Gelion
Retired Captain
Then set your own rules, and discuss them.
Open text? Isn't that a logical thing to do? Won't work well with girls I think.
Then set your own rules, and discuss them.
Open text? Isn't that a logical thing to do? Won't work well with girls I think.
How do i feel?Just a little rage and the casual obsession that comes along with it.
I have to say that being subjected to another chick cheating on me have made me fall into the inevitable cliche of the "wounded misogynist" which is not true in most sense.It just make me more defensible if I want to let another chick in my life.Relationship speaking.
Women betray men and men women, with a little luck you'll pick one that doesn't swallow your heart whole and then crap it onto a raging bonfire of spite.
No-one has ever cheated on me.
I'm convinced I'll never meet a woman that I'll end up liking enough to care if she's cheating or not. Lately the women in my life have been disposable after a couple weeks. I used to be bothered by that idea, but right now I'm loving the lifestyle. I came to the realization long ago that I'll never find that "certain someone." I think my womanizing ways have finally caught up to me and karma is kicking me in the crotch.
So that's my answer.... Start treating women like objects and let them be the ones to hurt. It worked for me, now I'm much happier.![]()
You have to lie about your cheating and you shouldn't try to find out the truth about your partner. You'll live a happier life if you don't bother with things you can't change.
Consider for a moment the wider picture - given that she cheated, and given that the circumstances of the infidelity were such that she cannot be judged to be anything but loose and unpardonable, you have to ask yourself - was she worth possessing in the first place?
And once (if) you have judged that she was not worth keeping, your attachment to her is something you then have to work to cut, to destroy, to detach yourselves.
If a girl cheats on you and everyone but you knows it.... won't that hurt? Shouldn't you start cheating on her if you have the need and want to be "even"?
Lastly you don't posess a girl. Never. IMHO the best thing you can do.. is be together. Humans are supposedly free beings, so if a girl/guy wants to have fun... let them. Right?![]()
Humans are free beings, and it is of their own free will that they have made a commitment to the mutual possession of this exclusivity. Having made that commitment, to go back on it is not freedom, but their weakness, their inability to adhere to a choice they have freely made.
again, agreed. however something you agreed to early on when you felt quite casual about a person might not still be valid 3/4 months down the line. it needs constantly re-evaluating... but who wants to talk about sexual infidelity all the time? not a good way to have a relationship. and if you dont talk about it, it could be something might happen which is now not acceptable to the other person and could damage the feelings they have for you.I think also that people lie because unrealistic expectations are set as soon as they enter a relationship. You HAVE TO be faithful, you HAVE TO behave in a certain way. Well I think you don't. It's all a matter of coming to a mutual agreement.
I like this theory. doesnt work tho. love is love after all, and as such you make excuses for the other person. unless your VERY strong minded.
thats perfect, i love it. that, once again, sums up EXACTLY how i feel. that you've let yourself down by cheating.
So you think morals are a weakness.It seems that the only people that don't "live like animals" are those who cant do it due to different weaknesses (one of which of course is having morals)
Actually men has more trouble dealing with a cheating wife than the other way around. And when men get emotional they are much worst ... like start shooting people. Men are less emotional than a woman is a myth especially when it comes to angry.So I've accepted that girls and guys cheat on each other quite regularly... and get mixed up quite a lot. How could one deal with that? Have both partners sleep around? This could work for guys, but women get more emotional when they sleep with someone.
When it comes down to it I don't trust myself which is why I avoid some places. As the old saying goes "It hard to fight temptation with your hand in the cookie jag."I know that there are a lot of older people on this forum. I'm only over 20... I lost trust in humans in that sense... I heard and saw too much **** lately. Can someone help me understand how I am supposed to accept this reality?
But you got a choice, right? Either discuss it with them and try to get things honest, or don't but then don't complain if your dates did not live up to your unexpressed assumptions...![]()
I lost faith in faith (kinda).... I used to know why this stuff was good, but not anymore. Seems like its a weaknessSo you think morals are a weakness.Here we had weakness as a great strength for it takes much discipline to say "No" to your selfish desires. In general people are normally selfish, unthankful, etc.
Ouch!!! I was expecting a magic answer to that one... are those the only two choices?
Magic answer, eh?
What I find hard to understand is that you seem to want something (honesty? fidelity? Both?), but you're not acting accordingly.
I want to know where I stand. If she wants to *** around - let her, but I don't want to miss on the fun (sounds rubbish mais c'est comme ca). If she wants to be honest - okay. But I cant accept everyone else knowing about her cheating than me.... thats about it i guess.
Sounds painfully normal!![]()
Well the first question I guess is if you're more bothered by someone cheating behind your back, than them meeting someone else? Having an open relationship means the former isn't an issue, but the latter still sucks, and there's the risk that it will be more likely to happen (although on the other hand, consider that with an open relationship people are free to have sex whilst still staying together, whilst in a closed relationship, they may dump you straight away to be with someone else, so it's not clear it is more likely).How could one deal with that? Have both partners sleep around? This could work for guys, but women get more emotional when they sleep with someone. So if your girl cheats on your she's getting more involved and could possibly leave you. If both partners sleep around.... what keeps them together? Whats stopping one of them from finding a better guy/girl with the same arrangement? Won't that suck for the party that is left? I dont believe that either partner can stay faithful for long... so what does work?
have i dated you?! serious question though... does it bother you that you'll 'never find that certain someone'? do you think its a product of your 'womanising' ways, if so how?
I'm long passed innocence in my view of the world.
I dont have a lot of experience with women (comparatively), but from what I hear and see the picture of relations between people seems very grim.
Almost every guy wants to get laid with every girl they meet. Girls pay back in the same way. Both sexes use each other's feelings and desires to gain advantages: money, position, job.... Wifes cheating on their husbands, guys going into great length not to show to their wifes what they are actualy doing. Old guys seducing silly 18 year olds. It is a very sad picture of the world, but its the most real one I've got.
It seems that the only people that don't "live like animals" are those who cant do it due to different weaknesses (one of which of course is having morals)
So I've accepted that girls and guys cheat on each other quite regularly... and get mixed up quite a lot. How could one deal with that? Have both partners sleep around? This could work for guys, but women get more emotional when they sleep with someone. So if your girl cheats on your she's getting more involved and could possibly leave you. If both partners sleep around.... what keeps them together? Whats stopping one of them from finding a better guy/girl with the same arrangement? Won't that suck for the party that is left? I dont believe that either partner can stay faithful for long... so what does work?
I know that there are a lot of older people on this forum. I'm only over 20... I lost trust in humans in that sense... I heard and saw too much **** lately. Can someone help me understand how I am supposed to accept this reality?
If a girl cheats on you and everyone but you knows it.... won't that hurt?