I was simplifying it.
A big heavy circle creates a valley around itself of the "fourth dimension" which influences the direction of that particular item from which ever it may have had into one around the heavy object. Aka gravity.
This includes light.
Light is bent around a heavy object. Thusly my thought experiment about light going around it and you going through it.
(All this according to this lame theory).
Refraction and gravity are two entirely unrelated concepts. No-one is claiming that mirages or light bending in a lens are caused by gravity.