White Elk
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I agree there is an emotional trip that my mother must overcome to at least stem the tide so that we can catch up. She now has some money and spends it her way. It was bad before, but there is no check that anyone can apply here now.Sounds like you're working hard battling the symptoms ...
... while the root cause goes unchecked. I dunno if there's anything you and your family can do about it, but if there's any way to stop the shopping sprees, or even just slow them down a lot, that's key. Tried cutting up credit cards?
In the big picture, you won't be much help to your family if you lead a life so miserable it drives you to suicide. That's gotta stop. Why are you the only one that has to be responsible all the time? :thumbdown
I agree how can a helper help another if they cannot help themselves. Unfortunatly my bliss is as easy as just loading my pack and leaving. My cat she is wise and I know she will travel well. I am road ready and have much support for my first destination. I have the funds to easilly make the transition. But I would die slowly always thinking of them. And when I came back again it would be hundred fold worse as it has been before. I have been there done that and know the guilt I feel for already abandoning them and have seen how much worse a fight I had for leaving before it was finished. So I commited to stick through it, but I see no hope for resolution. They seek my help openly so it is not just my ideals for them which motivates me.
And now its worse for two and soon three young minds are subject to be damaged by this example. The kids were also a part of my decision to delay my suicide. My out would be even worse an example. And so an accident at the wheel or on the mountain solves that. But that did nothing for when I suddenly went into that very dark space to just do it now. It was very strange that it hit me so sudden like that. I could think of how to make certain that my body was retreived so my family did not discover my half rotten corpse but that was about all I could think past. After the fact I am very shocked at how sudden this came upon me even though my feelings of despair have been with me for some time now. Now looking back I can easilly see how selfish and destructive it would have been. And in the past looking forward I knew this as well. A faked accident would surely be better, yet at the time I had no time for that. But I did have time to prepare my death grounds to contain my blood spillage and ease the impact on those who would have to deal with my mess. Strange. It has all been very strange. Sudden and near uncontrollable.