Should gay couples be able to (adopt/have kids)

[Rhye]

No, I think they shouldn't.
I fear for the children sanity

 

[Ansar]

No, I think they shouldn't.
I fear for the children sanity

What would happen to the children...besides a new growing environment?


Btw, is this only gay, or lesbian too?

 

[logical_psycho]

Lesbian == gay.

 

[JohnRM]

I don't see a problem with it (gays adopting).

 

[Paalikles]

Rhye? Sanity?

Please explain

 

[Whomp]

I agree with legal same-sex marriage, but I do not think same-sex parents should be able to adopt. I think its unfair to the Kid. Its not the same with stupid names. Imagine going into High School and telling people that you have 2 mommies or 2 daddies. You would be alienated from most everyone. Its too hard of a life on the kids. And as hard as it is for me to say it, the parents would influence the child in a way that is generally not accepted by society. It would force a young life of isolation for the child.

No, I think they shouldn't.
I fear for the children sanity

The real choice for children waiting to be adopted isn't between gay and straight parents, but between parents and no parents.

Children are remarkably resilient, especially if they are provided with a stable and loving home environment. On the other hand, children in foster care can face tremendous abuse from their peers for being parentless. These children internalize that abuse, and feel unwanted. Unfortunately, they do not have the emotional support of a loving permanent family to help them through these difficult times.

With so many children in the public child welfare system in need of permanent homes, gay parents are sometimes seen as resources for hard-to-place children. There is an unspoken hierarchy in adoption practices, and one of the great ironies of the debate is that gay and lesbian parents often adopt the children with the greatest need.
For instance, 1% of white familiies adopt black children but 5% of white families adopt children of other races. The numbers are even worse for black males versus black females.

As an example, my friend’s who adopted a black male were able to have him in nine months from the start of the process. If they waited for a black or latino girl it would take 3 years.

So to me the question stands...parents or no parents?

 

[Archbob]

No matter how much you try to hide it in school, the fact that you have same-sex parents will come out sooner or later and it'd be horrible for the Kid.

I do believe if you adopt a straight kid at a young age with gay parents, then the child might eventually switch his/her sexual orientation. Parents do have a strong influence on kids. In that case, you have isolated a child from most of society for the rest of his/her life whereas otherwise they might have been fine.

As far as being gay itself goes. I think its ok, as long as the vast majority of our population isn't gay, because if everyone was gay, then the human species would just die out.

 

[MobBoss]

The real choice for children waiting to be adopted isn't between gay and straight parents, but between parents and no parents.

Precisely, thats why, even as a christian, I still think gays can adopt kids.

Very progressive of me dont you think?

 

[Mathilda]

Precisely, thats why, even as a christian, I still think gays can adopt kids.

Very progressive of me dont you think?

Yes Boss, well done. 10 points to Griffyndore.

 

[Mathilda]

I do believe if you adopt a straight kid at a young age with gay parents, then the child might eventually switch his/her sexual orientation.

If that were true, there wouldn't be any gays in the world.

 

[Rik Meleet]

I do believe if you adopt a straight kid at a young age with gay parents, then the child might eventually switch his/her sexual orientation.

If that were true, there wouldn't be any gays in the world.

Absolutely true, Math.
Great comment !!

 

[Sims2789]

My sister is currently going to Harvard and she was raised mostly by middle-class lesbians. You'll probably all say that we're the exception, and that over all children raised by gays fair worse than heterosexually-raised children, so I ask you this: Provide some evidence. Don't make a faith-based, Bible-waving, or psuedoscientific argument; actually prove your hypothesis.

 

[Sims2789]

For me, I think it is unfair on the child as they will be bullied to a pulp at school-
which will generally put them back in life if they had not been adopted by a heterosexual couple.

what you guys think?

I wasn't. Kids aren't tolerant in the Bay Area (I recall the "gay table" where all the non-popular kids sat) and I wasn'tbeaten to a pulp.

 

[Pikachu]

Of course homosexuals must be allowed to have and raise their own children, and I think they should be allowed to adopt children too, but not on equal terms as heterosexual couples.

I think interacting with both sexes makes life more interesting, and I think it would be better for a child to have both a male and a female parent than to miss out on one of them.

When it comes to adoption I see an average homosexual couple as a slightly better alternative than an average single parent, but worse than an average heterosexual couple. Sex is not the most important issue though.

 

[Stapel]

No matter how much you try to hide it in school, the fact that you have same-sex parents will come out sooner or later and it'd be horrible for the Kid.

I do believe if you adopt a straight kid at a young age with gay parents, then the child might eventually switch his/her sexual orientation. Parents do have a strong influence on kids. In that case, you have isolated a child from most of society for the rest of his/her life whereas otherwise they might have been fine.

As far as being gay itself goes. I think its ok, as long as the vast majority of our population isn't gay, because if everyone was gay, then the human species would just die out.

There are about a dozen ridiculous points in this rather short post.

 

[Whomp]

Since a lot of people speculate what they think would happen if a child was raised in a gay family. From two researchers at USC.

Spoiler :

Researchers Judith Stacey and Timothy Biblarz of the University of Southern California reported the results of their examination of 21 studies on gay parenting. Stacey and Biblarz found that although "the authors of all 21 studies almost uniformly claim to find no differences in measures of parenting or child outcomes," their examination of the data suggests that the children of gay parents demonstrate some differences in gender behavior and preferences. Lesbian mothers reported their children, especially daughters, are less likely to conform to cultural gender norms in dress, play, and behavior, and are more likely to aspire to nontraditional gender occupations, such as doctors, lawyers, or engineers.

 

[Tank_Guy#3]

That would be torture for a kid. Elementary-High School kids can be inhumanly cruel. I vote Hell No, for the kid's sake.

 

[Whomp]

That would be torture for a kid. Elementary-High School kids can be inhumanly cruel. I vote Hell No, for the kid's sake.

Question remains....parents or no parents? I'd say growing up in a foster home parentless is more mentally abusive.

 

[Tank_Guy#3]

Of course homosexuals must be allowed to have and raise their own children, and I think they should be allowed to adopt children too, but not on equal terms as heterosexual couples.

I think interacting with both sexes makes life more interesting, and I think it would be better for a child to have both a male and a female parent than to miss out on one of them.

When it comes to adoption I see an average homosexual couple as a slightly better alternative than an average single parent, but worse than an average heterosexual couple. Sex is not the most important issue though.

Doesn't "have and raise their own children" imply heterosexual intercourse (sex for those with lesser vocabularies) followed by pregnancy, then birth (I like giving the play by play). That make no sense whatsoever. It isn't even possible, for two men to have a baby. For women it is possible, I mean with all the guys willing to get paid two bucks a "pop" by a sperm bank, there are a healthy supply to inject into the eggs.

But I do agree with your sentiments about the raising of the child. A heterosexual couple would raise best, then homosexual, and lastly single parent. I believe that two parents can raise a child, for the most part, better than a single parent can. Because there would be more time spent with the child.

 

[Pikachu]

Doesn't "have and raise their own children" imply heterosexual intercourse

Yes it does, and some homosexuals has done that in their sinful past.