Sorry but you can't burn the baby-killing bridge, which you've already crossed. You've referred to abortion as baby-killing, said people shouldn't have the 'freedom to kill babies,'
Having an abortion because you don't want a kid is ethically very close to murder imo. But the point of law isn't to serve justice. Bad or not, abortion does not harm society as a whole, so it shouldn't be punished like murder is.
There's also the fact that moral guilt must take into account intentionality. Murder is clearly wrong, but the biases in our head can tell us that fetuses are nonsentient bags of flesh and therefore aren't the same as us.
claimed that it's understandable when terrorists attack abortion providers
I did not. Violence against abortion providers isn't justified because it doesn't work. All pro-lifers that I know of understand this.