Symphony D.
Deity
One: no NES exists without players. Both halves are equally important. To say otherwise is frankly a crock. The Moderator does do quite a lot of work, yes, more than the players, even summed. But he chose to do that work to have fun and to let Players have fun.Now, yes, a player does quite a bit of work themselves, but if it weren't for a moderator, there would be no NES.
Two: no one was ever forced into moderating. Players are not borrowing time of a Moderator's--the Moderator has elected to give them that time. You aren't required to Moderate. If you do, you have very few obligations beyond doing so--only one, in fact.They are essentially borrowing time out of the moderator's life, and that is not something to be underestimated.
Then I really must call into question why you do it if you hate it so much and find it so futile, considering it's mostly supposed to be about having fun.So in essence, I'm just giving up my free time for quite a few people I don't even know, and in doing so, get yelled at if it doesn't go perfectly.
Players and Moderators have an innate contract between them. It is an agreement. It isn't spoken, written, or recorded anywhere. It is an implicit arrangement wherein the Moderator agrees to provide a setting, maintain it, and compile and execute orders to provide updates. The Players reciprocate by providing those orders and otherwise being engaged in making sure that such things continue to occur.
Both sides can default on that contract. Players by not sending orders, Moderators by not doing the task they have taken on for themselves. As a Moderator, as I see it, you have two choices: you can continue to uphold your end of the contract as long as you can or see fit to do so, or you may terminate it. If you choose to do so, you should have the decency to inform the people you are defaulting on. It is generally acknowledged most players inform the Moderator that they are quitting a given position, unless they just up and disappear. Some don't. They are considered discourteous. Moderators should reciprocate with the same courtesy.
They might be disappointed. Well, life is full of disappointments. You don't want them hounding you? Make it abundantly clear you are not interested in renewing the NES and will not be dissuaded. They continue regardless? Ignore them. Block their accounts. They're not your "friends" anyway, so what does it matter?
And what if you don't say anything at all? Then they're going to hound you anyway. Look at any given NES where the Moderator decided to let it die quietly. People don't give up unless the facts are thrust into their faces. You're not saving yourself any grief by thinking people will just let it quietly slip into the icy waters of forgetfulness, because they won't. And so a Moderator may as well have the decency and the backbone to say that the game is dead, because they'll take the same flak regardless, and probably much more if they decides to drag it out with uncertainty.
The Moderator started it of their own volition, and they may end it of their own volition. Anybody else's opinion doesn't mean a damn thing on the matter, so long as the Moderator has the ability to recognize his or her responsibility to inform them what's going on. That is a mark of maturity--making decisions and standing by them. If the players are mature, they will likewise acknowledge that choice even if they don't like it, and if they do not then they are immature and may be safely ignored.
There is no excuse for this behavior.