Back in the 80s, front wheel drive cars were not common in the US market, and automakers wanted to talk people into buying them. So they very aggressively advertised the 'poor weather traction advantage' of front drive cars until people actually believed in it. When the reality was that they wanted to sell front drive cars because fwd is smaller and lighter than rwd, which allows a more efficient car with more room in the passenger compartment. In the 90s the automakers built the SUV craze off the fact that Americans like big cars, and pushed it hard hard hard, and people started to actually believe that they "needed" an SUV. I was in the car business, and it was surreal to have men who learned to drive in the winter as I did, suddenly claiming that they could not possibly get around in the winter without first a front drive car, and then later a 4WD SUV. And in the meantime, on snow days I got to work on time in my rear drive car, and my coworkers with front drive and 4WD were late.
I agree with you in general. I can handle a RWD car in winter weather as well. But, I do appreciate what I call the "increased margin of error" in a FWD or 4WD vehicle. Obviously differences in braking is dependent on the wheels since all cars have four-wheel brakes (though antilock brakes have improved things there too), but you can't deny that FWD and 4WD are easier to keep moving under control in nasty conditions - I've personally experienced this with my annual parking-lot slide-testing every late autumn with various cars through the years.