Girl Problems? Ask

[Winner]

Why do girls like so much guys who dance? I can't dance, no matter what. I tried lots of times and all I got was everyone laughing at me and saying I was being hilarious.

Amen to that

 

[Civrules]

Another majestic essay by Civrules there. Very good though.

Another question from me:

Are there any tell-tale signs that a boy should look out for in a girl to start holding her hand, kiss her etc etc, without having previously been "boyfriend and girlfriend"?

For instance, the boy is walking along with the girl he really likes; he genuinely feels that she really likes him too, and would like to hold hands.

Should the boy hold her hand at that point?

If your "game" is right she wouldn't be able to keep her hands off you.
But if not, try this: Don't make it into some romantic little thing you see in the movies. Just be playful, grab her hand, and both of you run off somewhere.
Another way to make a girl feel comfortable with that is when she touches you. Literally when she touches you (even the smallest tap) jump back six feet and say that she isn't allowed to touch you yet (but playfully). My bet is that after that she'll literally start running toward you just to touch you (because you were playful and she wants to do just the opposite). After things calm down between you two it is much easier to hold hands.
As for kissing... Yeah. Just kiss her. If she pulls away make fun of her. Say, "I should have known you have bad breath. You could have just asked for a mint... don't be shy about asking for a mint."
Or some other typical joke.

If things get strange always make a joke. Always.

 

[Xanikk999]

How do you know if a girl is interested in you?

 

[Rossiya]

How do you know if a girl is interested in you?

I can normally tell, obviously by the way she behaves with you.

Some girls are for-no-reason nasty to you and nobody else.
Some girls look at their target until the target looks at them; this may happen a few times.
Some girls are particularly flirty.
Some girls may do other things, not particularly flirty but still significant; examples include sitting on your lap, drinking from your bottle, can, straw etc
In a group, the girl may talk to you more often that others.
If a girl hits you playfully she likes you.

There are also other more psychological things that a girl might do; you can normally find these out from any search engine. Off the top of my head:

Having the inside of her wrists pointing at you.
Whilst sitting down, her feet point at you.
Her pupils of her eyes expand while looking at you.

A combination of these is optimal as only one or two may just be coincidental.

 

[Civrules]

How do you know if a girl is interested in you?

She gives you compliments
She might feel nervous around you
She teases you (girls actually test guys a lot by teasing them to see how they respond)
She says she is interested in the same things you are
She vaguely talks about what you two might do in the future or where you might go, etc.
When legs are crossed, the foot of her top leg is pointed toward you it means you have got her full attention
She keeps the convo going when it dies down (you might let the convo die on purpose to see if she picks up)
She touches you/your face/plays with your hair.
She looks into your eyes.
She mirrors your behavior and body-language.
She plays with her earrings or necklace or hair when talking to you
She touches her face while looking at you.
She laughs a lot in your presence
She tucks in her blouse....
If she asks if you are gay

ahh the list goes on and on

I don't think these signs are as important as the ones that show she is disinterested. If she does not show signs of disinterest, always assume it is on.

Disinterest:
She looks away when you are talking (breaking eye contact doesn't count. She has to do that. But her entire body shifts away)
Giving one-word answers, poor effort to talk to you
Crosses legs at ankles
Scratches her nose (when someone feels uncomfortable blood rushes to the nose causing it to itch) - I've seen it happen.
She seems unenergetic when talking to you.


This is from John Alexander's Alpha Male book. I didn't list everything because you get the point.
You have to assume attraction.

I mean, the simple fact is that if a girl makes an effort talking to you, she OBVIOUSLY doesn't dislike you. Now the ball is in your court and it's time to start with making her feel attracted to you.
Don't disprove simple things like a girl talking to you or bouncing in you as coincidental. Nothing is coincidence, and every single little shift happens for a reason. Thus, knowing that makes it easier for you to assume attraction.

My philosophy is that a girl is always attracted to you on some level (no matter how minuscule), unless she displays classic signs of disinterest. The good news is that the attraction she feels (no matter how small) can be amplified if you do things right.

 

[CaptainF]

I have no problems with girls/women whatsoever. The answer is very simple - just don't have any in your life.

Sometimes I wish I had someone to make out with in the shower, or get some hanky-panky action going on under the sheets when I wake up nice and randy in the morning... but, once I go rub one out, I realize, "Man, that would so not be worth it."

Plus, you ain't kiddin' anybody - the more they entrench themselves into your life, the more it's all about 'them', as they gradually STEAL your life, and 'being a man', it's your job to be totally content with that.

My plan is to get rich, and have a bunch of young, dumb, hot-bimbo models pleasuring me -with the FALSE hope of marriage- and then I'll just cycle them out when they get anywhere close to their mid-20s, when they start to grow a brain. I'll have various bimbos, at various locales. Several in Monte Carlo, several in Rome, Paris, etc.

Yeah, it's a long term plan, and yeah I have to make due with massively 'realistic' and expensive sex toys in the mean time, but this plan is going to work. It's already underway.

"Girl problems". Bah. That's so typical. "The dynamics of human pair bonding". I guess I'm just more concerned with me, myself and I.

You have no idea how many rich guys -doctors, etc.- I know, that married some young babe, they go to the vacation home in France, and suddenly he's 'fallen down the stairs'. Yeah... they're all about using their claws... the claw you in, seduce you into marriage... then they've "got you".

My imagination? No. I've heard it straight from the horses' mouth. Once women realize how wise I am to the 'game', we talk openly about their tactics. Pretty damn sick stuff. "Nice girls", too. Country girls, from Montana.... "with a plan". Yeah, they all do. Believe it.

Me, I've got my own ideas. My own game. We're all on the prowl for what floats our boat... good luck to all, and maybe stop and think about these 'problems' you have, a little more analytically. As in, "what's in it for ME".

Beat them at their own game - that's all I'm saying. Not that hard, if you really focus. Otherwise, you'd better believe they're going to play YOU.

Agreed.

However, Me being the agnostic that I am, I still hold out hope that there are women out there that don't want to steal your life. Sure most of them i'd rather just have sex with and send on their way, but I'm at least a little sure that there are some that are worth more than friction in bed.

 

[TheBladeRoden]

d'oh. Reading this thread has made me realize a lot of mistakes I've made with this one girl.

 

[Civrules]

d'oh. Reading this thread has made me realize a lot of mistakes I've made with this one girl.

That's good to hear. Learning this stuff made me smack my forehead because the mistakes now seem so obvious.

 

[DYNAMICS]

Here’s a straight forward question Civrules...why do over weight guys get turned down by really hot girls, if appearance isn't as important as you make it out to be?

 

[McManus]

I got married on the friday a week before the last.

My advice to you guys with girl problems: Don't stres it. Everyone goes through the same problems. If you feel like you don't have have enough guts to ask a girl out, you might not, but you might. If you find yourself asking the girl out, go with the flow. Otherwise you might be still unready, and that is an experience you don't want to rush.

 

[Shaihulud]

I hope that noone is really following these examples set as gospel. Some of the advice is good, but the first thing you have to learn is that in this game, there is no set rules, only guidelines. Its easier said thing than done, to be so nonchalant about a girl that you are in love with. Im alright with most girls that im just fond of, but i know that there is that one girl who can drive me nuts.

 

[Junglecutter]

Here's a quick question: How do you execute a date? (do not let this be like the other thread about executions)shuld you be early or be a few minutes late? something like that...

 

[Gilder]

Here’s a straight forward question Civrules...why do over weight guys get turned down by really hot girls, if appearance isn't as important as you make it out to be?

Actually, I know an overweight guy was had managed to "go the distance" with a girl. Pretty decent looking girl too. He was also able to grind against a few pretty ones (not untouchable, popular girl pretty) at the last dance.

How sober they were, I cannot say.

 

[aneeshm]

I messed up with a great girl . I don't want , and never have wanted , that girl as a partner , I just want a solid friendship which can provide intellectual companionship ( because I know that that girl is one of the few who "gets it" and can "get" ( or understand ) what I'm talking about most of the time ) .

But maybe that's too much to ask for , considering that in any such interaction , there is bound to be great tension , a tension which I'm comfortable with but with which she won't be ?

 

[Brighteye]

Here's a quick question: How do you execute a date? (do not let this be like the other thread about executions)shuld you be early or be a few minutes late? something like that...

Do what you'd normally do. Don't try to come up with a manipulative plan. I am always there at the agreed time for any meeting, which usually means arriving early, since I cannot predict accurately how delayed I'll be.

I don't care if girls call this overly keen. If a someone is late I'm not impressed, and I won't wait for more than 10 minutes (unless it's a long journey, or they've called with an excuse).

 

[Shylock]

Here's a quick question: How do you execute a date? (do not let this be like the other thread about executions)shuld you be early or be a few minutes late? something like that...

I find a bullet to the back of her head works best.


Just do something you both like, and hopefully it is cheap or better yet free.

 

[BCLG100]

sex is free and you should both like it

realistically just do whatever you feel like, ask her what she wants to do and she'll more than likely say 'dont mind' so have an idea ready!!! such as cinema/walk/etc

 

[Civrules]

Here’s a straight forward question Civrules...why do over weight guys get turned down by really hot girls, if appearance isn't as important as you make it out to be?

In reality looks aren't as important as guys think they are. If your "game" is right you can get anywhere.
If it isn't, don't think that girls are not going to prefer someone else. You should do whatever you can to help yourself get better at anything (this includes learning this stuff as well as going to the gym).
If you are going to the gym, just that fact will make you more attractive because girls love guys who are willing to help themselves.
I honestly can't see an overweight guy getting "turned down" if he does everything right. Seriously. Just the fact that you are saying "getting turned down" implies that you are asking for someone's approval (aka - asking a girl directly before you have achieved any attraction/comfort).

 

[JerichoHill]

Why do girls like so much guys who dance? I can't dance, no matter what. I tried lots of times and all I got was everyone laughing at me and saying I was being hilarious.

Dancing is a vertical expression of a horizontal desire.
--George Bernard Shaw

(In college, I learned salsa, lindy-hop (and other swing dances), step, hip-hop, and breakdance. It is a marvelous investment that not only improves 'tween the sheets activities, but also confidence in oneself.

That...and you stay thin)

 

[Civrules]

Here's a quick question: How do you execute a date? (do not let this be like the other thread about executions)shuld you be early or be a few minutes late? something like that...

If you made the date, make sure you are not late. Personally I always love being early for any social interaction.
Girls like a guy who is decisive. By me saying that I don't mean you have to be there for her every time. What I mean by that is that you should be the one to cancel dates at times, and not return some of her phone calls. I don't mean to just "not show up" on a date because that would be ridiculous and embarrassing. When she asks to do something, occasionally you have to say "I'm busy" and not go, no matter how hard it may be (it does pay off because it makes you not needy which raises your value).

Anyway, on the date itself, if she shows up late get some of her insecurities out. In the first place, she showed up (no matter if it is late or not), because she likes you. If she didn't she wouldn't have come in the first place. That said, when she does show up late say something that would make her doubt if she wants to do that in the future. Say something playful/joking but with meaning such as, "I'm probably not gonna take this any further if you keep going on with this late stuff."
(By the way, have you noticed how many times I've said to turn something like that into a joke?)
During the date, don't bombard her with questions. Just talk about exciting stuff. Don't talk too much about yourself. Let her discover your qualities on her own as opposed to you bragging.
Always be the one to end the date first. End it on a high note and when it is least expected.
On the other hand, if she says that she has to go unexpectedly, just say "ok, bye." Don't question why she has to go, and don't ask her to stay a little bit longer.