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Mathilda said:
No, I don't. I use a far more direct approach :)

I wish more girls were like you. It would make it a lot easier for the guy.
 
I've spoken to a woman who said she likes tall guys but not too tall.

re: Why the height thing - it might be because of penis length (is there a correlation?) but I'm not sure - it could also be because 1) I think women like to feel feminine and so being shorter and more beautiful makes them feel more feminine; 2) I think women like to feel physically safe so a man being tall makes them feel that he can defend her.
 
Welcome to CFC, jamielor, and thanks for your patience.

If there are girls on the internet, they usually do not want to reveal themselves, because they get barraged with questions/comments like:
"a/s/l?", "are you hawt?", "pics plz", "you must be fat/ugly if you're on the web" (even if they are just kidding)
and are suddenly treated less than human by the group.
Why take that crap? It is much easier to pretend not to be female.
If jamielor were a true new-comer with no ties to CFC, I am pretty sure the first few posts would have scared her off, and with good reason.

Also, attributing any aggressive move by a female to PMS is the equivalent of attributing any aggressive move by a male to 'compensating for something'.

Sorry to be ranty, and no offense to the users who I am sure were kidding when they posted what they posted. That was actually not such a bad welcoming compared to some other places on the internet I could name.

My question: How did Narz convince you post? As a girl, was there anything in particular about CFC that gave you incentive to join?
 
stormbind said:
Ok, I have a question...

I know this girl who is harassing me; reporting my position on her mobile, speculating about my actions, telling everyone that I have feelings for her, and so forth.

She and I fell out last year when I chose to say goodbye at an awkward time: she screamed at me and couldn't control herself - I'm genuinely sorry. We never recovered from that and she dismisses the event by reflecting "it's awkward how emotional you got" (erm..? but... whatever..)

I have avoided and ignored her for five months. I even tried swapping to a rival college in the university, but she never stopped with the nonsense.

My grades were badly affected last year. They dropped from 100% to 40%, not because they needed any effort, but because I was simply unable to think of anything except the pains of loss and of being harassed. I handed in end of year assignments that were hastilly written on the day, and off the top of my head!

Obviously, I need to solve this now at the start of term. Nobody is willing to mediate. She will not talk to me. Student councelor says to step back and ignore her, but I have been doing that all summer and it does not help!

I cannot avoid the campus or education. I'm genuinely stressed out and scared of the future because it hurts when she makes a commotion about me being in a certain corridore, room, or building (she was my favourite friend - sniffle).

Suggestions?

Show her an empty wallet and act very nice to her, they run away.

Works for me, unfortunatly.
 
stormbind said:
Ok, I have a question...

I know this girl who is harassing me; reporting my position on her mobile, speculating about my actions, telling everyone that I have feelings for her, and so forth.

She and I fell out last year when I chose to say goodbye at an awkward time: she screamed at me and couldn't control herself - I'm genuinely sorry. We never recovered from that and she dismisses the event by reflecting "it's awkward how emotional you got" (erm..? but... whatever..)

I have avoided and ignored her for five months. I even tried swapping to a rival college in the university, but she never stopped with the nonsense.

My grades were badly affected last year. They dropped from 100% to 40%, not because they needed any effort, but because I was simply unable to think of anything except the pains of loss and of being harassed. I handed in end of year assignments that were hastilly written on the day, and off the top of my head!

Obviously, I need to solve this now at the start of term. Nobody is willing to mediate. She will not talk to me. Student councelor says to step back and ignore her, but I have been doing that all summer and it does not help!

I cannot avoid the campus or education. I'm genuinely stressed out and scared of the future because it hurts when she makes a commotion about me being in a certain corridore, room, or building (she was my favourite friend - sniffle).

Suggestions?

No friend helps you on this?

If I was your friend I would made her life an hell.

Im usually a peaceful guy, but I just hate this type of injustices.

My suggestion is that one, join your friends and ask them if they are willing to help you on this, being smart of course.
 
How do I get my girl to go on camera?
 
Stormbind:
You are on extremely dangerous ground. Get the restraining order. Not because she will hurt you physically, but because she will accuse you of something horrible, and they will believe her, which is much worse. Such a thing will could stay with you your whole life.

If something happens, it will look much better for you if your the one who took the step to say "I don't want anything to do with you"

If nothing happens, you will at least be able to focus on your studies better.

Do not try to form an understanding with her. Cut off all contact and find other people. There are plenty of nicer people out there.

This sounds harsh, but it is seriously my advice, from experience.
 
With so many of these 'ask a' threads I thought it was high time I helped out all of you with internet addictions. Clearly there is little female input on the site, or indeed in your lives, :p so ask me! Ask me anything you like. General information, advice on girls - you name it i'll try and answer.
Just call me agony aunt....
 
My girls become an internet geek.. what should i do?
 
why do you think there are so few girls on CFC?
because not that many girls play games, particularly games like this one. Those that do play the games often tire of it quickly and will never make it to the internet site. Those that do make it to the internet site generally come on for information about the game and would never make it as far as offtopic. simple math really - very small probability of finding this down that route, only men and a small number of woman have that kind of dedication to the cause!

My girls become an internet geek.. what should i do?
stop internet geeking and take her to dinner and then early to bed. she'll soon forget all about the internet!

Does it bother you that Louis posted so much detail about your private lives, before you joined?
yes, it freaked me out when I first found out because I had no idea it was happening. Plus even now I don't really know the extent of sharing because its hard to backtrack on posts when he's posted so many in the 4 months or so we've known each other. care to fill me in?
 
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