Sounds strange to me. As far as I can see, either you know you are heterosexual or homosexual, or you are somewhere in between on the scale. Actually, I suppose if you are bisexual it might be more difficult to know and understand ones own feelings.
You mean to tell me you've never known or heard of a person realizing they were gay?
And transsexualism sounds weird to me, but that's how some folks are.
If I was that husband I would take it extremely serious. I don't care much for marriage as such, and the rights and limitations of marriage, but I do consider a promise to be a promise. Divorcing like that is simply dishonest and immoral.
Well of course if you're her husband you do. Point is most people consider that affair to be very different from if she ran off with another man.
How a lifelong lesbian can leave a man is a bit of a conundrum, but a woman who has sex and relationships with men and consider herself a lesbian needs a dictionary.
Two things. First, the "leaving men for women" comes after the business with the men, which I thought I implied came after business with women. Second, I'm not so keen on women that have
relationships with men calling themselves lesbians, but lesbians having sex with men is not very weird.
Hold on! When did lifelong monogamy become a 'weird hangup'???
And for the record: I consider no-fault divorce to be immoral, as it is dishonest to the person one married.
I'm pretty stern on divorce too.
Which probably sounds like it contradicts my stance on lifelong monogamy, but I don't think it does. What proportion of people that live more than a decade or two have only one partner throughout their entire lives? I don't know the number but it's a safe bet that it's even lower than the proportion of people that die married to their first spouse. And both are very, very rare. Most people aren't living up to that "ideal" of lifelong monogamy, I don't see why they should, and I don't think we should expect it.
I think, and I'm ripping this off wholesale but it's damned accurate, that if you
do intend to make a marriage work, and to spend the rest of your life sleeping with one person, and in love with one person, you
need to accept and even embrace the fact that you're not biologically wired for that, and that being sexually attracted to the milkman is not some sort of failure. Your spouse being sexually attracted to the milkman is not some sort of failure. You're going to want to sleep with other people and you're going to have to live with that. It's stupid to get married because you think you're never going to be interested in any other people ever again.
Should we strive for it? Sure, why not. I think I will some day. I don't begrudge anyone who won't. Is it going to be a fairy tale? Hell no. Is it anybody outside the marriage's place to judge? Also no.
Kinda morphed into a rant there again I guess.
Not sure how bisexuality can be seen as indecisive, unless one goes around proclaiming that one is constantly oscillating between heterosexuality and homosexuality, and has no interest in the other sex.
It's often dismissed as fence-sitting the same way agnosticism is. Folks allege you have to make a decision but don't accept the decisions of "both" or "neither". (Incidentally, my decisions, respectively.)
Not sure what you wrote here. You're saying that homosexual or bisexual men may live their lives as heterosexuals, but if they ever "comes out of the closet" so to say, that do not try to hide it again?
No, that's not what I said, but I think what you said is probably true too.
Most men are heterosexual. Some men realize at some point in their lives that they're sexually attracted to men to some degree. That's not unusual.
Very few homosexual men - including men who lived as though they were heterosexual for a portion of their lives - discover a previously absent sexual attraction to women.
That's in contrast to some women that identify as lesbians and later choose to sleep with men.
Is that relevant?
But don't know how representative that is. It were appreciated if the oral-haters stepped up and explained their own view.
I'm not a hater, but not a cheerleader either.
I sometimes find it awkward to be the receptive participant. I've got some friends that feel the same way. It's the disjointed reciprocity. Sure, it'll be your turn before after or in between, but I don't want to take my turn without you. Sometimes it works, but not always.
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