Whats the next step to getting a girlfriend after you have thier number?

[Lozzy_Ozzy]

I already said thats not my real adress!

Thats the simpsons adress from the animated series the simpsons.

Oh sorry, man!

I just saw the address (didn't actually read it).

Skipped to the end of page one .

You get the picture!

But yes... as others say, don't plan too much or think in terms of do this and do that... just let it all come naturally.

 

[blackheart]

I dont know why most of those were B's and none A's ...

All of the schools on that page are rated by current students or alumni, so I don't know why. Just thought I would throw that out there as a resource.

 

[colontos]

This is where im at with several girls.

I talked to several of them got a bunch of phone numbers but i havent called all of them yet.

But i seem to get the typical "Im to busy today i gotta blah blah blah". I didnt think college girls were this busy?

So if you do actually do something together where should you go?

Movie? Anything else?

And if she accepts how do you get to the next stage where you actually become girlfriend and boyfriend and not just friends. Do you even have to ask that question?

BUY HER A DOG THEN EAT CAKE WITH HER AND HER BROTHER AND YOU WILL BE SET

 

[CaptainF]

My advice:

Take a deep breath. Utilize the air you have just inhaled to inflate your ego to alpha-male status. Then proceed to woo your woman.

 

[downtown]

Okay, a few thoughts on this, if I may. Take it or leave it.

First, chill out. I take it you havent dated too much. There really arent a whole lot of "rules"...a lot of it you're going to have to ad lib, and play by ear. Eventually, you'll do something stupid. Thats the point. So will she.

Your first step, is to actually call that number, and set up a date. If you dont know the person really well, I've found that group dates are pretty good icebreakers. Just make sure the othet guy isnt better looking than you

There are all sorts of nice places to go on dates where you live. I'd take my girlfriend to the reflecting pool sometimes in the mall (or the waterfront), Dupont Circle, Adam's Morgan (live music!), the national Mall, etc. Pick up a copy of that free city newspaper (I forget what its called), find something in there that you might like, and go. Maybe hit a COSI or a Coldstones or something for a snack. Avoid movies on the first date, since they dont offer time to converse.

Then just go with it. A light kiss goodnight is usually safe, even on first dates I think, but you have to use your own instincts, because every girl, and every situation, is different.

Whats most important though, is your attitude. The most important thing is not getting sex, or to first base, or what have you...its the girl. Be nice to her, for heavens sake, listen to what she's saying, etc. Let a relationship grow first, and the physical parts will happen on their own, trust me.

 

[MrCynical]

I just realised what 742 Evergreen Terrace Springfield was as an address!

Speaking of which, my girl (notice the space) friends used to give out fake numbers when approached at the bar

True, but at the time I posted this that wasn't the address in the post.

 

[Eran of Arcadia]

True, but at the time I posted this that wasn't the address in the post.

Yes yes, you are all correct. The full story: Xaniikk posted his address, I quoted him, someone told him it was a bad idea, he completely rewrote his post, someone said that his address was still in my quote, I edited it to a different address. Which I notice you all recognize.

 

[ComradeDavo]

Heres my advice - there is no 1 way to go about it. Girls are all individuals and must be treated thus. Trying to get a system for dating girls is just gonna end up in failure.

 

[Zardnaar]

Heres a hint. All women are inherently insane. its something you'll have to figure out for yourself.

 

[Shaihulud]

Call all the girls up, yes all of them, you may be surprised at how unsucessful you may be and learn to accept rejection. Date all of them, casually if you like. Girls know what they are getting into when they date, she will be your girlfriend...if she likes you, your decision only goes as far as calling her. Getting a girl to like you is another matter of course , but in my experience the hardest part is calling them up. Girls do like sex, so if the girl is willing on the first few date, you will be a fool not to oblige her, but don't play the field, it will destroy you.

 

[JerichoHill]

Xanikk, you're trying to hard.

First Date = Coffee. Keep it chill. Light and Funny. You shouldn't even care if you see her again. She needs to sell herself to you. Let her chase. You'll never get a high quality woman by chasing women.

Secondly, remove women from the pedestal youve put them on. They're no better or worse than us men.

Thirdly, the only type of woman you want to be involved with long-term is one that is a) flexible and b) a giver. Let me tell you what I mean by this. A few weeks ago I was at a friend's party, enjoying several games of botchi ball while my girlfriend chats with the other girlfriends. I see her the next weekend and she's bought a botchi ball set for her place because she saw I enjoyed it so much.

Fourthly, read Doc Love on AskMen.com

Fifthly, date alot of women. Don't settle down artificially. You'll gradually get into a monogamous relationship, but it will be on your terms.

Finally, act like a man, always, and make no apologies for it. Women do not fall madly in love for "nice guys"

EDIT: Never bring up sex in a conversation. Don't beg for it. They'll give you a signal when their answer will be yes. Its up for you to be a man then

EDIT2: For phone calls, keep it under 5 minutes. The philosophy is a) youre a busy man b) you have a plan c) shes coming. I remember one girl I went out with was all incredulous when I called her up and said "Hi. We're doing this tonight at this time. Wear this. Gotta go, work stuff. She was yelling "what makes you think ..." you know. Sure enough, she was ready at the time I said, in a nice dress, and that was a hell of a night.

 

[CaptainF]

Xanikk, you're trying to hard.

First Date = Coffee. Keep it chill. Light and Funny. You shouldn't even care if you see her again. She needs to sell herself to you. Let her chase. You'll never get a high quality woman by chasing women.

Secondly, remove women from the pedestal youve put them on. They're no better or worse than us men.

Thirdly, the only type of woman you want to be involved with long-term is one that is a) flexible and b) a giver. Let me tell you what I mean by this. A few weeks ago I was at a friend's party, enjoying several games of botchi ball while my girlfriend chats with the other girlfriends. I see her the next weekend and she's bought a botchi ball set for her place because she saw I enjoyed it so much.

Fourthly, read Doc Love on AskMen.com

Fifthly, date alot of women. Don't settle down artificially. You'll gradually get into a monogamous relationship, but it will be on your terms.

Finally, act like a man, always, and make no apologies for it. Women do not fall madly in love for "nice guys"

EDIT: Never bring up sex in a conversation. Don't beg for it. They'll give you a signal when their answer will be yes. Its up for you to be a man then

EDIT2: For phone calls, keep it under 5 minutes. The philosophy is a) youre a busy man b) you have a plan c) shes coming. I remember one girl I went out with was all incredulous when I called her up and said "Hi. We're doing this tonight at this time. Wear this. Gotta go, work stuff. She was yelling "what makes you think ..." you know. Sure enough, she was ready at the time I said, in a nice dress, and that was a hell of a night.

Best post thus far.

 

[Xanikk999]

Update. It seems that they dont answer the phone that often and none of my calls were returned.

I can see what this means. Why did they even bother giving me thier phone number then!

 

[nonconformist]

Update. It seems that they dont answer the phone that often and none of my calls were returned.

I can see what this means. Why did they even bother giving me thier phone number then!

How frequently were you calling them?
Seeming desperate is a turn off, so I hear.

 

[Xanikk999]

How frequently were you calling them?
Seeming desperate is a turn off, so I hear.

Like once a day. But if they didnt like me they shouldnt of given me their phone numbers...

 

[Red Door]

I have no idea. The only relationship I had was when the girl was waay more into me than I to her.

And Xanik, we are kind of neighbors now, as I just moved to Arlington. Where are you?

Yeah, another Arlingtonian.

 

[Eran of Arcadia]

Yeah, another Arlingtonian.

Sweet. I live in the little piece right next to Alexandria, just south of the 395. (I think that is non-specific enough.)

 

[ComradeDavo]

Xanick - it's probably best to try and chat them up and get tham to go on a date with you in person rather than phone.

 

[Paalikles]

Xanikk, you're trying to hard.

First Date = Coffee. Keep it chill. Light and Funny. You shouldn't even care if you see her again. She needs to sell herself to you. Let her chase. You'll never get a high quality woman by chasing women.

Secondly, remove women from the pedestal youve put them on. They're no better or worse than us men.

Thirdly, the only type of woman you want to be involved with long-term is one that is a) flexible and b) a giver. Let me tell you what I mean by this. A few weeks ago I was at a friend's party, enjoying several games of botchi ball while my girlfriend chats with the other girlfriends. I see her the next weekend and she's bought a botchi ball set for her place because she saw I enjoyed it so much.

Fourthly, read Doc Love on AskMen.com

Fifthly, date alot of women. Don't settle down artificially. You'll gradually get into a monogamous relationship, but it will be on your terms.

Finally, act like a man, always, and make no apologies for it. Women do not fall madly in love for "nice guys"

EDIT: Never bring up sex in a conversation. Don't beg for it. They'll give you a signal when their answer will be yes. Its up for you to be a man then

EDIT2: For phone calls, keep it under 5 minutes. The philosophy is a) youre a busy man b) you have a plan c) shes coming. I remember one girl I went out with was all incredulous when I called her up and said "Hi. We're doing this tonight at this time. Wear this. Gotta go, work stuff. She was yelling "what makes you think ..." you know. Sure enough, she was ready at the time I said, in a nice dress, and that was a hell of a night.

Straight to the point and telling it like it is.

I agree that this is one of the best advice so far. Perhaps the best.

 

[Red Door]

Sweet. I live in the little piece right next to Alexandria, just south of the 395. (I think that is non-specific enough.)

Oh, wow! Other side of town. I live in the North near Falls Church and Harris Teeter.