So, you wake up in the morning and realize you're in love with your best friend...
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skadistic
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It depends on how gay you are.Masquerouge said:better be the bun or the ham?
Gr3yL3gion
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Depends on how important is her friendship to you. If it's not i'd say go for it.
Though proceed with caution, and get prepare with a very messy outcome.
Though proceed with caution, and get prepare with a very messy outcome.
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punkbass2000 said:
Your entire post comes from the playbook of corny romantic novels.
punkbass2000
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Clearly you misunderstood it, then
Tenochtitlan
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Go for it. Maybe she is your soulmate and you were destined to be together
I will never forgive myself for using words like soulmate or destined but oh well.
I will never forgive myself for using words like soulmate or destined but oh well.
Narz
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Meh. I personally would give free access to any girl I let go to any of my friends (assuming they treated her well). Better for her to be with a friend of mine than some random jerk off the street.Fifty said:
That smiley scares me.Tenochtitlan said:Go for it. Maybe she is your soulmate and you were destined to be together
I will never forgive myself for using words like soulmate or destined but oh well.
Cheezy the Wiz
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Well, the deed is done.
She says she has feelings for me, that she does care about me, but is confused, and I don't know what the hell that means.
Either way, she's preached to me to be more of a 'heart on my sleeve' kinda guy, and she felt that in practice first-hand tonight.
I'm hanging out with her tomorrow night, too, and going to her Halloween party Tuesday, so we'll see what happens. They say alcohol is the ultimate mental tool, because we are more willing to forego the social lines we draw and abide by when sober, and that our true emotions and feelings about things come out when we don't have control over them, and don't have those lines to stop us. I'm not saying I want to get her drunk and boink her, I would never do that (my morals supercede even the most wasted me), but we all WILL be nice and drunk, and a good sesh leads to many good things.
I digress. Wait and see, that's what we'll do.
She says she has feelings for me, that she does care about me, but is confused, and I don't know what the hell that means.
Either way, she's preached to me to be more of a 'heart on my sleeve' kinda guy, and she felt that in practice first-hand tonight.
I'm hanging out with her tomorrow night, too, and going to her Halloween party Tuesday, so we'll see what happens. They say alcohol is the ultimate mental tool, because we are more willing to forego the social lines we draw and abide by when sober, and that our true emotions and feelings about things come out when we don't have control over them, and don't have those lines to stop us. I'm not saying I want to get her drunk and boink her, I would never do that (my morals supercede even the most wasted me), but we all WILL be nice and drunk, and a good sesh leads to many good things.
I digress. Wait and see, that's what we'll do.
Narz
keeping it real
Well good luck. 
Sounds like it was out of the blue (I still don't believe women have this intuition thing). Good luck.
Gr3yL3gion
Voice of Madness
Good luck, though it's better to clear this confused stage as soon as possible. Don't hesitate for a moment.
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Good for you.Cheezy the Wiz said:
That can mean anything.Cheezy the Wiz said:
Problem with women is that yesterday they might have been love with you but today they might had changed their mind about their feelings and tomorrow they are just confused about the whole thing.
Only over time you will learn how the tide will turn.
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Cheezy the Wiz said:
Oh well! Then I wish you good luck.
I reiterate: my friends ex-girlfriend is totally verboten territory.
Worst case scenario: you'll loose both.
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Good luck fella. Remember your priorities with regard to continuing friendship with girl, continued friendship with buddy and getting your leg over.
Ingvina Freyr
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So, let's see what you got here... 
You're 19 and thinking about getting together with an older woman who wants to have kids? I'd say that's a
She is your best friend? I'd say that's a
You work together? I'd say that's a
She's your manager? I'd say that's a
She's your friends ex-girl? I'd say that's a
Why not take a swim in a pool full of sharks while you're at it?
I was going to suggest a good long cold shower, and to buy a pair of glasses so you can read the big sign that says "Do not go there", but then I saw this:
The best of luck to you buddy! Hope you prove me wrong.
You're 19 and thinking about getting together with an older woman who wants to have kids? I'd say that's a
She is your best friend? I'd say that's a
You work together? I'd say that's a
She's your manager? I'd say that's a
She's your friends ex-girl? I'd say that's a
Why not take a swim in a pool full of sharks while you're at it?
I was going to suggest a good long cold shower, and to buy a pair of glasses so you can read the big sign that says "Do not go there", but then I saw this:
Cheezy the Wiz said:
The best of luck to you buddy! Hope you prove me wrong.
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Cheezy the Wiz said:
I knew you were only interested in reassurance, and not opinion, but dude, you made a big mistake. You will never have this chick, and you will waste time and money until you realize it the hard way. There's no such thing as a girl being "confused" about how she feels about a guy. She either likes him or not. Women figure out if they're interested in you minutes after they meet you. That's because their decisions are based more on emotion than logic. This impression is cemented forever and can only rarely be undone. If she knows you as a friend, that's all you'll ever be. Even if you succeed in winning her over, it will take so much time and effort that you will feel like it was too much of a hassle.
I know you're too lovestruck to care, but take it from an old pro. There are plenty of girls out there who will throw themselves at you with far less hesitation, and you don't need to be wasting your time with someone who claims she can't even figure out whether she likes you or not. I mean, seriously: what is there to figure out?
Her only confusion is what to do with you now that you've dropped this bomb on her.
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You are wrong with that. That is extremely narrow view.Nanocyborgasm said:
If you are just hitting girls in bars or hang around as pals, then that is sure thing but example people in workplaces fall in love with each other over time. It doesn't happen necessary in seconds. Of course if the woman doesn't fancy you in the first meeting she doesn't usually change her mind but even though someone might be only your friend it doesn't mean she won't ever fancy you.
I knew a girl once who I hanged around with in certain circles and I'm sure as she once told me that she wasn't interested about me. But then she saw me outside of those circles we were accustomied and as she saw me in entirely different light she started fancying me.
But it requires some kind of lightning bolt to hurl the man out from "friend zone" in woman's mind.
Women use logic as much of men use in these things. It is just their kind of logic, just like our logic is little bit mixed up when we see interesting pair of things walking around us. Our hormones and fantasies mix these things up, same happens with women.
There are numerous things to figure out. Exactly the same things why Cheezy hesitated to ask her.Nanocyborgasm said:
Even though I must admit this was my first thought too when I saw the info about "confusion" but without being there myself, it's hard to say.Nanocyborgasm said:
I would suggest Cheezy should push it as far as it can go remembering there might be limit to it.
punkbass2000
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Cheezy the Wiz said:
Good for you
Best of luck.
JerichoHill
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@@Cheezy the Wiz
She says she has feelings for me, that she does care about me, but is confused, and I don't know what the hell that means.
--Let me explain it to you. She is not romantically inclined to you at this time, but she knows you're a decent guy and therefore doesn't want to be mean, so she gives you the nice let down. If she had a high interest level in you, you would not have gotten that. Period. You need to run FOR THE HILLS.
Either way, she's preached to me to be more of a 'heart on my sleeve' kinda guy, and she felt that in practice first-hand tonight.
--What girls say they want and what they date are wholly different things. Mothers always want for you to be a nice guy, but guess what, nice guys rarely get the girl.
I'm hanging out with her tomorrow night, too, and going to her Halloween party Tuesday, so we'll see what happens. They say alcohol is the ultimate mental tool, because we are more willing to forego the social lines we draw and abide by when sober, and that our true emotions and feelings about things come out when we don't have control over them, and don't have those lines to stop us. I'm not saying I want to get her drunk and boink her, I would never do that (my morals supercede even the most wasted me), but we all WILL be nice and drunk, and a good sesh leads to many good things.
--I think this is shameful. You are relying on alcohol to get her to do something that she would not do while sober.
--Cheezy, I want for you to have a wonderful girl. But this one is bad news, and you're doing the things I used to do. It can only lead to a broken heart and a slippery slope of anger at women. You are 19 years old and barely even know the world. You don't need to be in a relationship (with an older woman, who is your boss, at your job) and by trying to make it serious (as you hint at in the way you write), well, its just not good.
@@C~G
If you are just hitting girls in bars or hang around as pals, then that is sure thing but example people in workplaces fall in love with each other over time. It doesn't happen necessary in seconds. Of course if the woman doesn't fancy you in the first meeting she doesn't usually change her mind but even though someone might be only your friend it doesn't mean she won't ever fancy you.
--That is correct, but the guy has to adopt a certain attitude to get a girl to move from friends to "more than friends". By being a nice guy, you will not accomplish this.
But it requires some kind of lightning bolt to hurl the man out from "friend zone" in woman's mind.
--No it doesn't. Young women know what they want just as much as young men do. Which means that they don't really know.
Women use logic as much of men use in these things. It is just their kind of logic, just like our logic is little bit mixed up when we see interesting pair of things walking around us. Our hormones and fantasies mix these things up, same happens with women.
--And normally like with this girl here, that when the guy broaches the subject, that normally means he is much more interested in her than she in him, and that normally leads to romantic trouble for the guy later.
I would suggest Cheezy should push it as far as it can go remembering there might be limit to it.
--I think Cheezy already knows the limit, but doesn't want to admit to it.
She says she has feelings for me, that she does care about me, but is confused, and I don't know what the hell that means.
--Let me explain it to you. She is not romantically inclined to you at this time, but she knows you're a decent guy and therefore doesn't want to be mean, so she gives you the nice let down. If she had a high interest level in you, you would not have gotten that. Period. You need to run FOR THE HILLS.
Either way, she's preached to me to be more of a 'heart on my sleeve' kinda guy, and she felt that in practice first-hand tonight.
--What girls say they want and what they date are wholly different things. Mothers always want for you to be a nice guy, but guess what, nice guys rarely get the girl.
I'm hanging out with her tomorrow night, too, and going to her Halloween party Tuesday, so we'll see what happens. They say alcohol is the ultimate mental tool, because we are more willing to forego the social lines we draw and abide by when sober, and that our true emotions and feelings about things come out when we don't have control over them, and don't have those lines to stop us. I'm not saying I want to get her drunk and boink her, I would never do that (my morals supercede even the most wasted me), but we all WILL be nice and drunk, and a good sesh leads to many good things.
--I think this is shameful. You are relying on alcohol to get her to do something that she would not do while sober.
--Cheezy, I want for you to have a wonderful girl. But this one is bad news, and you're doing the things I used to do. It can only lead to a broken heart and a slippery slope of anger at women. You are 19 years old and barely even know the world. You don't need to be in a relationship (with an older woman, who is your boss, at your job) and by trying to make it serious (as you hint at in the way you write), well, its just not good.
@@C~G
If you are just hitting girls in bars or hang around as pals, then that is sure thing but example people in workplaces fall in love with each other over time. It doesn't happen necessary in seconds. Of course if the woman doesn't fancy you in the first meeting she doesn't usually change her mind but even though someone might be only your friend it doesn't mean she won't ever fancy you.
--That is correct, but the guy has to adopt a certain attitude to get a girl to move from friends to "more than friends". By being a nice guy, you will not accomplish this.
But it requires some kind of lightning bolt to hurl the man out from "friend zone" in woman's mind.
--No it doesn't. Young women know what they want just as much as young men do. Which means that they don't really know.
Women use logic as much of men use in these things. It is just their kind of logic, just like our logic is little bit mixed up when we see interesting pair of things walking around us. Our hormones and fantasies mix these things up, same happens with women.
--And normally like with this girl here, that when the guy broaches the subject, that normally means he is much more interested in her than she in him, and that normally leads to romantic trouble for the guy later.
I would suggest Cheezy should push it as far as it can go remembering there might be limit to it.
--I think Cheezy already knows the limit, but doesn't want to admit to it.
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