Whats the next step to getting a girlfriend after you have thier number?

[Xanikk999]

This is where im at with several girls.

I talked to several of them got a bunch of phone numbers but i havent called all of them yet.

But i seem to get the typical "Im to busy today i gotta blah blah blah". I didnt think college girls were this busy?

So if you do actually do something together where should you go?

Movie? Anything else?

And if she accepts how do you get to the next stage where you actually become girlfriend and boyfriend and not just friends. Do you even have to ask that question?

 

[.Shane.]

Identify if they take a check, credit card, or cash.

Seriously, don't focus on the ends so much. Just go out. If you had a good time, go out again. Keep doing this and after a while, it'll just happen. Focusing on the concept of being a "couple" will likely undo your good intentions.

 

[Stile]

For a first date I would avoid movies (too long without interaction) and dance clubs (too many other pressures/potential conflicts). Dinner is nice (maybe in Georgetown if you can afford it), followed by a walk in a park, coffee, ice cream something like that. For an afternoon, maybe a museum, or zoo (national one is free, right?), or city attraction that locals rarely visit.

 

[Eran of Arcadia]

I have no idea. The only relationship I had was when the girl was waay more into me than I to her.

And Xanik, we are kind of neighbors now, as I just moved to Arlington. Where are you?

 

[Xanikk999]

And Xanik, we are kind of neighbors now, as I just moved to Arlington. Where are you?

Never mind this post.

 

[Xanikk999]

My community college is in arlington!!

I go to NOVA. NOrthern VirginiA Community College (Bad choice of letters for acronym. )

But its also called NVCC.

 

[Eran of Arcadia]

742 Evergreen Terrace Springfield, NA

It doesnt do any harm giving out my address does it?

NOW I AM COMING FOR YOU MUWAHAHAHA!!!!!

No, I don't see how it would.

 

[GenMarshall]

I have no idea. The only relationship I had was when the girl was waay more into me than I to her.

Strange, for me. Its the other way around. I was into the girl more than she is to me.

 

[Xanikk999]

Ok lets get back on topic i dont want to get in trouble again. So does anyone else have some advice for the next step?

Heres some questions:

When are you supposed to kiss for the first time?

When are you supposed to do you know what for the first time?

 

[Xanikk999]

Strange, for me. Its the other way around. I was into the girl more than she is to me.

Thats not strange. Thats how it is for 99.9% of the cases.

Girls are such jerks. If women and men thought the same in this world, EVERYONE WOULD BE HITCHED!!

 

[warpus]

This is where im at with several girls.

I talked to several of them got a bunch of phone numbers but i havent called all of them yet.

But i seem to get the typical "Im to busy today i gotta blah blah blah". I didnt think college girls were this busy?

So if you do actually do something together where should you go?

Movie? Anything else?

And if she accepts how do you get to the next stage where you actually become girlfriend and boyfriend and not just friends. Do you even have to ask that question?

You get to the girlfriend/boyfriend stage when you're comfortable enough being physically intimate with eachother - and that takes time.

Of course some couples "decide" on "being a couple" before that, but I prefer for things to naturally progress towards the inevitable

 

[warpus]

Ok lets get back on topic i dont want to get in trouble again. So does anyone else have some advice for the next step?

Heres some questions:

When are you supposed to kiss for the first time?

When are you supposed to do you know what for the first time?

The point of dating is to try things out and see what works and what doesn't.. You're not supposed to know what to do - it's a learning experience. That's why it's wise to date often (just not often enough to be labelled a manwhore) - the more experience you get, the smoother it'll go when you finally meet the right girl (tm)

You kiss for the first time when it "feels right". It'll just happen - don't force it.

 

[Sidhe]

Ok lets get back on topic i dont want to get in trouble again. So does anyone else have some advice for the next step?

Heres some questions:

When are you supposed to kiss for the first time?

When are you supposed to do you know what for the first time?

Easy answer to that, when you and you alone feel like it, although it's wise to ask for consent in the latter case just don't ask anyone outside of the relationship if they put any pressure on you, find your own pace as hard as that is to do.

 

[Eran of Arcadia]

In my single case, we decided to be boyfriend and girlfriend after talking about it a few days after the third date (we saw each other a lot, as we had first been friends) then we kissed each other. It was the first kiss for both of us, even though I was 22 and she was 24.

 

[C~G]

Seriously, don't focus on the ends so much. Just go out. If you had a good time, go out again. Keep doing this and after a while, it'll just happen. Focusing on the concept of being a "couple" will likely undo your good intentions.

Well that depends.

When you are young enough and new to dating scene problem isn't finding partner in time that suits yourself but yourself in time that suits partner.

If you want just girlfriend to hang out that is fine but if you want really get involved with someone in long-time frame then you have to take it slowly.

Some people nowadays try out everything that comes across but I would suggest really looking around. With the right girl you don't have to think out so much where you are going to go because she wants to go there anyway as long it is with you.

One tip is to be sensitively interested what girls do and what they think when you talk with them. They want to get noticed as long as you don't overdo it by stalking or anything and at the same time keep the goal in mind so you progress all the time without hesitation. Otherwise you will be ruled into the friend zone possibly forever.

But in the end it's really about what kind of relationship you are after and what kind of girl you're dating. Get to know them and then you know what to do. For some it might look like rocket science when it really isn't so.

You are possibly so young that you shouldn't too much think about the result rather go step-by-step. Remember that girls play all kinds of games and they don't really know what to do either, they just wait that you know. As long as you keep moving into direction they're going too, about everything should go right. There's hardly anything to lose really, except possibly reputation which you get back anyway someday, so don't worry.

For the first kiss, prefer romantic situation. It can be almost anyplace or anytime really, just like warpus said it will come naturally after all.

Lots of dating doesn't mean you necessarily learn anything from it.
It can be waste of time also while you could really be with someone special.
Not that I would know anything about it. But let's say I have learned my lesson.

 

[Sidhe]

If dating is like rocket science then your doing it wrong, the moment it becomes a logical progression following tried and tested principles your doomed

Closest description would be an art, but you'd assume then with experience you'd become a better artist, not always so, it's kind of like philosophy you know, your questions never really get answered but you find your own way of looking at the issue. Ah I've lost the plot, what do I know anyway.

 

[C~G]

Closest description would be an art, but you'd assume then with experience you'd become a better artist, not always so,

I can agree with that description too.

 

[nonconformist]

Am I the only one giggling to myself over an innuendo of "I'm much more into the girl"?

 

[bathsheba666]

innuendo

Chuckle, chuckle

 

[IglooDame]

address removed

It doesnt do any harm giving out my address does it?

Yes, it does. Don't ever do it again.

And no, I'm not kidding.