Ask a Girl

[Ziggy Stardust]

I think you misunderstood what I meant by that quote. In order to get good judgement, you need experience. Experience comes from bad judgement. In other words, by doing you get better at something. So by trying to open up to girls, while you may be shy and tense at first, with experience it gets better.

Allright then. I have used my shyness to apply to girl's cute-sensors with succes (and failure of course, but that's where your judgement quote applies ).

So instead of trying to get rid of this shyness, my advice would be use it. If someone finds himself to be shy do not try to change it. It apparently is a part of yourself. being shy only becomes a problem when you think it is. It is then that you start mumbling, or even worse, trying to hide it (which never works).

There are plenty of girls who are only interested in the 'confident guy', but I found these not to be the girls I was attracted to.

 

[King Flevance]

Actually Mise, I recommend becoming their friend after asking them out a few times. Becoming a friend first seems smart but I have never seen it actually work in person. It either fails real fast or never happens at all.

I am only five-niner.

 

[Turner]

@Ziggy - You use what you got, and when it works for you, great! Unfortunately, the girls I knew equated shy with pathetic.

@King Flevance - I feel your pain. I'm 5'15" myself. It's a tough cross to bear.

 

[Ziggy Stardust]

Or become a friend of her friend. If you appear to listen to all the emocrap the friend spouts (doesn't take much, just "uh huh" and "Oh really? Tell me more" at the right time will do), she'll tell her: 'This guy is great, he really does listen, he's like a brother to me". There's even a distinct chance that she'll will try to get you guys together. You'd have to be a complete bastard though for this to work, but it does work. [/experience]

@Turner, it's those girls which make me suggest the above. They deserve it

 

[King Flevance]

6'3"?

Woogy boogy to the moon with a steel guitar. Jelly beans are sugary tar. Is this hard to read? Well, woogy boogy. Ha, Ha I made you read the whole thing.

 

[Brighteye]

What women are attracted to and what I want to be are two very different things. Don't bother asking girls what they want (they won't tell you the truth anyway).
Decide for yourself who you are, and if girls don't like it, they know where they can stick it.

 

[Winston Khan]

Welcome Jamie. Back to some questions? (Some designed to be slightly cynical, but still looking for the answers.)

Why are women so damn attractive? (Excluding the wart infested mingers!)

Where do all the loose women hang out?

Cricual Question - What do you talk about for 10 minutes in the Bathroom with your mates?

 

[Rambuchan]

Cricual Question - What do you talk about for 10 minutes in the Bathroom with your mates?

Good one.

Following on from that: Why do you have to come back and tell us what the bathrooms are like?

 

[stormbind]

Ok, I have a question...

I know this girl who is harassing me; reporting my position on her mobile, speculating about my actions, telling everyone that I have feelings for her, and so forth.

She and I fell out last year when I chose to say goodbye at an awkward time: she screamed at me and couldn't control herself - I'm genuinely sorry. We never recovered from that and she dismisses the event by reflecting "it's awkward how emotional you got" (erm..? but... whatever..)

I have avoided and ignored her for five months. I even tried swapping to a rival college in the university, but she never stopped with the nonsense.

My grades were badly affected last year. They dropped from 100% to 40%, not because they needed any effort, but because I was simply unable to think of anything except the pains of loss and of being harassed. I handed in end of year assignments that were hastilly written on the day, and off the top of my head!

Obviously, I need to solve this now at the start of term. Nobody is willing to mediate. She will not talk to me. Student councelor says to step back and ignore her, but I have been doing that all summer and it does not help!

I cannot avoid the campus or education. I'm genuinely stressed out and scared of the future because it hurts when she makes a commotion about me being in a certain corridore, room, or building (she was my favourite friend - sniffle).

Suggestions?

 

[Rambuchan]

Report her to the police and get a restraining order slapped on her ass! (She's basically stalking you right?)

 

[Winston Khan]

Suggestions?

Storm, you should check out the 'Rules of Being a Man' thread

As a bloke I suggest... Find yourself another girlfriend, or two! Then you'll see her either back off totally or come running to you. Whichever case occurs; you then have the choice of your appropriate path. You have the power to move on from this feline, its up to you.

 

[stormbind]

I don't think it is stalking because she doesn't seem to follow me, although she might be doing so in a lesser manner (as in, mapping out my movements when she sees me).

What she does is make a commotion when she sees me on campus. She whips out the phone, tries reading my mind and accuses me of commiting violations.

 

[King Flevance]

Psycho females. What would happen if you went to her front door and knocked on it? Not answer? She got caller I.D.? Is there a good time to catch her out somewhere?

I wanna hear what happened.

 

[stormbind]

Actually, I would describe her as neurotic, hysterical, and only perhaps psychotic. I'm blocked on MSN, email, phone etc. Confronting her in public is dangerous because she screams louder than a police siren. It's like a trap - best not walk into it, imho.

But I need to end this now because it really distracts me, prevents me preparing for seminars etc. Last night I kept waking up with stabbing pains in my chest because I was genuinely frightened of what she will accuse me of doing this year!!!

 

[Winston Khan]

Actually, I would describe her as neurotic, hysterical, and only perhaps psychotic. I'm blocked on MSN, email, phone etc. Confronting her in public is dangerous because she screams louder than a police siren. It's like a trap - best not walk into it, imho.

But I need to end this now because it really distracts me, prevents me preparing for seminars etc. Last night I kept waking up with stabbing pains in my chest because I was genuinely frightened of what she will accuse me of doing this year!!!

From your description it sounds like you are the neurotic one; an unhealthy obession on your behalf, perhaps. Do something about it man, grow yourself a spine and move on. Forget her, find another girl to ply your trade with.

 

[King Flevance]

Yeah you may as well go with the restraining order. Then just relax. If at anytime she violates the order press full charges.

 

[silver 2039]

Silver, I would go out dancing with men in drag, but wouldn't sleep with one
or want one as my boyfriend

Why is the it the leg hair? It must be the leg hair...I'll make sure to shave my leg hair when I try to pick up a girl...

 

[AL_DA_GREAT]

1) does 184 count as tall
2) Why is it hard to describe a hot guy using straight forward sentences.
3) Why are girls paranoid with their wieght?
4) Why are teen age girls wierd?
5) why are there hardly any female civvers?
6) what sentence(s)should be used aproaching like girls
7) Should you talk to chicks the same way you talk to guys. Honestly I have never talked to a girl that I am not related to out side of school for more than 3 minutes in my entire life.

 

[silver 2039]

yoonnk01 says:
what;s stupid rules?

silver 2039 says:
No laptops in class, and no hugging or kissing allowed

silver 2039 says:
Things like that

yoonnk01 says:
but lol

yoonnk01 says:
you know that

yoonnk01 says:
you don't have to care that thing

yoonnk01 says:
what is not allowed kiss or hug

yoonnk01 says:
cuz you don't have girl friend never ever haha

yoonnk01 says:
never...

yoonnk01 says:
did you see mirror?

When a girl says this does that mean she likes me? Or does she hate me? If she does hate me why is she talking to me for ages? What a paradox....

 

[classical_hero]

What attracted you to Narz?