How do you deal with cheating of a loved one?

[Gelion]

I'm long passed innocence in my view of the world.
I dont have a lot of experience with women (comparatively), but from what I hear and see the picture of relations between people seems very grim.
Almost every guy wants to get laid with every girl they meet. Girls pay back in the same way. Both sexes use each other's feelings and desires to gain advantages: money, position, job.... Wifes cheating on their husbands, guys going into great length not to show to their wifes what they are actualy doing. Old guys seducing silly 18 year olds. It is a very sad picture of the world, but its the most real one I've got.
It seems that the only people that don't "live like animals" are those who cant do it due to different weaknesses (one of which of course is having morals)
So I've accepted that girls and guys cheat on each other quite regularly... and get mixed up quite a lot. How could one deal with that? Have both partners sleep around? This could work for guys, but women get more emotional when they sleep with someone. So if your girl cheats on your she's getting more involved and could possibly leave you. If both partners sleep around.... what keeps them together? Whats stopping one of them from finding a better guy/girl with the same arrangement? Won't that suck for the party that is left? I dont believe that either partner can stay faithful for long... so what does work?

I know that there are a lot of older people on this forum. I'm only over 20... I lost trust in humans in that sense... I heard and saw too much **** lately. Can someone help me understand how I am supposed to accept this reality?

 

[Speedo]

I've never had it happen, and hope I never do. If I did, I'd need a pretty damn good reason not to walk out of the relationship right there.

 

[GenMarshall]

Ohh, you just hit the nail sir.

How do I deal with a cheating of a loved one?
Well, I first confront my (hypothetical) girlfriend and ask her "what in the world is going on?". Then I would confront her lover if she does not stop.

I have a very low tolerance on being cheated on. I have been cheated on before and it was not pleasent. Most of the time the women ran off with other men! .

 

[JerichoHill]

You don't. You dump em and move on.

 

[CartesianFart]

How do i feel?Just a little rage and the casual obsession that comes along with it.

I have to say that being subjected to another chick cheating on me have made me fall into the inevitable cliche of the "wounded misogynist" which is not true in most sense.It just make me more defensible if I want to let another chick in my life.Relationship speaking.

 

[Gelion]

I have a very low tolerance on being cheated on. I have been cheated on before and it was not pleasent. Most of the time the women ran off with other men! .

So isn't that loosing? You just lost someone you cared about (you care about your girlfriends don't you?) just because the other guy got horny and she jumped him?
True you can leave the person who cheated on you, but how many times will that happen till you realise.. its just the way things are done?





Again... the two above posters.... Isn't leaving the girl loosing in that sense? Girls have sexual desires that are very very strong. They are sacrificing their best years to be with you, but their desires still stay. One little voice keeps telling them "you're fertile years are running out woman, get out and have fun!". They do. Those that don't get upset at the end of their lives and become all b***** because they feel they have lost something. So all that a smart woman will do is hide what she is doing as best as she can.. and hope for the best. Hurts, does it not?

 

[GenMarshall]

So isn't that loosing? You just lost someone you cared about (you care about your girlfriends don't you?) just because the other guy got horny and she jumped him?
True you can leave the person who cheated on you, but how many times will that happen till you realise.. its just the way things are done?

If she did, I will dump her. I cannot have my heart stepped on and stabbed on some lusty woman who has a wandering eye.

 

[Eukaryote]

It seems that the only people that don't "live like animals"...

What, you're complaing? I say it's a beautiful jungle!

 

[Gelion]

If she did, I will dump her. I cannot have my heart stepped on and stabbed on some lusty woman who has a wandering eye.

They all do it seems. Those that don't just dont know they could... thus isn't keeping them in one relationship like cheating them because they could be getting much more? So many guys around....

What, you're complaing? I say it's a beautiful jungle!

It is if you don't give a damn.... Lets say I like the physical stuff ... but this world wide o**y just feels wrong.

 

[Sidhe]

They're all my angels, of course they don't talk much any more, women don't betray me, they never get the chance nor would they, there good girls and they love me, still let's hope no one sees my basement were I keep all my lovers, let's just hope the police never dig up my garden too.


Er....


Women betray men and men women, with a little luck you'll pick one that doesn't swallow your heart whole and then crap it onto a raging bonfire of spite.

 

[Kozmos]

Since I score about 80% on sadism disorder, I'd probably hurt her. Really bad. It would not be pretty. Maybe I could go easy and just mutilate her face.

Lucky I have a limited degree of self-control and would leave and smash a wall(and my hand probably) instead.

 

[Irish Caesar]

No wonder so many people who post here don't even try to date; if life truly imitated CFC discussions, I don't think I'd bother either!

Anyway, I don't think cheating is as widespread as you seem to think.

Or maybe it is and I'm blissfully naive.

 

[Rossiya]

I would kill everybody involved.

 

[GenMarshall]

They all do it seems. Those that don't just dont know they could... thus isn't keeping them in one relationship like cheating them because they could be getting much more? So many guys around....

Be glad I'm not the King of England or I would say "OFF WITH THEIR HEADS!!" (Both the GF and the Lover she cheated on) .

 

[thetrooper]

Anyway, I don't think cheating is as widespread as you seem to think.

Or maybe it is and I'm blissfully naive.

I'm blissfully naive too...

 

[skadistic]

You don't. You dump em and move on.

So when are you writing the 'Economics of Love and Relationships" book? You could make a mint instead of giving your golden wisdom away!

 

[Swedishguy]

No-one has ever cheated on me.

 

[Kozmos]

No wonder so many people who post here don't even try to date; if life truly imitated CFC discussions, I don't think I'd bother either!

Anyway, I don't think cheating is as widespread as you seem to think.

Or maybe it is and I'm blissfully naive.

I saw my friend cheat on his super hot gf with a 14 year old brat. Granted he was drunk, but I so had to lecture him for a whole hour.

 

[GenMarshall]

Anyway, I don't think cheating is as widespread as you seem to think.

Or maybe it is and I'm blissfully naive.

Depends on the age group you are talking about. Normaly the younger girls tend to cheat more than older girls who are in their late 20s and 30 something. Dont know why, but I guess the older you get the more stable and monogamous you become.

No-one has ever cheated on me.

You're still young!

 

[Gelion]

Or maybe it is and I'm blissfully naive.

Thats exactly what annoys me....
Truth hurts...
Or maybe its just my town