiness in the end. It's certainly unrealistic to expect another person to provide it for you. And isn't it simply loading someone with too much responsibility in any case?

There are ways, though, of avoiding unhappiness and misery.

I don't know what is making me feel sad and lonely, I just am. The whole situation just left some sort of emptiness in me that's failing to fill back up. Friends, games, all the stuff that used to do it for me don't anymore, maybe that's what's making me feel so lonely. Maybe, I don't know.

Your friend is right Joe. Honestly the best way to get past this is to work through it. I would recommend trying a new hobby or doing something different to get your mind off her. Meet new people or take up an activity. Have you joined the Mock UN yet like you said you wanted to? If not try that. Otherwise maybe join a sports club or hobby group or somesuch. The worst thing you can do for yourself right now though is mope about it or run it over continuously in your mind (or try to drink it out; but I really don't peg you for one of those guys.) That's not going to help anybody.

Don't worry there man, you'll get through this and meet somebody else. Until then, we're here for you

There are times like these that I'm glad I don't drink, I would have poisoned myself many times over now if I did.

And yeah, he suggested the same things. Join a club, meet new people, get it off your mind... I really wish I had it in me though, I really do. I can't even leave me dorm room door open anymore, everyone on my floor thinks I've disappeared. My friends think I'm ignoring them because I fail to say hello when passing them... I don't even know why I fail to say hello, I just do. Maybe I'm scared, maybe it something else, I don't know.

My hands are the only ones that can fix this, that's what everyone tells me... I just wish my hands were more capable.

EDIT:

Trust me Joe, as someone who had hosted pity parties and sought sympathy from other people. It's not going to work and will only drive people away from you (more than likely, annoy other people) if you end up making a habit out of it. What Owen said in what I quoted is sound advice, even coming from a person for years sought pity and sympathy much to the annoyance to other posters during my struggles with years of depression.

I'm not sure if I could give any kind of advice since I myself am working on coming out of the tail end of my own hole.

Just promise me that you don't start use the "but" excuse .

Yeah, I don't want to end up like that. I don't want to burden my friends or relatives with this, no, that would be horrible and I would just feel even worse in the end. Its why I've kept my tongue these past few weeks even though its been like this. Because you guys, and my friends, deserve better than me depressing them, and forcing them into this situation. I honestly shouldn't even be doing this now... I knew I would regret this in the morning.

 

[Dachs]

what the hell did itunes do to the goddamn search bar

moving crap around for absolutely no reason whatsofreakingever is asinine

 

[aimeeandbeatles]

Spoiler :

what

 

[GenMarshall]

Wat? Aimee got access to HL1 Beta?

 

[SamSniped]

The downside to paintball? When you get hit with three in the back at almost the same time, it HURTS.