Ever slapped your wife?

[moscaverde]

.. Or they were taught to behave this way.

Doesn´t justify, of course.

 

[Leonel]

If my spouse ever hit me, I'd ask for a divorce and leave. Like I won't hit my wife, I full expect the same luxury for me.

 

[IglooDame]

I abstained in the poll, because I draw a difference between "violence" and "abuse" whereas the poll apparently does not. I have never slapped my wife. I have never abused my wife. I have however participated in what I'd call "consensual domestic violence". And I was spanked a couple times as a child, if anyone is collecting data.

 

[Truronian]

I was slapped as a child, never going to do it to my (hypothetical) children. It's awful.

 

[Richard Cribb]

Have you ever hit your partner or a child?*

No, of course not.

Have you yourself ever been a victim?

Yes.

What's funny is that the only people who are okay with physically disciplining their children were themselves disciplined physically as children;

Yes, it would be funny if it wasn't so sad...
"My father spanked me, and I turned out OK (umm, except that I beat defenseless little people)"

kids who weren't hit ALL grow up into adults that don't hit, whereas not all kids that were hit grow up into adults that also hit. Whether or not it is acceptable or good, it seems as though it will eventually disappear regardless, for this reason.

It will disappear.
And it is good.
It is called evolution.

I have never hit my girlfriend.

Neither have I.

I would never hit a woman.

Neither wil I.

Only a coward hits a weaker person.

My friend, I think you just won the thread.

 

[JohnRM]

Only lightly in play. Answered 'no', due to the obvious nature of the question.

 

[Firstlady]

Have you yourself ever been a victim?

Growing up I experienced a good amount of emotional abuse. I think my parents have gone overboard on the physical punishment a few times, and I think I get punished for absolutely ridiculous things quite often. It doesn't matter to me anymore. I moved out and I turned out alright and somewhere deep down, I'm pretty sure they have good intentions.

 

[Holycannoli]

"Spanked as a child" and "slapped as a child" could be two very different things you know. I support spanking, but not slapping. This modern no-spanking movement has me baffled, not to mention the fact that I'm worried about younger generations being increasingly "softer" which I think is both a cause and effect, in general. The country's becoming "sissified".

 

[MobBoss]

and fwiw, you can be a victim of abuse and be neither spanked nor slapped.

 

[Brighteye]

I find it hilarious that people who haven't been spanked use themselves as examples of people who turned out well without it.
Surely the point is that there are children who do not turn out well without it: hence it is a sad, but necessary, last resort.
I have spanked my girlfriend before, but she asked me to do it. I found it awkward and unenjoyable, but I don't think she'd agree. I used to have the habit of making a motion as if slapping someone when someone was rude or offensive (or just cheeky), without actually making contact or even coming close, or bothering with a verbal reply.
Strangely enough my friends considered it a reasonable gesture, but the same girlfriend found it in itself highly offensive.

 

[Rik Meleet]

Never slapped my wife, nor my kids. Spanking however.....

"Spanked as a child" and "slapped as a child" could be two very different things you know. I support spanking, but not slapping. This modern no-spanking movement has me baffled, not to mention the fact that I'm worried about younger generations being increasingly "softer" which I think is both a cause and effect, in general. The country's becoming "sissified".

and fwiw, you can be a victim of abuse and be neither spanked nor slapped.

For us non-native speakers who might miss the subtleties of your beautiful language: please explain the finer subtle differences between "to spank" and "to slap".
Thank you.

 

[IglooDame]

For us non-native speakers who might miss the subtleties of your beautiful language: please explain the finer subtle differences between "to spank" and "to slap".
Thank you.

My usage is that "slap" is open-handed hit across the face or perhaps generally to the body, whereas "spank" implies open-handed hit to the butt.

 

[C~G]

I have never slapped my wife. I have never abused my wife. I have however participated in what I'd call "consensual domestic violence".

Does this involve both seeking large objects to hid behind and drawing their most closest available hidden gun?

Really, do you mean like grappling person and throwing stuff around?

 

[IglooDame]

Does this involve both seeking large objects to hid behind and drawing their most closest available hidden gun?

Really, do you mean like grappling person and throwing stuff around?

No, I mean 'violence' such as flogging or paddling or spanking.

 

[Elrohir]

I've never been married, so obviously I've never hit or been hit by my wife. I've never attacked or abused any girlfriend or even just a female friend of mine, or had so done to me. (I'm excluding obviously playful type stuff - like picking someone up and chucking them in a pool. That's kind of violent, but it's not abusive, generally speaking.)

And yes, I was spanked as a child. I don't consider that to be abusive, and I don't think that kind of thing should be illegal, so I voted 'no.'

 

[Narz]

My first GF went absolutely crazy on me when I broke up with her. Physically assaulting me (raining downs blow upon me [I was seated], I had to wrap my arms around her & carry/drag her out of my room), spreading rumors (worst stuff she could think of/make up, telling people I had STD's & a small wang as well as true stuff about bad stuff that had happened to me at boarding school that I told her in confidence). That was some crazy schnit. Thru it all though I couldn't really be mad at her, she'd been thru alot herself & probably wouldn't find someone like me again so I felt really bad for her. Plus she couldn't really hurt me (physically or emotionally). Abuse is worse for women because they (most of them) can't fight back. Also, financial dependence makes it difficult to resist, even when you can't fight back. Poverty is the ultimate violence.

Oh yeah, and my dad punched me in the face once when I was 12. I was almost proud of him, in general he's kind of a coward (physically anyway).

 

[Bugfatty300]

For us non-native speakers who might miss the subtleties of your beautiful language: please explain the finer subtle differences between "to spank" and "to slap".
Thank you.

A slap is single open-hand strike to the face or buttocks.
Spank is a collective for multiple slaps to the buttocks.

Here is a little phrase to help you remember; You can slap or spank your lass. You can slap her face but you can only spank her ass.

 

[MobBoss]

My usage is that "slap" is open-handed hit across the face or perhaps generally to the body, whereas "spank" implies open-handed hit to the butt.

Precisely.

 

[emzie]

Well I consider my wife my best friend, and I can be kinda rough. But it's playful roughness. Hitting each other in the arms type thing.

There's been fights where I've had stuff thrown at me. And I did the same. But it was things like a bottle of tylenol not a brick. More a frustration thing. Ultimately, I don't think I could beat my wife: it's not a mental block type thing, I'm pretty sure she could kick the crap out of me.

 

[mrt144]

I only slapped my GF after she pulled a gun on me and i snatched it away from her. Then I said "You never we're good with a rod"