The many questions-not-worth-their-own-thread question thread XX

[sophie]

Of course, you would know all about this!

Hey, it's not my fault you willfully cut yourself off from one of the most wonderful diverse taste-experiences in the world.

Also Bailey's is pretty great in its own right. I think that would be my first choice if I was going for an alcoholic coffee.

 

[Old Hippy]

i've been bush since late september and wish to know if the great 1 on 1 debate took place on the 2-3 october, I can not seem to find it in the threads

could someone link it for me thanks

 

[GenMarshall]

How do I make friends in RL? No seriously.

(Yeah it sucks being sort of socially inept .)

 

[mayor]

Find a hobby that forces you to make RL contact. Seriously

 

[GenMarshall]

Find a hobby that forces you to make RL contact. Seriously

I had one, but I had to quit a couple of years ago since I had to make a lot of sacrifices after I lost my job. The hobby in question was Karate, I even doubt I remember any of the move sets.

 

[Borachio]

It is hard to make friends if you have no job. (It can be hard if you do have a job)

The easiest people to make friends with are others in a similar position.

 

[hobbsyoyo]

Find a hobby that forces you to make RL contact. Seriously

I'm here in Rolla, MO. I'd chill with someone from CFC, just let me know.

 

[Synobun]

How do I make friends in RL? No seriously.

(Yeah it sucks being sort of socially inept .)

As mayor said, if you're in a place where there are people with similar interests, they're more inclined to speak to you because then they can ramble on and on about their obsessions without someone giving them a weird look.

You can get a huge friend circle if you're into cosplay and cons. There are often events at conventions where you don't need a ticket and you can put together some form of costume rather cheap. If anything, you can go as a fan and take pictures, getting contact details while you go at it. Having Facebook is a plus.

The only reason I know this is because my girlfriend is a cosplayer and has over 200 people on her Facebook that she met strictly through conventions who wanted their picture taken with her or she with them.

 

[Quackers]

Wow 200 facebook friends?

 

[Borachio]

Well, that's nice. But if you have no job, you have no, or very little, money. Certainly none that will get you places, nor buy you much of a camera. Though I suppose if you have a mobile phone these days you've got a camera.

It's not till you haven't got much money that you find out that nearly everything costs something.

Even going to a church(!) for the desperately lonely, costs money when they expect you to contribute to a collection.

I'd suggest hooking up with other jobless people.

But as for true friendship - that's rare as hen's teeth.

 

[Synobun]

Well, that's nice. But if you have no job, you have no, or very little, money. Certainly none that will get you places, nor buy you much of a camera. Though I suppose if you have a mobile phone these days you've got a camera.

It's not till you haven't got much money that you find out that nearly everything costs something.

Even going to a church(!) for the desperately lonely, costs money when they expect you to contribute.

I'd suggest hooking up with other jobless people.

I know all too well about not having money, Mr. B. Church doesn't cost money though, unless they do things reaaaally differently in America than they do here in Canada. The extent of their expectations here is that you come in every Sunday, and that's about it. There are certain church branches that want you to participate, but it's mostly volunteer work and actually aiding financially is optional.

Speaking of which - You can find a few friends through volunteer work, and this will also help your efforts in finding a job. Employers love to see volunteer experience (recent) on your resume, especially if it's relevant to what you're applying for. It gives them an easy reference and demonstrates that you have experience in the field, albeit voluntary and short.

 

[sophie]

How do I make friends in RL? No seriously.

(Yeah it sucks being sort of socially inept .)

Just get in there and talk to people. Go to bars, parties, etc. Introduce yourself to new people. Networking and making friends is all about confidence and just plain putting yourself out there. Just make sure not to talk too much yourself and stay on topic. Keep conversation light, don't stray into politics/religion/etc. Tell jokes when appropriate. You'll find the friends will follow. Surprisingly it goes mostly the same way with meeting women.

 

[Farm Boy]

The church option works better than many people give it credit for.

 

[hobbsyoyo]

The church option works better than many people give it credit for.

I agree with you Farm Boy.

 

[Borachio]

Just get in there and talk to people. Go to bars, parties, etc. Introduce yourself to new people. Networking and making friends is all about confidence and just plain putting yourself out there. Just make sure not to talk too much yourself and stay on topic. Keep conversation light, don't stray into politics/religion/etc. Tell jokes when appropriate. You'll find the friends will follow. Surprisingly it goes mostly the same way with meeting women.

Bars cost money. Parties, you have to contribute otherwise you're a freeloader.

But yeah friends and women are much the same kind of concept. Though opinions do differ.

The church option works better than many people give it credit for.

I suppose it might. Trouble is you have to swallow some at least bare minimum of belief in something. Can be very hard to fake.

I've been meaning to make a tour of all the various denominations round me. For the fun of it. There's a great many of them. I think I might start with the Spiritualists - they've only got this kind of converted garage.

We haven't got a mosque. But I think you're not allowed into those unless you're a Muslim anyway. And I don't envisage converting only to apostasize later anyway.

The very best way to make friends, I am told, is with a small dog. Out walking, I've made lots of friends with other people's small dogs, even though I don't have one of my own.

 

[sophie]

Bars cost money. Parties, you have to contribute otherwise you're a freeloader.

But yeah friends and women are much the same kind of concept. Though opinions do differ.

Meh. You can get through a night at a bar for 20-30 dollars, that's not too expensive if you're keeping it to a once a week kind of situation. Also it's significantly cheaper to get into clubs if you come a bit earlier as you can slip in before they start charging covers. Also less wait time. I don't know about what it's like for non-college going folks but generally you can skate by pitching 5-10 dollars for alcohol at a party. Or you can buy a liter of coke for like 4 bucks. Chasers/mixers always seems to be that thing everybody forgets to bring. Not only will you be considered the hero of the evening for remembering it, but it generally means you'll be covered for alcohol for the rest of the night.

Outside of bars/parties, which are probably the easiest way to make friends without having to do too much work, another good way to network is to find something you're really interested in or like doing, and find organizations/clubs devoted to doing that sort of thing. Like frisbee? Find an ultimate team or club. Like dancing? Join a swing dancing club, etc. You can fairly easily track these sorts of things via the internet. While it requires more work in terms of research (actually having to look things up online and showing up at a scheduled time, rather than just walking down to the local watering hole on a friday night), it can be easier to make friends as you already have an easy line of conversation, right there.

 

[Quackers]

Buy a hip flask. Fill with cheap vodka/spirit of choice. Buy a coke at bar/club whatever, sneakily fill said coke with hip flask contents. Smirk.

 

[sophie]

Buy a hip flask. Fill with cheap vodka/spirit of choice. Buy a coke at bar/club whatever, sneakily fill said coke with hip flask contents. Smirk.

Oh, that is a good one. It's also a great way to drink at baseball games, since ballparks find it prudent to charge upwards of 10 bucks a pint at games.

 

[Joecoolyo]

We haven't got a mosque. But I think you're not allowed into those unless you're a Muslim anyway. And I don't envisage converting only to apostasize later anyway.

Dunno where you live, but where I'm from, the two local mosques I've been to allowed anyone who wanted to come in. Only one of them made it so women had to cover their heads and everyone had to take off their shoes.

 

[Quackers]

Why did you go to a Mosque?