Do you dislike work-related 'social-relations'/networking?

[Kyriakos]

I do.

I don't like anything fake.

Human relations already can be very difficult and potentially depressing, and when the issue is work (ie money most of the time), it can rapidly get far worse than just depressing.

One would think that given humans are here for a few decades only, they would not be so willing to contort to even less of a human state by being out to gain more money, or battle others for whatever thing it is they feel cheated-out of.

Maybe indeed some of us are Alien

 

[Farm Boy]

I loathe facebook, so I think I can probably toss linkedin in with that, right?

 

[downtown]

I actually like it, but it isn't fake to me. People are my business.

 

[Perfection]

Only if I haven't had enough coffee. I tell them, I'm crabby, let me have more coffee so I'm less of a douche.

 

[warpus]

I despise chit chat and pointless banter, being a very practical person (and a programmer). Where I work that's essentially what networking is - making friends and expanding your network of contacts, by chatting about pointless nonsense.

Mind you I've opened up to chit chat and can engage in it like a semi-pro. So if I'm walking to get lunch and I see someone from another department who I know, I will engage in the appropriate level of chit chat, for networking purposes. I don't have to like it - it's work. And some people I actually know well enough to engage in actual conversation. Both types of human contact are sort of needed around here.. Otherwise you're going to end up as a pariah.

 

[Kennigit]

I dislike it and am bad at it.

I also am very poor at real time in-person communication. I can do alright in electronic communication when I have time to think

I have never networked

 

[warpus]

Wing it and learn from the failures, until you can do it without a bother.

 

[Kyriakos]

I am ok with non-money related interaction (also cause that is more inherently voluntary), but i dislike work-for-money discussions, cause they always seem fake. Also if the other person there happens to be sort of 'particular', i would rather avoid it alltogether..

 

[BenitoChavez]

I don't mind talking to my colleagues about non-work topics if it comes up naturally. But I don't go out of my way to do it purely for the benefit of my career. Putting on the pretense of being interested in the person but really having an ulterior motive strikes me as fake and something I try to avoid.

 

[JollyRoger]

Work for money discussions are as real as it gets given the importance of both the work getting done and the worker getting paid.

 

[Perfection]

But it has nothing to do with existential horror

 

[JollyRoger]

Until you read what you paid for.

 

[really]

Meh - I don't mind it.

I am better at it than my peers - I don't mind walking up to a stranger and saying hello.

 

[The_J]

Oh, I don't mind it .
Just been this week at a conference, and in the coffee breaks and after the last presentations there was always a "networking session", and it's actually quite nice to talk with people who are working in the same field (only a bit dangerous if it's exactly the same), and maybe you get some nice and interesting contacts for later.
I also still need to write some emails next week just to make again the contact with some of these people.

And for sure all nicer if the other person is a beautiful lady .

 

[bhavv]

I despise the idea of linking employment together with social media, unless its a job where you give customer support via social media.

I also despise being 'sociable' while working, a lot of things that are going to plague me again when I return to working.

 

[BvBPL]

I hate how I can never tell if I should tip the bartenders at the open bars the bar associations have. That and the canapes served are so good that I either feel like I didn't get enough or that I was a huge pig for camping out for them.

Oh my God, it is just the worst.

 

[warpus]

And for sure all nicer if the other person is a beautiful lady .

Watch out, it's a trap.

 

[The_J]

Watch out, it's a trap.

Biology conferences, there women do exist .
The last ones I talked to are all from outside of Europe, didn't to my targeting well in that case :/.

 

[TheMeInTeam]

I'm not super in-group or something but I am on friendly terms with quite a number of people at work.

Those relations are, within the obvious limitation of workplace acquaintances, genuine and I enjoy the interactions.

I realize that this aspect of my work is unusually fortunate. I tend to just minimize associations when they're not genuine, but I basically haven't done that where I work now. It wasn't always that way at previous positions.

 

[Narz]

I like hanging out with people in a group. One on one I don't like so much because then if someone's really boring I'm stuck with them whereas in a group I can meander off without hurting their feelings. Group dynamics & watching my fellow humans interact is interesting to me.

I'm a naturally pretty curious person & you can only learn so much in front of a computer.

I don't find socializing necessarily "fake". I suppose if you work in hospitality or something.