The many questions-not-worth-their-own-thread question thread XX

[Farm Boy]

I suppose it might. Trouble is you have to swallow some at least bare minimum of belief in something. Can be very hard to fake.

I've been meaning to make a tour of all the various denominations round me. For the fun of it. There's a great many of them. I think I might start with the Spiritualists - they've only got this kind of converted garage.

We haven't got a mosque. But I think you're not allowed into those unless you're a Muslim anyway. And I don't envisage converting only to apostasize later anyway.

The very best way to make friends, I am told, is with a small dog. Out walking, I've made lots of friends with other people's small dogs, even though I don't have one of my own.

Eh, not that hard to fake. Silent prayer and a few moments of quiet meditation are impossible to distinguish and they're practically the same thing mentally anyhow. Quiet reflection on the larger picture has personal benefits anyhow if the social aspect doesn't pan out.

Best part of a congregation, if you are looking to meet people, is to dive into the volunteerism and work that most of them have readily available. Pick up a bulletin or whatever, find projects even if they sound boring, and go to them. The work is usually laudable in its own right - and even if the only people you wind up meeting regularly at potlucks, or bag drives, or whatever are little old men and ladies - those people have sons and daughters, nieces and nephews, that sort of thing. Plus you probably wind up helping somebody even if it never works out for you. It's nearly always a win/win. Except you might have to get up early a day or two a week. I suppose there is that.

 

[madviking]

Bars cost money. Parties, you have to contribute otherwise you're a freeloader.

Get a few of your friends and their friends together and start a party.

 

[Borachio]

Well, yes, of course.

But Civgeneral has yet to make the minimum number of necessary friends, one with friends, I'm guessing. Apart from me. And obviously I don't count because I've got no friends either.

Best part of a congregation, if you are looking to meet people, is to dive into the volunteerism and work that most of them have readily available. Pick up a bulletin or whatever, find projects even if they sound boring, and go to them. The work is usually laudable in its own right - and even if the only people you wind up meeting regularly at potlucks, or bag drives, or whatever are little old men and ladies - those people have sons and daughters, nieces and nephews, that sort of thing. Plus you probably wind up helping somebody even if it never works out for you. It's nearly always a win/win. Except you might have to get up early a day or two a week. I suppose there is that.

This looks like good advice to me.

On the other hand, getting involved with political parties can have the same sort of effect. But you've got to expect some kind of party membership fee, I guess.

edit: @madviking(below) I think, sadly, it's all too common for people to find they have zero friends. The trick is to turn acquaintances into friends. This can be quite hard.

 

[madviking]

I would find it hard to believe that he has zero friends. Even if you have one friend he/she can invite his/her friends and so on. People usually go to any party even if they haven't been to the place it's at as long as some of their friends are there (that's my observation).

 

[sophie]

I would find it hard to believe that he has zero friends. Even if you have one friend he/she can invite his/her friends and so on. People usually go to any party even if they haven't been to the place it's at as long as some of their friends are there (that's my observation).

I find going to parties to generally be cheaper than starting parties. Starting parties requires considerable startup costs (enough alcohol to encourage people to come in the first place, entertainment, etc.) and involves some possible risks (police shutting the thing down, giving you a ticket, retribution from the landlord) that can lead to further costs down the road. Going to a party, on the other hand, merely requires one to bring a liter of soda or a fifth/handle of alcohol. Significantly cheaper.

 

[Borachio]

And you need a larger place than one bed-sit room for any party larger than 5 or 6 people. And a sound system, and just stuff. It's a nightmare!!!!!

Though the local kids near me hang out round the adventure playground. Smoking spliffs, drinking cider and outraging the grannies with wild goings-on.

 

[madviking]

I find going to parties to generally be cheaper than starting parties. Starting parties requires considerable startup costs (enough alcohol to encourage people to come in the first place, entertainment, etc.) and involves some possible risks (police shutting the thing down, giving you a ticket, retribution from the landlord) that can lead to further costs down the road. Going to a party, on the other hand, merely requires one to bring a liter of soda or a fifth/handle of alcohol. Significantly cheaper.

I never said I'd won't prefer one over the other. But someone's gotta get St. Ron's Day up and moving.

 

[Farm Boy]

I find going to parties to generally be cheaper than starting parties. Starting parties requires considerable startup costs (enough alcohol to encourage people to come in the first place, entertainment, etc.) and involves some possible risks (police shutting the thing down, giving you a ticket, retribution from the landlord) that can lead to further costs down the road. Going to a party, on the other hand, merely requires one to bring a liter of soda or a fifth/handle of alcohol. Significantly cheaper.

You also do not necessarily need to throw a party like a frat boy. You could, you know, do it in a manner that isn't likely to invoke the wrath of local law enforcement. Heck, you could have a LARP party! If you are into that sort of thing. Or a LAN party, or a movie night. Any of these events would be conducive to drinking none at all or like its going out of style.

 

[madviking]

You also do not necessarily need to throw a party like a frat boy. You could, you know, do it in a manner that isn't likely to invoke the wrath of local law enforcement. Heck, you could have a LARP party! If you are into that sort of thing. Or a LAN party, or a movie night. Any of these events would be conducive to drinking none at all or like its going out of style.

Or you can start your own frat like what I did with Rho Omega Nu. Become your own douchebag bouncer!!

 

[Farm Boy]

Or you can start your own frat like what I did with Rho Omega Nu. Become your own douchebag bouncer!!

We did Gamma Delta Iota. Though apparently we accidentally picked the same colors as Sig Nu. They were remarkably butthurt about the shirts we had made up.

 

[sophie]

Oh hey, I guess somebody should like, start the next thread, or something.

(not warman)

 

[Borachio]

Quackers, I believe.

 

[Farm Boy]

Quackers! I choose you. I don't like making threads.

 

[ace99]

Buy a hip flask. Fill with cheap vodka/spirit of choice. Buy a coke at bar/club whatever, sneakily fill said coke with hip flask contents. Smirk.

You'll get kicked out, and probably banned if they catch you. Underage kids are the ones who tend to pull that sort of nonsense.

 

[GenMarshall]

I would find it hard to believe that he has zero friends.

You'd be suprised to see your social circle to go down in the naughts when one is shy and unemployed.

 

[strijder20]

You'd be suprised to see your social circle to go down in the naughts when one is shy and unemployed.

People tend to overestimate the amount of happiness of other people (and the amount of friends, etc.). You shouldn't worry about not having many friends. If you want one, then it's probably better to find a job (but you are very likely already looking, so easier said than done) again.

Another question: how do you react when you know someone self-mutilates? (That's what it's called, right?)

 

[Joecoolyo]

Why did you go to a Mosque?

Two field trips for religion classes.

Both times I recall them saying that anyone can drop in and they're open to the public, just like any other church and synagogue in the area.

But that just might be a North Shore thing

 

[Borachio]

Another question: how do you react when you know someone self-mutilates? (That's what it's called, right?)

With alarm. What?

I've only seen it once - and a very, very minor case at that. They generally go to great lengths to conceal it.

 

[ELITEOFWARMAN8]

Oh hey, I guess somebody should like, start the next thread, or something.

(not warman)

Why can't I do it? Don't be jealous.

 

[Quackers]

You'll get kicked out, and probably banned if they catch you. Underage kids are the ones who tend to pull that sort of nonsense.

Obviously, thats why you have to do it on the sly. Which is quite easy if your not an idiot.
..and people who don't want to spend £3 on a drink where they could get the same effect for 1/3 of it. Thats common sense.