That sounds an awful lot like what you're arguing - if there's a difference, could you clearly state it for me?
I'll try. Maybe re-read my previous descriptions after reading this.
Your family never took anything from black people. You've always treated them with Christian honesty, never differently than anyone else.
When your parents (as teens) went looking for jobs, they got better jobs than black people (with the same resumes) could have gotten. You've directly benefited, and you're in a much better position than the black child will be.
Now, if you go back (or forward) a few generations, the cycles become important. When you're looking for a job, you have an advantage over a black guy who had all the advantages you did. But here's the rub, for him to have the
same advantages you do, his parents would have had to be harder working than your parents were.
Then correct those specific wrongs - go after companies that hire less qualified whites over more qualified blacks. But creating a whole system based on giving blacks stuff because they're black is no better. It's just as bad.
Neither system will work completely. We've already got anti-discrimination laws. We've already got AA. There are many solutions, but (in the end) one solution won't be a catch-all. It's not like AA is going to go away soon, so it's nonsensical to use it to propagate further racism.
I am not racist, nor are my parents, not are most of the people around me. If you want to call yourself and your friends and your family racist, then that's your affair - but it's insulting for you to me and mine in such a presumptive way.
I don't know why you two are having such a problem with this.
Can you accept that we treat attractive people differently than ugly people?
Can you accept that we treat women differently from men?
Can you accept that we treat a person differently, based on first impressions? Or on the clothes they're wearing?
Now, sometimes we don't. Sometimes we catch ourselves doing it, and correct it. But sometimes we do.
Why's it so hard to accept that we implicitly treat people differently based on race?
If they don't show up for the interview, then why do they deserve the job?

I don't expect to get a job if I won't show up for an interview, why should anyone else? If I were an employer, I wouldn't hire someone too lazy to come to an interview. I wouldn't care if they were white or black; if you don't show up, you don't get a job.

I was responding to the idea of having a government agency send out false resumes. There's a long tradition of weeding out people at the interview, if one is bigoted.
But there are poor white people now! I see them every day - poor white folks who have no money and no resources, and your programs don't help them because they have the wrong color skin.
Here's the difference between us: I want to help the poor, those who don't have much. You just want to help poor blacks. I don't think your system is particularly effective even at that, but even if it were, it'd still be unjust because it only focuses on some of the disadvantaged.
You're envisioning a strawman of my position.
Of course AA doesn't help poor white people. That's not what it's designed to do. My buying fair trade organic coffee doesn't help poor white people either, but it's not designed to. My opposition to bombing Iran certainly doesn't help poor white people either.
I support all types of systems to reduce, minimize, and eliminate poverty. I'm all over the place. But different problems require different (and multiple) solutions. There's an historical (and ongoing) problem with endemic racial poverty & racism, and part of the solution is to get more black kids raised in middle income homes and get them employed in middle income jobs.
Heck, it's only a couple generations. We have other issues which won't go away for hundreds of years (ecological overconsumption, for example)